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Esselamu aleikum,

I want to ask you why Allah don't want to give a girlfriend? I'm praying Him for 3-4 years, long duas sometimes about 30 minutes, I pray salat (nafila), I fast every Ramadan since I remember (maybe since i was 10), i Do not rail anything, absolutely nothing for 5 years, i never tried to drink alcohol, I give a money to poor people.

I just want a girlfriend, that is my only wish and nothing else! What Am i doing wrong??? I'm 18 years old now and not retarded not to have a girlfriend, but Allah just won't to get it to me. I'm going to gym for 1.5 years so I'm not skinny guy and not so ugly!

I'm so desperate and i don't know what should i do, I don't like giving up, so I ask you for help. I'm wondering why my friends who do not pray at all, drink alcohol etc have a tone of girlfriends, but I just want 1 girlfriend and i can't get it? Whyyy??? Really, Allah made my life very poor and awful, I'm asking Him for just 1 wish and He won't to give me?

Thank everyone who at least read this. Thank you in advance. p.s. Sorry for bad English, I'm from Bosnia.

asked 0543146 UnknownUser's gravatar image

Its good for you that you don't have girlfriend as it is not allowed in Islam to have girlfriend. If you want a girl then marry someone. Click here to know the reason

answered 1.1k11042 Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

...............Its called marriage.

answered 163222 a_mohammed's gravatar image

Haha that's right you have to marry them in order to get to know them

(Jul 01 '13 at 01:12) mo_18 mo_18's gravatar image

What's called marriage.?

(Jul 01 '13 at 03:27) Irfan Alam ♦ Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

what he should want! he shouldnt be asking god for a girlfriend he should be asking for a wife

(Jul 01 '13 at 03:38) a_mohammed a_mohammed's gravatar image

n btw i deleted my own topic ill not have someone else doing it oki??

(Jul 01 '13 at 03:39) a_mohammed a_mohammed's gravatar image

How you know that he is asking for wife? Doesn't he knows the difference between girlfriend and wife??

(Jul 01 '13 at 03:41) Irfan Alam ♦ Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

-_- im telling him that he SHOULD be asking for a wife not a girlfriend if he wants a girl in his life it shouldnt be only for a short amount of time. it should be for a life time... satisfactory?

(Jul 01 '13 at 03:45) a_mohammed a_mohammed's gravatar image
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WA alaykum asalaam. If your seeking a wife ( Iam assuming that's what you meant by girlfriend) do you have family who can search for you a good Muslim woman? If so try that. Do a lot of dua for a wife a life partner and Insha Allah you'll receive. Salam

answered 1.6k315 sadie's gravatar image

Thank you for your answers, but I don't want to marry right now. I'm too young to have a wife. Just wanted to have a girlfriend :( Really, it is a shame that is not allowed to have a girlfriend.

I was hoping that maybe I'll find secret moment in Friday when Allah will make any wish come true if it is good, but Allah can decide that any wish is not good and won't hear me!

I don't think it is good not to have a girlfriend, everyone around me are happy and enjoy in life, but I'm the only one who is sad.

Thank you all.

answered 0543146 UnknownUser's gravatar image

what would u do with ur girlfriend honestly. be serious. wouldnt u be tempted to do haram things???

(Jul 01 '13 at 12:27) a_mohammed a_mohammed's gravatar image

You will get 70 most beautiful women if you go to Jannat. And for that you have to control yourself here. We have been sent here to worship ALLAH and not to enjoy. This world is worst place for Muslims and best place for Non Muslims. We shall be rewarded here after... InshaAllah..

(Jul 01 '13 at 12:49) Irfan Alam ♦ Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

inshallah :/

(Jul 01 '13 at 12:52) a_mohammed a_mohammed's gravatar image

I'm curious, what do women get when they go to Jannat, apart from seeing their husband with 70 other women?

(Jul 02 '13 at 02:07) mo_18 mo_18's gravatar image

-_- dont remind me that totally pisses me off.

(Jul 02 '13 at 05:32) a_mohammed a_mohammed's gravatar image

There is no mention anywhere in the Qur’an of the actual number of women available to a man in paradise

Only in the Islamic Traditions do we find a mention of 72 virgins; and the one ‘hadith’ that mentions this is entirely spurious. Unfortunately, it has been repeated to the western world so often that most people accept it as fact.

It is this one:

‘The Prophet Muhammad was heard saying: “The smallest reward for the people of Paradise is an abode where there are 80,000 servants and 72 virgins……….” ’

No Muslim is required to believe this, and I until now I have never met one that does!

(Jul 02 '13 at 10:51) UnknownUser UnknownUser's gravatar image

72 -_- men pfft get it all.

(Jul 02 '13 at 11:07) a_mohammed a_mohammed's gravatar image
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Have faith that Allah has it written down - the most perfect woman for you in the halal way. For now, you are still young. On the Day of Judgement you will be questioned as to what you did in your youths. Keep praying for the best, and pray for Allah's blessings and mercy first. You don't need a woman if you have Allah. However, Allah has created wives as companions. Insha Allah if it's fated you'll meet her soon.

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