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Hi , I am Iranian lady who far from religious from first of my life , I grow up in Japan , and don't know anything about it , just I believe in god , I meet the religious Egyptian person who really good and honest man and we love each other and decide to marry , he ask me read about islam and religious but I was stupid and blind and don't want to listen to him , I told him u should accept me as I am , I thought I can change if I like later by time , he was ready to help in this way but I reject it , We were in marriage process finding the house , buying the things , we went to take the appointment for that but suddenly everything become upside down because one shaikh told him that he shouldn't marry to me cas I am not religious , and he ask me to see the shaikh and change my mind and be little more religious , he told me we have chance to marry if I change my mind , I become mad and told him so much thing that I shy to even write here about religion . just I can say I did my biggest mistake in my life , and he left me ... 5 month pass from that day I changed a lot , I understand that I was in wrong way of life , I start to read about islam , I saw so much video clip about people who blind like me before and wake up suddenly , I start to talk with Islamic people and they help me they advice me to read a book search in Internet and I did , I change a lot , I start to pray and that's gave me so good feeling , everyday I make touba to god and do so much Zekr , I ask god to forgive me and give me one more chance in my life to be religion and stay in right way , very night when I want to sleep I make doa till I sleep , wallah I changed a lot , thanks god I become relax and light when I talk with god , I feel so calm in my life I did exactly the things that he wants me to do that time and I reject , I email him to forgive me but he reject , he told me its too late and he don't want me , and he wish me the best in my life , I am really sad and in big trouble , I feel I lose my life cas no one can be like him for me in this life , still I love him so much from my heart , but because I have god I have hope that he forgive me and trust me one more time , I want to do my best I don't know what I should do now and how I can ask him to trust me , I know it's difficult for him but I should find the way ? Please kindly help me and show me the way . Thanks so much God bless u

asked 101 Parisa's gravatar image

As-salamu 'alaikum wa ra'hmatullahi wa barakatuhu wa maghfiratuhu. Sister, firstly, Jazak Allahu Khair for accepting Islam. I feel happy to know that practicing muslims like you still exist in this world. Whatever sins you might've done in the past, repent for it sincerely. InshaAllah you will be forgiven. Now, the answer to your question. You should be happy with whatever Allah gives you. If Allah doesn't want, you can't marry the man of your choice. But you can still try, as you still have love for your man in your heart. That man seems religious and it would be better for him to accept you as wife, unless he already has four wives or can't support you financialy. You can contact him and tell him and ask the reason for rejecting you. If you can't convince him to marry you then it should be better for you to forget him and start looking for a man that satisfies you. There are many men out there that you might like more than the man you are talking about. Marry a muslim man and accept what Allah gives you.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 43 Surah Zukhruf verse 32: Is it they who would portion out the Mercy of thy Lord? It is We Who portion out between them their livelihood in the life of this world: and We raise some of them above others in ranks so that some may command work from others. But the Mercy of thy Lord is better than the (wealth) which they amass.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verses 18-21:
18 - If any do wish for the transitory things (of this life) We readily grant them-such things as We Will to such persons as We Will: in the end have We provided Hell for them: they will burn therein disgraced and rejected.
19 - Those who do wish for the (things of) the Hereafter and strive therefor with all due striving and have Faith, they are the ones whose striving is acceptable (to Allah).
20 - Of the bounties of thy Lord We bestow freely on all these, as well as those: the bounties of thy Lord are not closed (to anyone).
21 - See how We have bestowed more on some than on others, but verily the Hereafter is more in rank and gradation, and more in excellence.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verses 155-157:
155 - Be sure We shall test you with something of fear, and hunger, some loss in goods, or lives, or the fruits (of your toil), but give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere.
156 - Who say when afflicted with calamity: "To Allah we belong and to Him is our return."
157 - They are those on whom (descend) blessings from Allah and Mercy, and they are the ones that receive guidance.
So, sister, keep looking for a man who meets the requirements of a mu'min and marry him. Be happy with Allah's decision. Jazak Allah for reading this.

answered 1.8k2314 Muhammad%20Abdul%20Ahad's gravatar image

assalamualaikum Sister

Keep asking for his forgiveness Inshallah he will forgive you. While you are doing that Make Dua to Allah S.W.T so he may help you

Ask him for a second chance and prove to him that you are a new person.

May Allah bring you and your husband peaceful and loving life Inshallah :) :)

answered 10 still9321's gravatar image

Asa, You are in the best situation with Islam, continue your life and pray, only Allah knows if you will be with this man again :)

answered 0543145 UnknownUser's gravatar image
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