Now updated: Islam.com Ramadan calendar - islam.com/salat

Salam! I need help my husband and I have been married for 2 years and have small baby girl My husband has a very bad temper if something is not his way such as food or the house He gets so angry he begans to use really horrible bad words and yells and screams I start reading ayat Kursi but he continues I cry at night quietly and have recently started having Anxiety attacks Please help me tell me a dua I can read or something To finish his horrible anger Lifebeginsnow2012@gmail.com

asked 3114 Islam2012's gravatar image
edited Apr 26 '12 at 18:52 NesreenA ♦ 219722 NesreenA's gravatar image

uhh... read the Quran or ask and pray for Allah to help you in this matter salam

(Feb 14 '12 at 20:06) Amirah Amirah's gravatar image

I don't know about duas, but I find it's very helpful to talk to the person. Now, i know you're a mother, and extremely busy, but this may be worth a shot. try this:-

  • One night make him his favorite meal and have the house just the way he likes it (that way he sees you're making an effort...not that you're not usually making an effort, but guys are kind of dense)
  • *Optional - dress up
  • Eat for a while, have a nice meal, talk about good things. Talk about times that the two of you laughed, talk about the dessert you have planned, good things.
  • Now, guys have it naturally in them to protect women. This is psychology, look vulnerable; tilt your head slightly to the side, widen your eyes a little, and relax your lips so that they're a little pouty and slightly open.
  • Then tell him you chose this meal because it's his favorite, ask him if he likes it. This is where the vulnerable look is important, look like you really want his approval. Make sure he's looking at you, that way he'll feel the natural instinct to reassure you.
  • Now say "Can I talk to you about something?". Look a little shy, keep up the vulnerable look.
  • Hopefully he'll say yes, and you'll tell him what you need to tell him.

Now maybe some parts don't sound so great, but trust me, this works. Choose your words carefully though. Good luck :) You'll do great

link
answered 61 Pandora's gravatar image
edited Feb 12 '12 at 22:49

If I were you which i am not and if he were a muslim i would go and direct tell him to talk nicely and stop screaming and stop saying bad words.. Tell him that is is not a good behavior and its unproffesional of an adult like him to do things like that.. Tell him how you feel.. How hard you have it.. Stop all that crap about giving him his favourite food.. People should stop keeping everything secrets but its better to face the problems.. Let him look at you and let him see his own mistakes, cause those who does the opposite of islam and who does bad things has dirty eyes.. They are cursed and can only be helped by looking at their own problems.. If you dont tell him he will never know what he is doing wrong.. Seriously u have 2 tell him.. But if he is not a muslim if he does not pray, read the quran, if he say bad things about allah too i would suggest you leave him, that would be best for you, and your children if you want muslim kids right? real muslim men never hit their wifes and never swears..

I know the kind of type your husband is .. And im pretty sure you live in the middle east cause thats how the culture is.. Men has more power than woman.. But in reality woman and men are equal. In the quran it says everybody is equal.. We are all son of Adam and Eve. Therefore if you follow the quran 100% a woman should have the same power in the house as a husband.. Unfortunately culture and tradition has changed that way of thinking totally.. Specially in the middle east. i feel bad for women cause they have no rights.. its unfair i must admit but lets hope one day women will get more rights in the future

link
answered 8637 Sahak's gravatar image
edited Mar 01 '12 at 09:04

Sorry, but praying will not help you. You need to seek help from a professional source.

Failing that, you need to leave him. No woman deserves that kind of treatment. None.

I wish you the best in the future. I hope that you find the courage to do what is right in this instance.

link
answered 11 Ali's gravatar image

Thank you i will try this.. the thing is that i have tried this many times before he will understand for sometime and when shetan gets to him it gets back to the anger. i know he loves me very much, and he shows it too but when he is angry he forgets all this and i know later he realizes that what he did wasnt right but he wont say sorry his ego comes in the way, but inshallah i will do it once more, i cant leave him i love him and he is the father of my baby i have faith in allah its just sometimes when your so down you just wish you had someone to talk to a friend or anyone.. i cant tell you how much i appreciate you taking the time and telling me thing jazak allah

link
answered 3114 Islam2012's gravatar image

SAHI BUKHARI Volume 8, Book 75, Number 333 : Narrated by Abu Huraira Allah's Apostle said, "When it is the last third of the night, our Lord, the Blessed, the Superior, descends every night to the heaven of the world and says, 'Is there anyone who invokes Me (demand anything from Me), that I may respond to his invocation; Is there anyone who asks Me for something that I may give (it to) him; Is there anyone who asks My forgiveness that I may forgive him?' "

Volume 8, Book 75, Number 352 : Narrated by Abu Huraira Allah's Apostle said, "The invocation of anyone of you is granted (by Allah) if he does not show impatience (by saying, "I invoked Allah but my request has not been granted.")

