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I am a woman in the early 20's, single, and I am currently also studying. Just a couple months before, I had suddently developed these "feelings" related to sexual arousal. As part of a Muslim family, I know very well all the general rules of Islam as I was raised this way to learn it. But, since the issue I have developed is a very confidential topic that parents would never discuss of what is right or wrong (besides no dating/ boyfriend), in terms of controlling my feelings, I am not definite in what is right and wrong. My mom knows about my issue because i told her, but if I discuss it again, her response in an angry tone is that I have to control it, and this is a sin. No matter how hard I try to control it, the following are the things I find myself doing and that I cannot control: these feelings are greatest when I go to bed every night and I can never control it at night, orgasm everynight, and I get aroused easily even when I avoid eye contact towards young men. I want to make clear that I do these things all in private and I make sure no one sees me. In addition, no matter how much I keep myself busy..... when it comes to going to bed, I cannot control it....even when i try to fully.

Is what I am doing is a sin?

asked 102 apple113's gravatar image

As-salamu 'alaikum wa ra'hmatullahi wa barakatuhu wa maghfiratuhu. Sister you might have done some sins by musterbating, but it's great to see that you've understood that this is a bad habit. Do sincere taubah for your sin of musterbating and don't do it again. Allah forgives all sins. Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54: (O Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you, for then you may get no help from anywhere.” Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136: Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who, but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah, and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!
You have done sins, but you still have time to change. If you still have this evil habit, follow these steps: 1. Realize that Akhirat is 100% true. Always think about death. Whenever you get the urgue to musterbate, think that Azrael 'Alaihi salam is coming. Fear Allah. Know that Allah sees what are you doing. Wouldn't you feel ashamed if someone saw you naked? Allah can see you everywhere you go. Can you musterbate if someone is watching you? No. But Allah watches you and you still do this act. Isn't that a matter of shame? This mindset has changed me so much that even when I went to toilet I could feel that Allah was watching me go to toilet and what I was doing. I would feel so much shame! It might work for you too.
2. Find a halal thing that you really like to do, like do some excercise, think about jannat, eat a tasty meal, etc. Whatever you do always keep your self busy. Always stay happy. Always try to do zikr. Make sure not to leave any space in your schedule. 3. Love the Akhirat, not the duniya. 4. And the best solution to this is to marry as soon as possible. Then you will be able to satisfy your desires lawfully and also receive hasanah for it.
May Allah bless you.

answered 1.8k2315 Muhammad%20Abdul%20Ahad's gravatar image

Instead of doing all dis, why cant you talk to a boy and marry him. for me, is not good get married my dear.

answered 10 Ayusco's gravatar image

I cannot right now, because education is very important in my family.

(Jun 11 '13 at 17:59) apple113 apple113's gravatar image
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