please can you read the whole story before answering, zazak'allah hair i'll start from the beginning. my friend is at the same age as me and his aunt is seperated but still with her husband

what has happened is that my friend went to his aunts house once to mind her kids while she we t out and decided to go through her wardrobes and found condoms. he took one. and the next day went round her house to confess to her what he did. he asked her some personal questions about whether she still has sex with her husband in which she didnt reply. she then stood up walked to the kitchen and then turned back; my friend then got close upto her and grabbed her ass. he said that he started asking for her forgiveness straight away and that she was really shocked and didnt know what to say. she said that she wont tell his parents what he did if it doesnt happen again. thats as far as it went

my friend only told me because he trusts me very much and he couldnt keep it in and was about to tell his parents about it. he also told me that these past few months, he masterbates quite alot (round about 3-4 times a day) and he tries to resist the temptation but he doesnt know how too. hes asked me for advice but i dont know what too say to him

my question is, what sins has he committed? how grave of a sin is it that hes done? what shall he do after? will allah ever forgive him?

asked 1011 saf's gravatar image

THIS IS NOT COMPLETE STORY.WHATEVER. ALLAH WILL FORGIVE ALL THE SINS ACCEPT SHIRK BUT THERE SHOULD BE A WILL AND SOME PRACTICAL EFFORTS TO AVOID NEXT TIME. TRY TO ENGAGE IN SOME POSITIVE ACTIVITIES LIKE Pray Salah five times, DO SOME JOB and get married so avoid the aftermath problems.

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answered 1075 rehanalam's gravatar image

thank you for answering. can you please clarify what is shirk?

(Jan 09 '13 at 02:44) saf saf's gravatar image

Disbelievers are of two types one who Associating partners with Allah. Believe that there are others god with Allah/Disbelieve in Oneness of God called Shirk / and other Does not believe in Allah and say god doesn't exists(Kufur)

(Jan 09 '13 at 02:54) rehanalam rehanalam's gravatar image

@saf Shirk means to worship anything other than Allah S.W.T

(Jan 15 '13 at 05:37) TeenMuslim ♦ TeenMuslim's gravatar image

BISIMILLAH_RAHUMAN RWAHIM

On the this case, what he did is wrong and he have to ask forgiveness,to his aunt and ALLah,

for Allah is most merciful most forgiving.

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answered 10 makar's gravatar image

Hello/Assalam Alaikum. It is obvious that your friend has committed a big sin. But like you said, he asked for an apology and said he would never do it again. Allah might forgave your friend's sins. My mother told me that if a man committed a sin, then swore not to do it again, The Merciful Allah will forgive him.

If we talk about masturbating, he is committing a sin. Masturbation is restricted in Islam, that's why "marriage" was encouraged. I admit, I used to masturbate too, until I found out it was a sin. The only way to stop doing that, is to believe in your own willpower, and stop doing that.

I just hope I was helpful, since I just registered at this website.

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answered 2826 Azamjon%20Musashaykhov's gravatar image

Assalam o Aleikum.. Allah is the most Merciful and Forgiving. He grants every sin except shirk but the condition is tht a person MUST ASK FOR FORGIVENESS WITH TRUE HEART AND HE MUST NOT COMMIT THAT SIN AGAIN. Your friend should keep in mind tht masturbating is a sin too. Apart from this, it doest not cause any harm to anyone in fact it just gives a temporary pleasure and then it harms ones own health.

Regards.

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answered 1033 azeem's gravatar image

Masturbating is really just making love on your own with yourself, so it is a little strange that it is a sin to do it. Is love so bad that it have to be a sin to do it? It can be seen also as practice...

(Jan 18 '13 at 22:26) Only Only's gravatar image

Right im gonna get straight to the point what your friend did was wrong but he should learn to keep himself under control.second theres a trick to getting out of masturbation, just either talk to him about it and slowly he will stop or get him to basicallly talk to himself and debate with himself wheather he should do or not because its his body that has the urge but his mind knows its wrong, so to sum it up get him to really think about it, mind over body.-aqibA

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