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A,w i live in the west and my parents on the opposite. B/c i'm from big family i helped them financially for a couple of years. But now i'm going through difficulties here. i need un advice aboout this plz. jazzakumu Allah bikhair

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edited Jun 04 '13 at 00:22 Muhammad Abdul Ahad ♦ 1.8k2314 Muhammad%20Abdul%20Ahad's gravatar image

Wa 'alaikumus salam wa ra'hmatullahi wa barakatuhu wa maghfiratuhu. Brother/Sister your question is unclear. But I will try to answer it-
1. If your question was like "upto what extent we can help our parents?" or "how can I help my parents?" Answer- A person once asked Prophet Hadrat Muhammad sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam, "What is the right of the parent's over their children?" He answered: "They are your heaven and hell." [Ibn Majah]

This beautiful Hadith answers in just three words (in the original Arabic) not only what but also why. We are to honor them, serve them, and take care of them in such a way that pleases them. For we will find the pleasure of Allah in the pleasure of our parents. On the other hand, if a person is disrespectful, disobedient, or careless toward his parents, he has just opened his door to hell through this behavior. It is a sign of the importance of this issue that in the Qur'an, the command about our duties to the parents always occurs next to the command reminding us of our duties to Allah.
"Show gratitude to Me and to your parents. To me is your return." [Luqman 31:14].

"Join not anything with Him. Be good to your parents." [Al-An'am 6:151].
"Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him and that you be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood." [Al-Israa 17:23-24].
Also, read this to know more hadiths about obeying our parents. We must obey them within the bounds of the Shariah. In Islam, there is no absolute obedience to any one. All obedience- of subordinates to the bosses, of the children to the parents, of the ruled to the rulers, of the wife to the husband- are constrained by an overriding principal described in Hadith: "There is no obedience to a creation in disobedience to the Creator."
So when you see that helping your parents cause you to sin, then it would better if you don't obey them.

  1. If your question was like "I'm in so much trouble so how can I help my parents?"

Answer- Hang on there brother/sister! Allah will surely test us.

"Be sure We shall test you with something of fear, and hunger, some loss in goods, or lives, or the fruits (of your toil), but give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere.

Who say when afflicted with calamity: 'To Allah we belong and to Him is our return.'

They are those on whom (descend) blessings from Allah and Mercy, and they are the ones that receive guidance." [Al-Baqarah 2:155-157]

So don't lose hope in Allah. Work hard to pass this test of faith. Increase your nawfil 'ibadats, especially pray the tahajjud salat and make plenty of du'a. Ask Allah to help you. May Allah make your affairs easier.
I am no scholar but I tried hard to answer your question. Forgive me for any mistakes. Jazak Allahu Khairan for reading this.

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