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I have a question if cursed effective in Islam. When I was young at 20’s of age my uncle wish me to be arrange to his son which my first cousin, he said he prepared me than others and he wished for that before he died he was sick that time, all the family members agreed except my mother and my father cannot say Yes directly. As my own decision I refused, because all I wanted that time is to help my family and sisters sending their school. I work hard for my family. Time goes by were getting matured and ready for relationship. Since then, Id been in serious relationships, of course I wish one of this be the ONE, but never in successful. So many men try to courtship me, I have a nice job Alhamdulillah, and I raised my sister’s school and got nice job also. I am thinking now my relationship failures are caused by the cursed. Maybe my uncle families get angry to me and cursed not to get a relation anymore.

How can I repent to them if yes?

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closed Apr 11 '13 at 02:52 sadie ♦ 1.6k315 sadie's gravatar image

The question has been closed for the following reason "The question is answered, right answer was accepted" by sadie Apr 11 '13 at 02:52

No one is able to do anything with ought the permission of Allah.

The Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said to Ibn Abbas: 

"If the whole nation were to gather together to benefit you they would only benefit you with that which Allah had already written you and if the whole nation were to gather to harm you they could only harm you with that which Allah had already written to harm you. The pen has been lifted and the ink has dried"

So they cannot do anything to you. It is Allah that has decreed this to happen he says.

“…But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.” (2:216)

So this could have been the best for you. Or even if all the bad came to you the messengers of Allah says 

“No Muslim is afflicted with any harm, even if it were the prick of a thorn, but that Allah expiates his sins because of that, as a tree sheds its leaves.” [Bukhari]

So what ever harm physically or emotionally that happens Allah will forgive if you are patient.

It is not becuase of them that you are not able to marryhowever,. It would be wise to ask them to forgive, if you think they still hold any bad for should explain to them why you were not able to help.

I advise you to ask your mother, or any relative to find you a husband that is pious, or go to a local mosque and ask the imam to announce if anyone will be willing to marry you on the condition that you get to know what kind of person they are before you marry them. So think good of Allah.

answered 73110 Light's gravatar image

Sukran light for the beautiful comments. All I want now is to gain trust Allah, increase my faith. I thought I was patiently enough waiting to be rewarded for what I want. But a lot of things to consider and observe in myself, I just wanted for now clearing my mind, purify my heart from anger and guilt. Devoted acceptance should I take. Thinking of fasting on Thursday would be considerable to repent.

(Apr 11 '13 at 02:34) jahara jahara's gravatar image

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