Married to a non- muslim

Hello Hamza,

I'm a Christian so I don't know if you'll take my advice but I'll give it anyway. I'm a conservative in thought and I do not believe in interfaith marriage but since you've already married then maybe a verse from the Bible can help you:

1 Corinthians 7:12-17 (KJV) - "But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife? But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches."

From this, I believe that you should stay with your wife because maybe she'll believe and only God knows that but if she decides to leave then let her go.

I reverted to Islam in July 2012. My husband did not revert. But I stayed with him having hope that he would be convinced to accept Islam. I never asked him to revert. He never prevented me from practicing my religion and he never prevented me from teaching Islam to our children. He just began reading the Quran 2 weeks ago! He is asking many questions and is gaining more understanding of Islam. Even his mother has started reading the Quran and asking about Islam. I have still never asked him to revert. Yet, in sha Allah, they will both come to Islam. What is your belief? Do you think your wife may change from seeing the change in your life?

my brother only allah guides someone to the true way,dont say your wife can never accept to convert to islam,let me give u an example of myself,i became muslim on 25 november 2012.who made me change?i promised my self never ever ever change my church worse still my religion.no 1 asked me to repent,but i was changed and convinced by the life style of one muslim brother,how he submitted himself to allah,how he loved his religion,thats what made me change.he was very suprized when i told him i want to embrace islam,because he was not my friend,we just knew eachother as classmates,so that realy shocked him.he asked me many times why i wanted to embrace islam,but i just told him that i have wasted a lot of time as a christian,now i wanted to follow the true way.am just 20 years,a military student studing in a foreign country.my country is a christian nation,they know very little about islam,they have even threatened to fire me because of my new religion,my family cant even accept that fact because they think am just joking,so am yet to meet them inshaa allah in july when i finish my course,i dont know what will happen to me,but i know allah knows whats best for me.so dont worry,just pray for your wife,inshaa allah ,she will be guided to the truth.me i pray for my whole nation,i pray that 1 day it will be declared a muslim nation,inshaa allah.salam

Walikum Assalam Brother,

Do not leave her, try to convince her to embrace Islam by your good actions and not by your words only.

And she is totally lawful for you, as the Holy Qur'an says,

"This day [all] good foods have been made lawful, and the food of those who were given the Scripture is lawful for you and your food is lawful for them. And [lawful in marriage are] chaste women from among the believers and chaste women from among those who were given the Scripture before you, when you have given them their due compensation, desiring chastity, not unlawful sexual intercourse or taking [secret] lovers. And whoever denies the faith - his work has become worthless, and he, in the Hereafter, will be among the losers." (Holy Quran, 5:5)

Muslim men are permitted to marry women from the "People of the Book."

When you marry her you know what she does, you know her drinking habbits and chatting on facebook. And so it will not be fair with her if you just leave her now. Because if you leave her, you will give her a very bad impression of The Religion of Islam, and she might think that because of Islam her husband left her and she will think that it would be better if Allah (S.W.T) haven't gave you heedayah.

Brother show her the path of Jannah and Mercy by your actions. I suppose she is a good girl and she should be treated the same way. :-)

@khadijah is right. Allah guides whom He pleases. So don't give up on your wife so easily. Have patience and give dawah through your actions.

We must not make haram for ourselves what Allah has made halal for us. Muslim men are allowed to marry believing christian and Jewish women. Having said that, a wife with bad habits that can impact on the children of the marriage is a liability and since to divorce or keep her is a matter of choice, I think the best judgement rests with the husband. If she is good and religious and you have no fear that she would make your children leave the fold of Islam then continue giving her dawa through your actions and speeches and pray for her to see the light of Islam.

@halibra do u find today a believing Christian and Jews are they really believers of book . The book that has changed and not in the original Condition any more .