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I have been with a Muslim man for 2 years. We have now decided to get married and I have decided to become Muslim. But we have had sexual interaction, but since we decided to get marry and I become Muslim, we haven't had. But I'm very confused how this is looked at?

asked 1011 Kris's gravatar image

Firstly,Sex before marriage is forbidden in islam it is termed as zina itis a deadly sin and their is punishment for islam,both of you are not eligible to get married.both of you must seek forgiveness for engaging in zina. Secondly,are you converting because you want to marry him? are you converting because you want to marry him? If so,you conversion is faulty and you will not be rewarded for it. Please,our deeds should be done because of ALLAH SUBHANA WAT'ALA alone and HIM ALONE.HE WILL ONLY REWARDS DEEDS DONE BECAUSE OF HIM ALONE. Finally,you should convert because of ALLAH SUBHANA WAT'ALA,you both must sincerely seek forgiveness for performing zina. You are not allowed to get marry with eachother. ALLAH SUBHANA WAT'ALA KNOWS BEST.MA SALLAM.

answered 259312 abdulrasaqtoheeb11's gravatar image

Zina (fornication, adultery) is a serious crime and a major sin which takes away the quality of faith from a person, and exposes him to punishment and humiliation unless he repents. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a Faahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits: a great sin, and an evil way that leads one to hell unless Allaah Forgives him)”

[al-Isra’ 17:32]

If he truly repents to Allaah, Allaah will accept his repentance, and he does not need to confess his sin to anyone so that the hadd punishment would be carried out on him.

If he repents sincerely towards Allaah, there is no reason why he should not get married, and indeed it may be obligatory in his case, as a protection for him and in accordance with what Allaah has permitted. And Allaah knows best.

Praise be to Allaah first and last, and thanks be to Him always. He blesses whomsoever He will with guidance, and deprives whomsoever He will of happiness. He saves His slave from misguidance and supports His close friends until the Hour begins.

My dear sister, congratulations on your being blessed with guidance. We ask Allaah to make you steadfast until death.

It will be a great achievement when you decide to embrace Islam and give up the misguidance in which you had grown up and the shirk [association of others with Allaah] which is forbidden. We welcome you as a new sister in Islam and we welcome you as a visitor to this site. May allah bless the marriage and make you both steadfast in the islam.

answered 73210 Light's gravatar image

Yusuf Ali Let no man guilty of adultery or fornication marry and but a woman similarly guilty, or an Unbeliever: nor let any but such a man or an Unbeliever marry such a woman: to the Believers such a thing is forbidden.

You and him are allowed to get married, your sins are equal. Yes adultery is a serious sin. But you didn't know. Yes we are all born with the knowledge of right and wrong, but you have been uneducated when it comes to the laws of God. If you convert from your heart and not just for marriage, all your sins before are forgotten. Plead for forgiveness and mean it. Educate yourself from here on out. We are human and make mistakes and fall into temptation, but do your best to stay a straight path. Before I converted, all the rules and all the time it required made my head spin, but now, it all makes perfect sense. If you pray the 5 prayers, it keeps your mind concentrated on God. If you read your Quran daily, it keeps your brain and mind educated on his word. If you dress modestly, it keeps evil eyes off of you and keeps temptations away from you. I promise you, it's a hard change for someone not born into it, but every second of my life has a whole new meaning now and my life is much more blessed.

One other thing, I'm speaking from experience as a white American convert married to a Palestinian Muslim, you will always be judged by people around you. Don't let it bring you down and don't let it weigh on your heart. Keep pushing forward and prove them wrong. Prove to yourself, God, and anyone watching, that you can and are the best muslim girl you know how to be.

answered 102 Bbadawi's gravatar image
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