I am 24 years old and going through severe depression its like the whole world is falling apart and i am feeling so lonely and desperate for true love. I met a girl 2 years ago and at the first glance itself i asked allah that please make her my future wife. I talked to her, proposed to her she accepted in a week. We worked in the same office for 6 months and later she moved to another company and i went some little far place from my town. we were so much into love which led us to commit zina ( I regret for it now - may allah forgives me). we went out to different places having great time ,most of the time to beach talking about how we will be getting married and what are the names we give to our children and so many other things which usually a married couple talks. Twice a month i come to my home town and she never let me go back and says she misses me and always wanted to be with me. I believed her more than anything in this world i loved her so much and never thought of getting apart from her. we often had little fights but we will be back together in minutes usually i get back to her. 5 months ago we had a same kind of fight and that day night i got a message from her saying lets break up. first i thought it was some joke and never took it seriously. 10 days passed and i was really afraid and i called her back but she refused to talk to me. Later she replied me back with the message that she is in love with her manager and they are going to get married soon. I am completely shattered and since then i never had a good sleep i lost my weight my inner peace my friends and everything around me. I never thought she would dump me after we had physical relationship. i wanted to marry her. still lover her. I even foolishly went to see that manager- it made the situation even worse. He casually replied that whatever i might have done to her it doesnt matter and he doesnt see her past. But i does matter to me, i lost my everything to her. All i wanted is true love. i dont know what to do.. I am really afraid to have another girl in my life because i already had a physical relationship with another girl and i am kind of feeling guilty. someone please help me with this

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Thank you very much Priest Ajigar for i never thought any thing could make my husband come back to me as his wife again after he broke up with me and left to settle down with another woman who never Knew how we both suffered and share feelings together in USA but thank God today i was lucky to see this great spell caster on a site after seeing a lots of testimony and good work he have done in the lives of people helping them to get their ex,husbands and wife renewing their relationship i was convinced and i contacted him and just in 3 days after the spell was casted my beloved husband came looking for me and right now we are together again and he is taking care of me and the little kids as his responsibilities and family.I advice today if you are looking for a real and powerful spell caster just know that Priest Ajigar is a very powerful and a genuine spell caster and he don't do dark or black magic here is his email(priestajigarspells@live.com)

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Thank you very much Priest Ajigar for i never thought any thing could make my husband come back to me as his wife again after he broke up with me and left to settle down with another woman who never Knew how we both suffered and share feelings together in USA but thank God today i was lucky to see this great spell caster on a site after seeing a lots of testimony and good work he have done in the lives of people helping them to get their ex,husbands and wife renewing their relationship i was convinced and i contacted him and just in 3 days after the spell was casted my beloved husband came looking for me and right now we are together again and he is taking care of me and the little kids as his responsibilities and family.I advice today if you are looking for a real and powerful spell caster just know that Priest Ajigar is a very powerful and a genuine spell caster and he don't do dark or black magic here is his email(priestajigarspells@live.com)

Beatrix Harvey

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Hello people my name is Lisa dawn i am using this post to say a big thank you to Lord Mazi the great for what he has done for me i never thought i could spend xmas and new year with my man after he has abandoned my and my kids for almost 2 yrs. i have tried all means to get my man back but all proved abortive until Lord Mazi can into the question i contact him on the 29th of dec 2013 and behold by on the 31st of dec 2013 he cam and said he was sorry for a very thing and that he wants to move in back with us and he is ready to do anything to compensate me for all the troubles he cause i told him that all i wanted was him and not a car or a jet. using this post to inform people out there that there are still great men pls do contact him for help on the following lordmazitemple@yahoo.com

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Hello people my name is Lisa dawn i am using this post to say a big thank you to Lord Mazi the great for what he has done for me i never thought i could spend xmas and new year with my man after he has abandoned my and my kids for almost 2 yrs. i have tried all means to get my man back but all proved abortive until Lord Mazi can into the question i contact him on the 29th of dec 2013 and behold by on the 31st of dec 2013 he cam and said he was sorry for a very thing and that he wants to move in back with us and he is ready to do anything to compensate me for all the troubles he cause i told him that all i wanted was him and not a car or a jet. using this post to inform people out there that there are still great men pls do contact him for help on the following lordmazitemple@yahoo.com

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Am sorry for all of ur probloms I realize now that even mine are small I have just ended my relationship but Nd came here to read and maybe get advise but the truth is love between a man and a woman is frail and meaningless no matter how strong those feelings are that's all they are just feelings and u are just allowing urself to be controlled by them I believe that they will mislead u and make more probloms for u and all around u just do what ur brain tells u to do and let those emotions free Allah is the onlone who can give u Tru emotions love sadness happiness anger are all Tru when faceing u and ur relationship with god so I think if anyone wants a to fix there broken heart then just look at ur self and ur relation to god and how it compares to the human been who broke it u will see that it meant nothing at all life is just a test and when its over the only thing that matters is the one with Allah and lastly I love u all my brothers and sisters I hope for u to find Tru happiness and love with ur lord and so I can see u all in genna where we can all be together and enjoy and love eachother truly

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Salam

Thank you for your time and writing. I hope things work out for everyone. N I hope things work out for me too. I am falling apart. It's so hard to go through everyday life and see no future as a family anymore. My small family is falling apart in front of me and I can't do anything about it.

