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Hi All, I am a Muslim Girl and from the childhood I have my own morals and values according to which I sustain my life with respect, previous 3 years I am in love with a guy, he still loves me but he is not in a condition by which he marry me, he is also in very frustration and tension about his career, I am also a Career Oriented Women and wanted to become something successful in life, Previous year he told me that you marry someone else whoever comes to your parents, I was get angry an came some other Metro City for the job, when I came here I met a guy he is also in my company, I do not love him as much as I love him, he has some problem with his wife means his wife is not so much attentive to sex, so he is frustrated by marriage, I really don't know when I get into all that, now I lost my morals my values, my virginity and all. He was not able to marry me since he is already having a kid of 2 years. I ruin out my life. Now i don't have sukun in anything. Kindly give some Idea plz.. Otherwise i will kill myself one day.

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reverted May 05 '13 at 01:23 Muhammad Abdul Ahad ♦ 1.8k2314 Muhammad%20Abdul%20Ahad's gravatar image

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(Apr 23 '13 at 23:33) Irfan Alam ♦ Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

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Please make your question clear

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answered 1.8k2314 Muhammad%20Abdul%20Ahad's gravatar image

But Its wrong to marry some other person, its DHOKA for him.. What about it?

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Assalamu alaykum , @Sheeba_khan , I told you before and I am telling you now , stop thinking that those males will love you permanently . These kinds of males who change their atitude from time to time are not trustable . You shouldn't marry anyone of those three mans . This might be hard for you , but I say that please cut off any thoughts or relation you have with them . There's a good chance that they will again make problems after marriage . And not only that , it is stricty forbidden for muslim women to mix with gaire mahrams for love . This kind of love might feel good at first , but I warn you my sister , these kinds of relationships will most likely be no good . Sister , think about what just happened . You mentioned in your question that you lost your virginity . See , are these kinds of base acts good at all infront of Allah ? These relationships are risky and might create a horrifying outcome . Sister , I don't want to be harsh , but please learn from your mistakes . Here's an example - A rabbit mistakenly runs into a lion in a forest . It somehow manages to escape from the lion , but being foolish it again walks the same path . The result is easily understandable . I suggest you ask your parents to find a pious mumin husband for you , inshaallah it will be good for you . Mumins can only make relationships with mumins , not munafiqs . A pious mumin brother will most likely not argue with and will always try to keep you in good spirits . I don't suggest you to remain single , as satan might tempt you to do zina again . So , marry a mumin brother and live in peace . I again apologize for my behaviour , but I need to make things clear . Try to spend a good deal of times thinking about quran and Allah , inshaallah these duniya related thoughts will go away . Sister please pray the five times fard salat , read quran everyday , keep your tounge busy in zikrullah . Give akhirat more priority than duniya , this is a key ingridient required to become a mumin . You need a good deal of knowledge to completely realize that akhira is 100% true . After you comprehend these things , keeping your nafs in control will become easy inshaallah . Please visit some islamic sites and increase your faith . I have found a very good site that serves this purpose .
http://www.dartabligh.org/books/ebooks/basicbeliefs

may Allah show you the right path . Ameen

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edited Apr 24 '13 at 04:45

Asakum, But the problem is the first guy still says that he loves me, I tried allot I changed my contact number 2-3 times, I am also not able to live without him, after you answered my problem yesterday, I went to my room take bath, do pray and cried allot for the forgiveness, I said Allah to show me some way. But at the end of the day the first guy call me and ask me for the forgiveness of whatever he did by which i get hurt. Last night he again proposed me and told that its our new beginning from now onwards we don't fight. I am helpless to say "Yes". But in my heart I have various questions that

  • Still Loving him is Right/Wrong ?
  • Marry to third person is Right/Wrong ?
  • If I marry to third person what are the results at the time of when we all are in front of Allah?
  • Being in contact with second guy is Right/Wrong ? How to get away from him.

After all that I was thinking that do not get married and starting an NGO in my own city, Since its a big decision, for that I have to fight or convince my parents. Besides this I have so many questions which I am not able to describe. Please answer this as soon as possible.

Sorry For the English..

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