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I LOVE THIS MAN AND HE WANTS ME AS I WANT HIM, THERE HAS NEVER BEEN ANY CONTACT IN ANYWAY BETWEEN US. WE BOTH HAVE JUST HEARD ABOUT EACH OTHER BECAUSE WE ARE CLOSE FAMILY FRIENDS AND WE SEE EACH OTHER SOMETIMES... THE PROBLEM IS THAT AFTER THE I TOLD MY MUM ABOUT HIM, SHE REJECTED AND EXPECTED BETTER! SHE EXPECTED MORE THAN NORMAL AS TO THIS MAN HE IS JUST LIKE ANY MUSLIM THAT PRAYS AND DOES WHAT IS MEANT TO BE DONE. THE MANS FAMILY IS WAITING FOR ME TO FINISH MY HIGH SCHOOL BUT I KNOW THAT IT'S NOT GOING TO BE EASY FOR MY FAMILY TO ACCEPT HIM. I AM MADLY IN LOVE WITH HIM BUT I DON'T WANT TO MAKE A MOVE SO I DON'T LOSE MY FAMILY. I CAN'T IMAGINE MY LIFE WITH SOMEONE ELSE BUT NOT HIM, AND HE IS PREPARING HIMSELF FOR OUR FUTURE. PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO

asked 1011 sweetso0ola's gravatar image

My Suggestions :

Parents decisions always contain a hidden benefit for you, but exception is also possible. I suggest you to do istikhara 3 times. and find the solution.

Remember Parents Right On You, love before marriage usually does not last for long, in most of the cases. Emotional decisions are always prohibited. Follow what our Islam is saying.

Islam = better way of living life. search.

avoid saitan whispering in ur mind, during decision making.

Allow your parents to make a decision, and at the same time, pray 2 nawafil on daily basis so that the right decision will be made for you by your parents . And i'm sure you're parents loves you.

Sis take care. May Allah Help You and Me Also, pray for me all of u.

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answered 3014 Suhaib's gravatar image

What brother Suhaib said is true. But there are things you can do to lighten it up to your mother. In all situations be polite and respectful of course.

  1. Never despair from making dua to Allah. Ask him to place sikinah on her heart to ease the decision.
  2. Do things that will show that you are very mature and can be independent. This will show your mother that you may truly be sincere, and will give your opinion weight in her eyes.
  3. Also gain a close relationship with your mother, so that you can engage in heart-to-heart conversations that will allow your mother to really feel your sincerity, and it may help you to understand why she may not be okay with the marriage.

I hope these steps will help you sister, and I wish us all the best in perusing future wives and husbands. -Ameen.

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answered 11115 Khal_7's gravatar image

THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR ADVICES, I WILL PRAY ISTIKHARA INSHALLA AND I WILL NEVER GIVE UP OF MAKING DUAA. THE PROBLEM IS MY MUM MORE THAN ANYONE IN MY FAMILY AND I HOPE THAT I CAN PERSUADE HER TO THIS MARRIAGE.

DON'T FORGET ME FROM YOUR DUAAS I NEED YOUR DUAA

THANK YOU AGAIN :)

(Feb 27 '13 at 03:59) sweetso0ola sweetso0ola's gravatar image

Make dua and do istikhara for that http://alrazaak.com/threads/109-Istikhara-Ki-Dua-Urdu

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