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I am 24 years old and going through severe depression its like the whole world is falling apart and i am feeling so lonely and desperate for true love. I met a girl 2 years ago and at the first glance itself i asked allah that please make her my future wife. I talked to her, proposed to her she accepted in a week. We worked in the same office for 6 months and later she moved to another company and i went some little far place from my town. we were so much into love which led us to commit zina ( I regret for it now - may allah forgives me). we went out to different places having great time ,most of the time to beach talking about how we will be getting married and what are the names we give to our children and so many other things which usually a married couple talks. Twice a month i come to my home town and she never let me go back and says she misses me and always wanted to be with me. I believed her more than anything in this world i loved her so much and never thought of getting apart from her. we often had little fights but we will be back together in minutes usually i get back to her. 5 months ago we had a same kind of fight and that day night i got a message from her saying lets break up. first i thought it was some joke and never took it seriously. 10 days passed and i was really afraid and i called her back but she refused to talk to me. Later she replied me back with the message that she is in love with her manager and they are going to get married soon. I am completely shattered and since then i never had a good sleep i lost my weight my inner peace my friends and everything around me. I never thought she would dump me after we had physical relationship. i wanted to marry her. still lover her. I even foolishly went to see that manager- it made the situation even worse. He casually replied that whatever i might have done to her it doesnt matter and he doesnt see her past. But i does matter to me, i lost my everything to her. All i wanted is true love. i dont know what to do.. I am really afraid to have another girl in my life because i already had a physical relationship with another girl and i am kind of feeling guilty. someone please help me with this |
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Assalamu 'alaykum 'alaykum wa ra'hmatullahi wa barakatuhu wa magfiratuhu . May Allah forgive your sins . Brother , we can't get everything we want in life . You should be happy with whatever you have . Do you want to hear what i am going through ? I have a tooth problem , i can't eat properly , i had a breakup , i can't sleep in peace , i sometimes am so depressed that i even tried to suicide . My love will never be mine the way i want . But i had to move on . There are bigger things in life than love for women . You should repent to Allah sincierly for your mistakes . Zina is a punishable act . I think you should learn the attributes of Allah . Loving him should be your only goal . Allah has so many good attributes for which anyone can fall in love with him . Also , you should try to find a religious muslim woman of your choice , so that she will help you forget your past . A pious woman will most likely never cheat on you . Stop thinking about the woman you lost . Remember , she has betrayed you . |
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Brother ferouze , don't give up . I have a question for you , do you have any relation with a girl now ? |
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Then you should try to make relationship with a muslim woman of your choice and marry her . And , another suggestion , think about akhira deeply , this will make akhira more valuable to you and it will gradually help you in stopping thoughts about duniya , including the woman who has betrayed you . Nowadays thinking about akhira has influenced me so much that i don't care for this world anymore , i don't shower regularly , i don't eat my meals at the right time , and sometimes i can't sleep in fear of hell . Try this . I think it will help you to forget about her . |
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brother i understand ur feeling cos this is d samething dat am going through right as am writting my case was her parent forced her to marry anoda person all sort of depression am going thru bt i bliv & what i want u to bliv is that Allah knows what is the best for us, we might love what is bad for our future & we might hate what is good for us said the prophet muhammad (saw) it hurt i know bt it is a text to our faith to see if we can thank Allah in tears in pain & in sorrows what I always said oh u put to me d love of this girl & now my heart is in pieces Allah I know u love me morethan I love my self pls accept this as an act of ibadat & reward me. Anytime u think of her say innalilahi wa'ina ilaihim ragiun & Allah will rewar u for saying this so u see Allah has made a simple away to earn on reward this is only if u bliv as muslim. Man if I should tell u my love history with this girl u will know am going through alot o depression bt ours we never thought of romance talkless of sex cos is against our religion & culture. |
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Please try and look for a nice and islamic woman ok. |
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