Volume 8, Book 75, Number 356 : Narrated by Ibn Abbas The Prophet used to invoke Allah at the time of distress, saying, "La ilaha illal-lahu al-'Azim, al-Halim, La ilaha illal-lahu Rabbu-s-samawati wal-ard wa Rabbu-l-arsh il-azim."

Volume 8, Book 75, Number 357 : Narrated by Ibn 'Abbas Allah's Apostle used to say at a time of distress, "La ilaha illal-lahu Rabbul-l-'arsh il-'azim, La ilaha illallahu Rabbu-s-samawati wa Rabbu-l-ard, Rabbu-l-'arsh-il-Karim."

Volume 8, Book 75, Number 385 : Narrated by Sa'd Seek refuge with Allah by saying the words which the Prophet used to say while seeking refuge with Allah, "0 Allah! I seek refuge with You from cowardice, and seek refuge with You from miserliness, and seek refuge with You from reaching a degraded geriatric old age, and seek refuge with You from the afflictions of the world and from the punishment in the grave."

sister only allah can help you and he is dominant over every thing have faith in him and invoke him for your help inshallah his help will come soon and to be confident about his help is the key....and read sura ya-sin and sura raehman

link
answered 1695 s_a_razvi's gravatar image
edited Mar 01 '12 at 12:38

you should try out this wazifa for love between husband and wife Recite Surah Jummah 3 time on Friday and then make dua InshaAllah your husband starts loving you and his anger will gone wazifa love between husband and wife

link
answered 03 saleemkhan's gravatar image
-1

Well, there may be many reasons: problems at work, or someone like him on the side (new love), or someone has cursed your family, if any, he tired of family life as it relates to the child? He may rave about the money that they are not? if the family wealth, and all is well, you have to be sought only in the cause of it, maybe he has something wrong with your head, or a midlife crisis? you do know him better, so you'll know better, but in any case, rudeness, discourtesy, and God forbid assault can not be forgiven, otherwise it will only get worse

link
answered 112 RedMercury's gravatar image
-1

Salam.. I think this will solve your problems...

Duas to stop our Anger Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem – In the name of Allah, most Gracious and Most Merciful

Dua 1- Surah Al-Baqarah (The Cow) – ayat/verse 153 Recite this ayat to have patience and remove your anger

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اسْتَعِينُوا بِالصَّبْرِ وَالصَّلَاةِ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ مَعَ الصَّابِرِينَ

O you who believe! Seek help in patience and As-Salat (the prayer). Truly! Allah is with As-Sabirin (the patient ones, etc.).

Dua 2 – recite 17 Surah Al-Isra – Ayat 19 as many times as possible

وَمَنْ أَرَادَ الْآخِرَةَ وَسَعَىٰ لَهَا سَعْيَهَا وَهُوَ مُؤْمِنٌ فَأُولَـٰئِكَ كَانَ سَعْيُهُم مَّشْكُورًا

And whoever desires the Hereafter and strives for it, with the necessary effort due for it (i.e. do righteous deeds of Allah's Obedience) while he is a believer (in the Oneness of Allah Islamic Monotheism), then such are the ones whose striving shall be appreciated, thanked and rewarded (by Allah).

link
answered 8 MaNuzry's gravatar image
Your answer
toggle preview

Markdown Basics

  • *italic* or __italic__
  • **bold** or __bold__
  • link:[text](http://url.com/ "title")
  • image?![alt text](/path/img.jpg "title")
  • numbered list: 1. Foo 2. Bar
  • to add a line break simply add two spaces to where you would like the new line to be.
  • basic HTML tags are also supported

Tags:

×88
×58

Asked: Feb 12 '12 at 00:50

Seen: 26,133 times

Last updated: Jun 13 '13 at 13:35



©1998-2013 Islam.com Publications and Research.       All Rights Reserved.