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Dear Sir/madam, I'm a muslim girl. me and my family are strong believers of Allah. I have been staying away from my parents from past 4 years and during this course of time I have started to like a non muslim guy. I have become so close to him that I want to marry him. He is more understanding and a very good person from heart. I have full faith that he will love me and take care of me life long. Can I marry him? He says that he will never ask me to get converted to his religion nor he is willing to get converted to a muslim. I can remain a muslim life long. He has no objection with the same.

We have decided to marry in both the ways- islamic way Nikha and as in his religion in a temple. Our arents are against us.. we cant live happy if separated from each other. pls help me with this problem. I'm i doing right by finding my love in a non muslim?


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I was about to go to university and I seenstinks post. I really have to comment.

First of all, i want to stress that Islam does not encourage the interfaith marriages. The general rule of Islam is that Muslims should marry Muslims. A Muslim male or female should not marry a non-Muslim male or female. The only exception is given to Muslim men who are allowed to marry the chaste girls from among the People of the Book.

However, a Muslim woman is better suited to a Muslim man than a woman of Christian or Jewish faith, regardless of her merits. This is because marriage is not based on fulfilling one’s sexual desires; rather, it is an institution. It aims to establish a home on the bases of tranquility, faith and Islamic morals. To fulfil this task, the whole family must apply Allah’s course and try to convey His message.

A marriage between a Muslim woman and non-Muslim man is invalid. The relationship is viewed as fornication. For the marriage to be valid, the man would have to state the Shahada (the Islamic testification of faith), after which they would have a new ceremony.

It is forbidden for Muslim women to marry non-Muslim men, according to the Qur’aan, the Sunnah and the consensus of the scholars (ijmaa’) .If such a marriage takes place, it is invalid, it does not have any impact upon inheritances according to sharee’ah, and any children born from this union are illegitimate. Hoping that the husband may become Muslim does not alter this ruling in the slightest. 

Under no conditions is a Muslim woman permitted to marry anyone but a Muslim man. The  verse cited (2:221) mentions, "Nor marry your girls to unbelievers until they believe. A man slave who believes is better than an unbeliever...." No exception is given for women to marry Jews and Christians, so the law stands that she may only marry a believing (Muslim) man. As head of the household, the husband provides leadership for the family. A Muslim woman does not follow the leadership of someone who does not share her faith and values.

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edited Mar 26 '13 at 08:28

Dear Sister,

I signed up to this site while browsing, only to answer your question which was first thing in the list.

Answer is NO.

Please refer to below listed islamqa website for serious questions like this.

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