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Broken heart means getting away from faith or losing faith on religion Islam and Allah (SWT), this condition is a trial of Human from Almighty Allah (SWT), he should try not lose faith after succeeding in trials he will be rewarded by Allah (SWT).

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Salam

I need advise from all brothers.

I have been married to my cousin for more than ten years. Last year I found out that my husband is cheating on my for the last two years. At that time I was 7 months pregnant with our second child. He asked for forgiveness and promised that its not gonna happen again so I forgave him for the sake of my kids and family. But recently he cheated again on me with the same girl. Now that loving man turned so evil he says really bad things to me he even told me twice to kill myself. Sometimes I feel like I would be better without him but then what about my kids how will I raise them without a father. I have no family here so I can't ask anyone for advise. Me and my husband are now like two stranger living together. I don't know how to connect with him.I don't know how to make everything right again. It's just that he is pulling away and I am holding on so hard. All day and all night I cry. my life is just upside down. If I ask my in laws for help they say he is still here he didn't leave so what else you want. My heart is broken to so many pieces. It hurts so badly. I loved him but he back stabbed me so many times. But for some reason I still love him. Please advice me on what to do. Thanks a lot

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sleep it off :P no im joking. having a broken heart is a part of life. only time will mend it praying would probably help.

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The first thing to acknowledge is that what you have done is wrong. You transgressed the bounds God, the One who knows you best, the One who created you, the One who knows all, and now you are suffering the consequences of those decisions. It was a test and you made wrong decisions and now you are meant to rise above and learn from the mistakes that you have made.

I am not sure if you understand the gravity of the sins - please think deeply about how you have dishonoured yourself and this girl (who was also careless of her own honour). You relied on the fact that you went so far with the sister (i.e physical relationship with her) to keep you guys together. And how frail was that? How frail is it to rely on a sin rather than on Allah? How frail is it to disobey Allah and not keep chaste until he grants you a blessed love for the sake of Allah, one which is everlasting because it is for the One who is everlasting.

This girl, who is a father's precious daughter, meant to be taken care of by a righteous spouse, who Allah is too shy to tell her what awaits her in Jannah if she is righteous, has committed a deeply immoral action. Actions which will likely take time for your heart to fully repair from.

Yet despite this, Allah is allowing for the pain (which is caused by your actions) to pull you back to Him. Your heart hurts and this is a mercy. What is the purpose of all the hurt? For you to take this opportunity to transform yourself and become a righteous believer. Because although you may have committed the sin of both minor and major zina, your heart is open to purification now. You are going through a cleansing process and you must take this opportunity to repent and seek that which is halal and blessed.

Imagine if you had married this girl. Would you be happy marrying someone who easily committed zina? Are you happy starting your life as a zani yourself? Would you not rather have started your marriage in a way that is pleasing to Allah? Indeed, why else are we here on earth except to please Allah?

I recommend you try your best to repent, Allah azza wa jal is so merciful. He can change your bad deeds to good deeds. He loves to forgive. He will bless you with someone that is righteous, inshaAllah, so long as you make efforts to deserve it.

Start by

  1. Understanding your reason for existence is not to marry a true love, a first love, or any love for that matter. It is to worship Allah, who will never let you down. Who else has the ability to love you the most? Who else deserves your love?

  2. Get connected to Allah through the Qur'an. I know you are thinking, how can the Qur'an heal my depression? Allah can and will if you allow Him to speak to you and you listen to His commandments. If you truly believe the Qur'an is the word of God and that He knows what is BEST for you to achieve happiness - you would follow the Qur'an because that is Him talking to you.

Possible Roadblocks

  1. Feeling like you will not find anything better - Allah is the owner of the heavens and the earth. There is most definitely a better sister out there for you. You just need to deserve her now.

  2. Not finding tranquility in the Qur'an - Know that this is because your heart is hardened. You have to strive very hard to get past this and build your Imaan. Listen to lectures online by Nouman Ali Khan, Moutassem Al Hameedi, etc. and build your Imaan. Put your entire soul into building your Imaan and don't give up.

  3. Don't despair from the Mercy of Allah. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BCktCdVaHIo

May Allah azza wa jal envelop you in His mercy, transform you into a righteous brother, grant you a righteous spouse, and grant you a place in Jannah close to Him.

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Please try and look for a nice and islamic woman ok.

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