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Assalum Alaikam

I had been with a man for about 11 years. He was born a Muslim - I was not. He never practised his religion. About 6 months ago he became a devout Muslim - and 3 months later I reverted and became Muslim. We had not been living together and we stopped sleeping together when he became devout.

We were engaged and planning to get married.

About a week ago he told me that he had been on a Muslim dating site and had met a woman with whom he had formed a relationship with and had made his intentions to marry ("nikah"). I was devastated.

His reasons for this was that this woman was in hardship and he wanted an "instant family" (this woman has a 9 year old daughter) and wanted somebody "more devout"that I was and he was not prepared to wait for me to grow with my Religion.

I'm feeling really confused about where this leaves me now. I feel like Allah has abandoned me and does not want me to be Muslim. I'm really hurt and angry. Part of me wants my ex to be happy and have a good life with this new woman, InshAllah, but part of me is really angry and wants it to fail and that makes me feel bad. I really want him to be happy but he has really hurt me and part of me wants Allah to punish him for what he has done to me and that also makes me feel bad.

I'm really trying really hard to be positive about it and believe that it is Allah's will that this has happened. I try to read the Quran to find some guidance and assurance but it doesn't seem to be helping. Has Allah closed my heart? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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closed Jun 13 '13 at 07:05 Irfan Alam ♦ 1.1k11042 Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

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(Jun 13 '13 at 07:03) Irfan Alam ♦ Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

im so sorry.... i cant imagine what that must be like but never feel that Allah has abandoned you maybe Allah has someone even better for you that man made his decision. but if you've become muslim for that man...then your not really seeing the bigger picture you must become muslim for you and Allah alone. dont shut out islam because of a man. in the end it will him who is questioned for treating you that way.

(Jun 16 '13 at 05:33) a_mohammed a_mohammed's gravatar image

The question has been closed for the following reason "Needs to be posted on Community site." by Irfan Alam Jun 13 '13 at 07:05

Assalamoalaikum dear friend,Allah will surely help you.don't ever think that Allah has closed your heart.Allah tests His favourite Banda.He only has guided you to be a Muslim and He only will help you get through this difficult situation.leave everything upon Allah because He knows the truth what we reveal and what we conceal.but continue praying to Him He always listens to those who calls Him in distress..pray to Him at the time of Tahajjud there is Hadith that at this time Allah comes down from heaven towards earth and ask Is there anyone who will pray to Me and I will accept his prayers is there anyone who seek something from Me and I will bestow him with it....this is the best time to invoke Allah and surely listens at this time...the time is around 3.15 in midnight.wake up and pray to Allah He is the Only who will help you..refer sahih Muslim book of Tahajjud and you will find the dua to read...take care and remember us in your prayers too....Everything will happen on its fixed time.don't loose hope...just keep praying

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