Hi All, I am a Muslim Girl and from the childhood I have my own morals and values according to which I sustain my life with respect, previous 3 years I am in love with a guy, he still loves me but he is not in a condition by which he marry me, he is also in very frustration and tension about his career, I am also a Career Oriented Women and wanted to become something successful in life, Previous year he told me that you marry someone else whoever comes to your parents, I was get angry an came some other Metro City for the job, when I came here I met a guy he is also in my company, I do not love him as much as I love him, he has some problem with his wife means his wife is not so much attentive to sex, so he is frustrated by marriage, I really don't know when I get into all that, now I lost my morals my values, my virginity and all. He was not able to marry me since he is already having a kid of 2 years. I ruin out my life. Now i don't have sukun in anything. Kindly give some Idea plz.. Otherwise i will kill myself one day.

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(Apr 23 '13 at 23:33) Irfan Alam ♦ Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

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Assalamu 'alaykum . Firstly , if you are a muslim girl , why did you talk with gaire mahrams ? This is not allowed . You shouldn't have mixed with males for love . Now you see , what outcome it has brought ? Secondly , WHY DID YOU TYPE SLANG WORDS IN THIS SITE ? THIS IS A MUSLIM SITE . I had to edit the question . Now , your answer . My sister , love is not everything in life . Our life is short . Oneday we will have to die . The life in akhirat is eternal . So , don't think about duniya , think about akhirat . And don't even think about suicide . Those who suicide might go to hell . And punishment in hell is really unbearable . Don't give up . I also have a relationship problem . I had to overcome those horrible thoughts . Use your thoughts and tears to think about akhirat , not about duniya . I warn you again , DO NOT SUICIDE ! Please sister , don't do this . It's a request from me . I don't want to see you in hell . Wait a few days , you will die after a short time anyway . I ask you to build relation with Allah , not with humans . Just look at this . Allah is so beautiful that jannatis will stare at him for 70000 years at a strech . Don't you want to see Allah's majestic appearance ? Allah is eternal , he has everything , he is the strongest , he can do anything , he is compassionate , he loves his makhluqat . He has so many qualities that anyone can fall in love with him . He should be our main concern . You know , some pious humans spent their entire life by worshiping Allah . We should try to be like them . Just think about jannat , don't you want to go there ? If yes , then please renew your faith and become a mumin . I request you again my sister , don't suicide . And don't tell anyone that you committed zina . In some places like arab , adulterers are punished by stoning to death or giving 100 lashes . Keep your sin a secret . Ask Allah to forgive you , he is our only hope . Return to Lord Allah , you still have a chance .

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edited Apr 23 '13 at 15:42

I see nothing wrong in your answer.

Dawah or calling others to Islam is the best of deeds, because it involves guiding people to the Straight Path and to that which will bring them happiness in this world and in the Hereafter:  “And who is better in speech than he who [says: ‘My Lord is Allaah (believes in His Oneness),’ and then stands firm (acts upon His Order), and] invites (men) to Allaah’s (Islamic Monotheism), and does righteous deeds, and says: ‘I am one of the Muslims.’”[Fussilat 41:33 – interpretation of the meaning]  Calling others to Islam is an honourable mission. This is the work of the Prophets and Messengers. The Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) explained that his mission in life, and the mission of his followers, is to call people to Allaah.  The Muslims in general and the scholars in particular are commanded to call people to Islam, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):  “Let there arise out of you a group of people inviting to all that is good (Islam), enjoining Al-Ma‘roof (i.e. Islamic Monotheism and all that Islam orders one to do) and forbidding Al-Munkar (polytheism and disbelief and all that Islam has forbidden). And it is they who are the successful”[Aal ‘Imraan 3:104] 

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May Allah forgive you and grant you jannat .

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ok , I am trying my level best. From yesterday night i am start ignoring both of them, kindly remember me in Dua, hope I am able to do these changes in my life. Thanks for the suggestions and answering my questions. hope Allah will forgive me.

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You shouldn't marry someone who committed zina , as they cannot be trusted .

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answered 1.8k2313 Muhammad%20Abdul%20Ahad's gravatar image

No no I mean that marry to someone who is good is wrong for him. After doing all that its not right to marry to some good person.

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If you meant by your question that " is cheating with someone and marrying him wrong ? " , then my answer is yes , it is undoubtedly a sin to cheat . The reason that I forbade you to marry your muslim boyfriends is that they can not be trusted , as they change their behaviour again and again . And please don't say that Allah has put complications in your life . There are many people who live in a much worser condition than you . Please be happy and don't complain .

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answered 1.8k2313 Muhammad%20Abdul%20Ahad's gravatar image

Dhoka means is to Cheat someone. Sorry for my English

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edited Apr 24 '13 at 04:53

What does dhokha mean?

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U told me to ask my parents for searching a Mumin. So its wrong to marry someone and give dhokha to him. I don't feel good. I have too much tension about this. Should I quit the company? , Both guys are muslim only. But dont know why Allah took me so much of complications in Life.

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