Assalaaa Mu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakaaatahuuuuu. Brothers and Sisters
THIS WILL BE A LONG STORY . its about my life and any advice will be appreciated.
I lived in UK. I was taken abroad when I was 15. I was told it was going to be a holiday but when I got there I was told I have to get married in order to go back UK. So at the age of 15 my mind was in all directions. i was told if i got married i will be going back with my mum and siblings. i agreed to get married. then i was told i wont be going back with my family back to UK and i will have to live with my husband for the rest of my life. for the first few months it was hell i cried every night .my husband was okay he didn't treat me bad or horrible. i then gave up and thought i'm destined to live like this. i wasn't allowed to go out or go to study. a few months went by and i couldn't take it anymore i wanted to go back. my father said if i want to go back i will have to get pregnant. and so i did but i wasn't allowed to go back just yet. i stayed abroad till i was 7 months pregnant and my mum payed for my ticket back to UK. my dad made life hell i wasn't allowed to watch TV or go out or make friends. i would spend hours and hours in my room doing nothing. if i wanted to eat something i would have to pay for everything i touch. so life was just like that i got the hang of it and never used to complain. i gave birth a day before eid in November 2009. life just got worse. if my baby cried he would curse me all night. if my mum wanted to help me he wouldn't speak to her and he would say he will divorce her if she helped me. my father kicked me out with my three month old baby because he wanted all the benefits i got for me and my daughter to be in his hand. because i refused he didn't want me in the house. i stayed with my aunt for a few days and i applied for homeless and i was offered a flat really far from where i live. my mum called me and begged me to refuse the offer and come back home. so for my mums sake i went back to live in hell. my father somehow changed my husband. my husband would demand money from me and if i don't send him he would verbally abuse me. if i had my phone on silent and i missed a call from him he would call me a slag and what not. i kept everything in my heart and didn't complain to anyone. in 2010 my inlaws wanted to see their granddaughter so i saved up every penny i can and went abroad because they refused to pay for our tickets. life was even tougher now that i had a baby they did nit support me even with nappies or milk. if i asked them i need milk or i need something for the baby they would say speak to your mum and let her send you money. i stayed there for 3 months thinking they would change but it was too much i didn't want to put my baby through all that. i came back to uk and same as usual nothing new problems where same with my father. i somehow managed to keep it all in my heart. in 2011 things where okay with my husband he did still verbally abused me but i thought he is my husband i cant disobey him and his word is what goes. i used to send him money all the time because he always said he wants to start a business so i always helped him but he never seemed to work. so around September time in 2011 i packed my suitcase and saved money for the tickets to go back abroad so they can see their granddaughter. my husband called me and told me he needs money and i didn't have any to spare as i was getting ready to go and see them . when i told him i don't have any he said fine i don't want u don't come abroad. and that was the last straw for me. i unpacked my suitcase and spoke to my mum about getting a divorce. i spoke to the whole family about a divorce and my husbands family said give us our money back and give us our granddaughter. i saved and i borrowed money and spoke again and told them i have the money but then they said speak to your father even though he already new but he had previously told them that he wont help me with the divorce and he will shut me up. i kept bringing up the subject about my divorce but each time i spoke they will shut me up and say wait . its been about a year or so and i'm still waiting. i spoke to my father about 2 weeks ago and i told him if he doesn't help me i will have to do it my self at a Islamic center and he started threatening me with black magic and he will pay men to rape me and he would kill me and all sorts of threats. i forgot to mention my husband also used to threaten me with black magic and since his daughter was born he has not supported me or her with a penny. also i didn't not get mahr or dowry or any money whatsoever . i was given a necklace and 3 bangles but my father took the bangles and sold them and took the money for himself.
i was told i could go to an Islamic center and get a divorce letter .