Brothers and sisters,
I would like to know if there's actually way to know someone's virginity in islamic ways? It's not that I want to messes up someone else. It's just this thing in my culture. They really believed it. I don't even know if it's true or not. Personally, I don't believe it.
I was being paranoid about it actually. Because my friends told me that there was one time, she read a guy's blog and it said about how the guy talked to a woman and he started to scanning her like a psycho. Example, he's looking at her forehead, lips, eye brows and maybe her butto*. Sorry for the indecent word. It has even gone worse when my friend was walking inside someone's house because there was like some kind of celebration and she noticed that someone was looking at her feet. In my culture, they claimed that they can detect someone's virginity by looking at their feet. Same goes to reading lines of palm hand.
This cultural thing is making me way paranoid. Well because I'm not proud of my past sins and I did something but never intercourse but it's still a major sin. So I kept on thinking that I've destroyed my innocence and my body. Feeing traped and worthless. So whatever it is, I've repented and promised to never ever do that haraam thing again.
I'm asking this question because I'm not that strong to listen what people said about me in a bad way. I can't walk around and then some random people think that I'm not a virgin. I know it's stupid but I still believe I'm a virgin because I had never done anything like intercourse.
So will you please explain, if there's actually way to know about it? Does in Islam also have this kind of thing? I mean like knowing someone's virginity by looking?
And also, what's the function when someone seek for marriage and that person is allowed to look at the potential wife's hand and face?? What does that mean??? Please help me solve this problem! Thank you