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Aslamu Alaikum

The problem is my two brothers..

I am 3 or 4 years older than them, they give me no respect.

even if I tell them to not do that they call me with bad names e.t.c or sometime as joke.

when I tell them not to stay out for too long he/they does/do not listen.

if I tell him when you go to masjid for pray, just after prayer get home and do not talk too much or go around with your freinds anywhere, even I heard some bad-guys(27 years old) who were older than my brothers and my brothers-freinds used to talk to my brothers and his freinds.

even they used to go to play cricket.

I heard from many people tell your brothers and other kids to stop going around with big-guys they are not good.

but when I tell them do not go out for too long with your freinds they reply me by saying this " Don't you go out with your xyz freind " don't you go and meet them.

but I dont know how to explain them that I am their big-brother who knows what to do for them and me, who knows whats right and wrong.

I have here only 4 freinds one of them lives abroad for study other 2 just came back from other country few months ago, and will leave soon, so only one will be left here ... why ? I make only these friends because I know them, and know from people. Never heard anything bad from others, even after meeting them I realized they are people of good character, there are so many bad guys out there I hate to stay in their company and I do not want to become like them.

when I was young I did not used to go far away and play or hanging out with them alone,

what should I do now ? how to explain them

asked 303 Abdullah%20Abdulrehman's gravatar image

Assalamualikum brother Abdallah. This is a very similar case to what I have to go through all the time with my brothers. I am the oldest SISTER of 4 BROTHERS. And it gets hard trying to teach them and improve everything from the religious areas to school and social areas. They say many very rude and inappropriate things to me, and it really gets my blood flowing. And yes sometimes they bring up the fact the I too have about only 5 close friends, that I care about, but its the about the QUALITY NOT THE QUANTITY. Maybe show your brothers a video of Youtube about hanging out with older and bad people. Maybe when you go to the Mosque tell one of the older and wiser brothers to talk with them. Inshallah that will work. May Allah guide you to the right path.

answered 615 Maz2728's gravatar image

tell them to fear Allah and tell them the following hadith. Hadith - Narrated 'Abdullaah ibn Mas'ood (radhiyallaahu 'anhu) The Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) said: "Verily the most beloved speech to Allah is the servant's saying, سُبْحَانَكَ اللَّهُمَّ وَبِحَمْدِكَ وَتَبَارَكَ اسْمُكَ وَتَعَالَى جَدُّكَ وَلَا إِلَهَ غَيْرُكَ (Glorified are you, O Allah, and to you is the praise, Blessed is Your Name and Lofty is your Majesty, there is none worthy of worship other than you.) The most hated speech to Allah is when a man says to another man, 'Fear Allah!' and he replies, 'Worry about your own self!' " [It was reported by Al-Asbahaanee in At-Targheeb (#739), and Sheikh Albani authenticated it in Silsilatul-Ahaadeethis-Saheehah (#2598)] ***remind them the not everyone who will call them to good will be perfect themselves. strive to improve yourself inshaallah because you are their role model. Try not to do things which they can hold against you, especially in front of them. Its possible for someone to be weak in iman from time to time and it shows in your actions a lot, especially when you sin. In the least control yourself and avoid doing these things in front of those who would take you as a role model (whether consciously or subconsciously. Some will only choose to follow bad things that you do or find it acceptable to certain bad things just because you do it)

answered 10 anonima's gravatar image
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