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Does anyone have any idea how muslims treat kafirs? I mean should we respect kafirs or should we hate them? Or would the most muslim way be to just be normal like all others but not getting good friends with them.. I would really like if you have some hadiths and surrahs about this...Thank you

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edited Apr 24 '12 at 01:20 NesreenA ♦ 219722 NesreenA's gravatar image

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that depends on who they are if you mean like an atheist then they dont belive in God and have no values of religion to how they would treat us and they may choose to respect us or to call us terrorist as many of them do if you are speaking about people of the book i heard they belive Jesus said to love the humilliated the poor the sinners and the belivers and i found evidence about how muslims should treat the people of the book: You will surely find the most intense of the people in animosity toward the believers [to be] the Jews and those who associate others with Allah; and you will find the nearest of them in affection to the believers those who say, "We are Christians." That is because among them are priests and monks and because they are not arrogant.5:82

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edited Jun 12 '12 at 19:34 Al Ummat ♦ 131878 Al%20Ummat's gravatar image

Salam, please we do not have to treat the kafirs badly because they treat us badly. respect and kindness to them to them is a very good way of inviting them to islam. the reward of a muslim is more in the hereafter than in this world, so please we just have to endure this life and know that it will soon come to an end. If someone is killed because he is a muslim, he has died as a matyr. why don't we look at it in this direction, the kafirs are doing a favour to any muslim that they killed because of his faith. our generation will not be the first set of muslims that are suffering. May Allah SWT put an end to the war on muslims around the world

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I am not a Muslim, I am Christian. I started learning about Islam recently after becoming friends with a few Muslims from Asia. Their behavior and true love for Allah is what brought me to study Islam. Let me just say a few things. First, please do not let the behavior of the Americans be a guideline for how non-believers treat Muslims. I am American and most Americans do not agree with the actions of the American government. However America is not a theocracy so many Americans are taught to honor their country more than God so they stand behind the decisions of the government even when they do not agree. This is unfortunate but true. Most Americans do not treat Muslims badly. Most Americans respect each others beliefs. Second, again I am new to Islam, but I believe the Qur'an says "Allah does not forbid you from those who do not fight you because of religion and do not expel you from your homes - from being righteous toward them and acting justly toward them. Indeed, Allah loves those who act justly." 60:8 Third, I have said that, with over 2 billion people claiming to be Christian, Christianity is the largest religion in the world BUT with about 1.5 billion Muslims, Islam is the largest FAITH in the world. So many Christians call themselves Christians because they believe in Jesus Christ. They do not live a life for God. We have so much to learn from Muslims in that respect. By watching you, whether I choose to convert to Islam or not, I will know God better and put him first in my life, which will make me a better person. Your behavior is setting an example for the non-believers. You do not have to befriend non-believers, but by showing them respect even when they show you none you prove that God's people are above the non-believers.

answered 96511 cocolia42's gravatar image

Salam MashAllah, Inshallah May Allah help you in your next step,and no Muslim is a Muslim if he does not believe in Jesus Christ A.S (Alyhi-As-Salam)

(Jun 14 '12 at 10:32) TeenMuslim ♦ TeenMuslim's gravatar image

Salam everyone,

treat the kafirs kindly and religously,so they are attracted to our religion

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To Abjad,

Well said, what a wonderful question, let them answer this question knowing the millions that have died in Iraq alone by the invasion, let them answer the torture in the well known prisons specially the prison that still open, let them answer the burning of the Qur'an in the USA and now Afghanistan, let them answer the child that was raped by the American soldiers and left her for dead after killing all her family in Iraq, let them answer how they now want to invade Iran, let them answer and answer to all these wars and invasion done by the Kufars in Muslim lands, let us hear your answer to the wonderful question that is asked,

How do Kafir treat Muslims then?

