My friend is 14 years old. He is a muslim and has commited a sin which is looking at girls or women that are showing their bodies. He has did Tawba but after he has did the samething looking at them. How does he stop?

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edited Apr 26 '12 at 21:36 NesreenA ♦ 199722 NesreenA's gravatar image

The prophet advised men who had a lot of sexual desire to fast because it completly deminishes this desire after a couple of days it will wear off and eventually he will get to the age in wich he can marry hes is young and just went through puberty and isnt used to these new emotions dont judge him too hard tell your friend to fast

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answered 199722 NesreenA's gravatar image

Does my friend have to wait till Ramadan to fast? Because at this age he needs nutrients and he told me that he made the Mani come out. What does he do?

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no you may fast at any time fasting dosent deprive you of nutrients allah made our body strong enough to handle it at any time of the year and for a continous long period of time when you excrete sperm you have to take a cold shower and do ghusl, ghusl is done by fist cleaning you private parts very well then you do normal wudu the you wash your whole entire right side then you completly wash your left side then do anything left over for example face armpits bellybutton ears etc. then pour water on your hair and make sure the water covers the whole head

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answered 199722 NesreenA's gravatar image

Because once the Mani comes out he loses nutrients from his body, so in order to get that nurtrients back he needs to eat. So wont that make it harder for him if he has to fast? Isn't there another option?

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There is no other way to relive the sexual desire but there is a way to prevent you from getting it try to unplug your computer im sure thats where the source is if he really wants to stop this then he will get rid of the source and its better to be hungry than filled with sexual desire you wont go unconsious only hungry even the wounded soilders werent allowed to masturbate they were ordered to use a cloth to preform ghusl and a cold shower even though its hard remember your doing this for your creator. May allah guide you to the right path

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answered 199722 NesreenA's gravatar image

He told me he still watching the women who show their bodies but how does he stop it? He told me he has did Tawba before but he is still doing it if he stops now, do all the sins go away?

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answered 110311 omar's gravatar image

only if he truly stops and is truly sorry and does true istighfar and dosent do it again

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answered 199722 NesreenA's gravatar image

If this has to do with pornography on the computer, he should take practical steps right away to address the problem. He should think about cutting off the Internet (he can use the Internet at the nearest public library for free), or perhaps moving the computer into the family living room, so he is not alone with it.

A 14-year old male left alone with unlimited Internet access is going to be tempted to look at pornographic sites. He should try to avoid getting into this situation in the first place. Avoid being alone with a computer with Internet access. Better to underestimate your spiritual strength and take practical precautions to avoid sinful activities, rather than to overestimate your spirituality and end up falling flat on your face.

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answered 12613 AnwarX's gravatar image

that is the same resolution i gave him

(Mar 03 '12 at 02:43) NesreenA ♦ NesreenA's gravatar image

Auzubillahiminasyaitanirajim..for me, repentance means a return to God the Forgiving and Merciful and surrender to Him with a repentant heart in earnest. That is regret, sadness, sorrow and a sense of the sins should not be committed until cry with tears. Broken hearts are filled with remembrance of sins when done. Hope God pleading note. Hoping God might to hear. Request that God will pardon Forgiving. Ask that God looks and give it with love. Broken heart that makes the members of the birth (eyes, ears, head, feet, hands, genitals) subject to and comply with the laws that God has set and promised not to repeat such acts of treason. Repentance is not enough just to express forgiveness in the mouth, without feeling guilty and innocent heart. Because not as simple as that God accepts the repentance of His servants before the conditions were set by Him.. Waallahutaalaalam..

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