answered 4443 caabi's gravatar image

Well, I am in a wrong age group here. If you say that most of you are below 30, then I can be a father to most of you, thus qualifying me to offer (not necessarily acceptable) some advice. Read the story of Sheik Yusuf Estes, a former Christian Music Minister, on what sparked him to study Islam revert together with his whole family. Go to the and seek out his story and you will hear that he was firstly impressed with the behavior of a muslim visitor to his home, whom he was bent earlier to convert to Christianity. They are many others like him. Visit also the GuideUs TV broadcast from Chicago hosted by Eddie. Perhaps, after listening to all these, you will be more mellowed in your encounters with the non-muslims even if they throw nasty remarks at you. They will realize that they actually focus on muslims instead of Islam. Every religion has its bad hats or black sheep and Christians, no less. There used to be numerous news of the IRAs in the Press but there were never termed as Catholic terrorists, why a different dub on muslims, who hijack Islam for whatever reasons then? I suggest you listen to Sheik Yusuf if you haven't.......

answered 3014 nashiko's gravatar image

haha more like my grandpa im 15... but considering your older you must have very much knowledge

(Mar 07 '12 at 00:38) NesreenA ♦ NesreenA's gravatar image

Asalaam aleykum,

even though few answers Yet i have to ask

How do Kafir treat Muslims then?

answered 70537 abjad's gravatar image

As I said earlier in other columns, most of those involved here are obviously from homogeneous societies or societies with a large majority of one religion. But for many others, they come from mutli-racial societies of many different religious beliefs. I come from such a society where a family has brothers and sisters, aunties and uncles embracing different religions. Will you who are fond of quoting verses of the Quran and Hadiths (most out of proper contacts)still maintain your opinions if you were in my shoes? If you make enemies or just being hostile in your behavior and reactions to even your own blood (so to speak), how do you think you can ever spread the Words of Allah? Who would listen to you who hate them? Even your relatives would "abandon" you, let alone others as a result of your "unfriendly" approaches based not on your religious teachings but your misunderstanding of them..............

answered 3014 nashiko's gravatar image

accually the majority of us are from the west but we are a first or second generation and i also belive most of us are young as in younger thn 30

(Mar 06 '12 at 21:33) NesreenA ♦ NesreenA's gravatar image

Brother/Sister caabi:

I will not get into why Muslim women cannot marry Christian or Jewish men here, because it will take us off on a long tangent. It should suffice though for me to say that the reason for this prohibition is not because we are supposed to hate Christians/Jews. If the reason Muslim women cannot marry Christian/Jewish men is due to the necessity of us hating them, then the same logic should apply to a Muslim man and he should not be allowed to marry a Christian/Jewish woman. So the reason that Muslim women cannot marry Christian or Jewish men is some other reason, not because we are supposed to hate Christians/Jews.

My point was not really addressed. How can Allah say: "You can marry a Christian woman, you can kiss her, you can laugh with her, you can share the marriage bed with her, you can share the bathtub with her, you can have children with her, you should show love and affection to her... BUT you cannot be friends with her!" Would this make sense? No.

To address your points, in short-- I am not denying any of the Qur'anic verses that refer to enmity between the believers and the kuffar. But we should keep the context in mind. The context of these passages are kuffar who received direct da'wah from the greatest creation of Allah, the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh). Firstly, these non-believers rejected Islam even after it was presented in the most perfect and crystal-clear fashion to them by the Prophet of Islam. Secondly, not only did they reject the Guidance, but they were belligerent towards the Muslims and they tried to physically exterminate them. We cannot be friends with such kuffar.

The context of the average man on a train in Chicago, however, is quite different. He is not physically attacking Muslims nor does he necessarily support others who do. Secondly, he has probably not even been given da'wah, let alone the perfect and most beautiful da'wah that the Prophet offered.

It would be arrogant of me to assume a non-Muslim should become a Muslim after I have given him 2 minutes of da'wah or typed out two paragraphs for him on the Internet. That does not compare in any way with the perfect and crystal-clear da'wah that the Prophet was able to offer to the kuffar of his time.

So rather than hate, we should feel sympathy and concern for those non-Muslims who are not aggressive and belligerent towards us, and we should try to give them the best da'wah that we possibly can.

This is my understanding and view, brother/sister. I have found that the majority of ulema that I follow and listen to express similar views; I have not heard any of them advocating that we should hate (peaceful) non-Muslims. W'Allahu a'lim.

Jazaak-Allah for your warm message; may Allah bless you likewise.

answered 12613 AnwarX's gravatar image

Salam, I understand where your coming from and I understand your advice and may Allah reward you Isha'Allah..and also I just want to say too that the reason why we are allow to marry jew or christian woman and their men are not allow to marry a Muslim woman is to show that Islam is dominant over all other religions meaning Allah Has giving us upper hand and gave us authority over their woman while they are not allow to come near our woman...

Jazzakallahu kheyr and may Allah bless you too.

(Mar 05 '12 at 11:54) caabi ♦ caabi's gravatar image

Anwar, it is true Muslim men can marry a jew or christian virgin woman, but can a Muslim woman marry a jew or christian man...? and why do the none jews and christian have to pay the Jizziyah taxing...? and why are we not allowed to take the Jizziyah from those who worship fire and cows and sun and the planets and that they must become Muslim.....?

Secondly look what Allah says,[O ye who believe! Take not my enemies and yours as friends (or protectors),- offering them (your) love, even though they have rejected the Truth that has come to you] Allah is telling us He Has an enemies when He says, [take not my enemies] and how is it that they become the enemies of Allah well Allah tells us and says, [they have rejected the Truth that has come to you] meaning the only reason why they have become the enemies of Allah is that they rejected the call of Allah and that is to believe in Him and His messenger and to become Muslims, and this is the reason why Allah says,

[There is for you an excellent example (to follow) in Abraham and those with him, when they said to their people: "We are clear of you and of whatever ye worship besides Allah. we have rejected you, and there has arisen, between us and you, enmity and hatred for ever,- unless ye believe in Allah and Him alone": But not when Abraham said to his father: "I will pray for forgiveness for thee, though I have no power (to get) aught on thy behalf from Allah." (They prayed): "Our Lord! in Thee do we trust, and to Thee do we turn in repentance: to Thee is (our) Final Goal] This is the reason why Allah starts in this verse, [There is for you an excellent example (to follow) in Abraham and those with him] and the example that Allah wants us to follow is when Allah says do not take may enemies and your enemies as friends and offering them love is how Abrahim dealt with those who rejected the call and how Abrahim acted upon the verse above when Allah says, [O ye who believe! Take not my enemies and yours as friends (or protectors),- offering them (your) love] that is why when they rejected the call to Allah Abrahim says, [we have rejected you, and there has arisen, between us and you, enmity and hatred for ever] so here the only reason why Abrahim says we are enemies of each other and that we hate you to his father and to his people is only because they rejected Allah so how can Abrahim the friend of Allah become the friend of those who hate Allah and His religion that why Abrahim says here, [unless ye believe in Allah and Him alone] meaning that we will take as friends and allies and we will love you and support but the condition is that you believe Allah alone.

So my brother Anwar, I can not lie about Allah and what He Has commanded us I can not compromise but one thing I agree is and I have said it earlier is that you must be in good of character and manors for the sake of spreading the religion but if we compromise our religion for the sake of someone else then Allah becomes angry and I would rather have the anger of a human been then Allah, so my advice is that Allah says, [Not upon you (Muhammad ) is their guidance] [2 v272] this means Allah guides people to His religion but others can not guide others to His religion just like Allah says, [Whomsoever Allah sends astray, none can guide him] [7 v186] but our job is to teach His religion without compromising as it was revealed to others with sincerity and for His sake not for the sake of others.

My brother Anwar, I do not meant to be hush as your a Muslim and as your my brother in Islam and as I am your friend and support I understand your advice and I ask Allah to reward you for your good intentions and I wish we had more like you who speak out and say what they think is right as a Muslim is an adviser to one another and please do not hesitate to correct me if am wrong in what I have writing here and I ask Allah to forgive me if I have said and writing what displeases Him.

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