Hello everyone, I'm not sure if there has been a similar question that has already been asked, as i am new.

My question is: " Is it alright for a Muslim woman to marry a Christian man?"

I have read through a lot of articles, most of them said no as it is a sin, and a few said it was alright, and that it has happened before, considering the fact that Christians are people of the book. I would like to know the reasons as well.

Thank you in advance.

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edited Jul 04 '13 at 12:17 Irfan Alam ♦ 1.0k1935 Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

I don't think we should be so quick to reprimand our dear sister. The matters of the heart can be a very tricky thing and not always so black and white. While I was still a Christian, I had strong feelings for a girl close to me and she had the same but she was dating a friend of mine at the time so I didn't act on my feelings. Shortly after I become a Muslim (Alhamdulilahi) I found out that she was single and available and even though I still had strong feelings for her and as a Muslim man I'm allowed to marry her, I chose not to be with her because marriage isn't just about your needs, its about your children and your grand children. They are entrusted to you by Allah and Allah will ask you to account for what he entrust you with. Also remember, Allah said the paradise of a woman is at her husbands feet. Your Ramadans would be alone, your prayers would be alone and if you choose to make hajj, that wouldn't be with your husband or children. I know what its like to give up something your heart wants like I did but at least my children now have something that I didn't, they are born Muslim with Muslim name from birth. That is more important than my needs. Make dua like the companions did that Allah should guide you and put the love of his choice in your heart. May Allahs mercy be with you.

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the obvious is this, any true muslim woman wouldn't decide to marry a christian man, because the intention would be wrong if she wanted to, it wouldn't be a wise decision it would be that she was following her own desires instead of what God has revealed.

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Hello sister, I used to be a Christian and I understand very well your dilemma. In a mixed religious home, the children tend to follow the religion they feel is easy which is usally Christianity. If you believe in Allah and his messenger as the last prophet them you believe what Allah said "I have chosen for you Islam as your religion" then ask yourself, would you want your children to pray "in the name of Jesus"? And if you try to pull them to Islam, would you be indirectly judging your husbands religion and wouldn't that bring strife in the long run?. You have chosen Islam as your Deen because you have been rightly guided, you have a duty to Allah and your children to ensure the security of their Deen. May Allah guide you.

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This does help, thank you again.

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You're very welcome.

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The following is taken directly from www. islamonline and is un-edited:

First of all, it is to be stressed that Islam does not encourage the interfaith marriages. The general rule of Islam is that Muslims should marry Muslims. A Muslim male or female should not marry a non-Muslim male or female. The only exception is given to Muslim men who are allowed to marry the chaste girls from among the People of the Book.

However, a Muslim woman is better suited to a Muslim man than a woman of Christian or Jewish faith, regardless of her merits. This is because marriage is not based on fulfilling one’s sexual desires; rather, it is an institution. It aims to establish a home on the bases of tranquility, faith and Islamic morals. To fulfil this task, the whole family must apply Allah’s course and try to convey His message.

It is obvious that Islam made it impermissible for a Muslim woman to marry a non-Muslim with aim of keeping her away from things that may jeopardize her faith. In fact, Islam aims at protecting religion. To achieve this goal, it prohibits a Muslim from being involved in something that represents a threat to his religion. A Muslim woman will not feel that her religion is secure while being with a Jewish or a Christian husband especially as the majority of the People of the Book do not show due respect to our Prophet, Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him).

Allah Almighty says: “And the Jews will not be pleased with thee, nor will the Christians, till thou follow their creed. Say: Lo! The guidance of Allah (Himself) is Guidance. And if thou shouldst follow their desires after the knowledge which hath come unto thee, then wouldst thou have from Allah no protecting friend nor helper.” (Al-Baqarah: 120)

Given the fact that the husband is generally the head of the household, it's not far-fetched for a non-Muslim husband to prevent his Muslim wife from performing some Islamic rituals which may seem a nuisance to him, for example fasting, or even refraining from marital relations during the fast. As a result, he might force her to change her religion, and if she refuses, the situation may culminate in divorce.

As for why Islam allows a Muslim man to marry a Christian or Jewish woman, it's clear that every Muslim believes in Moses and Jesus (peace be upon them) and he holds all the Prophets of Allah in high esteem. Thus a Muslim finds no harm in his wife’s being a Christian or a Jew, for the spirit of tolerance Islam holds for other religions is ingrained in him.

In his response to the question you raised, the eminent Muslim scholar, Sheikh Muhammad Al-Hanooti, member of the North American Fiqh Council, states:

"If Allah is the one who prohibits a Muslim woman from marrying a non-Muslim, then we as Muslims are supposed to believe it and to take it. As a matter of faith, you cannot become a Muslim unless you accept everything when it is ordained by Allah or carried out by his Messenger. The Qur'an says, "O Ye who believe! Put not yourselves forward before Allah and His Messenger…" (Al-Hujurat:)

If you ask about the benefits of not marrying a non-Muslim, we can count you many reasons. A man is the manager of his household. He will persecute his Muslim wife in many dos and don'ts. She can hardly guarantee that kind of operation. Moreover, marriage is an institution for elevating our levels of having a good Islamic life. Pleasing Allah is our number one goal. If a woman is married to a non-Muslim, maybe the only thing she will accomplish in her marital life is what is good for livestock."

Shedding more light on the question, we'd like to cite the words of the eminent Muslim scholar, Sheik Yusuf Al-Qaradawi, in his well-known book, The Lawful and the Prohibited in Islam:

"It is haram for a Muslim woman to marry a non-Muslim man, regardless of whether he is of the People of the Book or not. We have already mentioned the saying of Allah, "...and do not marry (your girls) to idolaters until they believe..." (Al-Baqarah: 221)

And He said concerning the immigrant Muslim women: "Then if you know them to be Believers, do not send them back to the unbelievers. They are not lawful for them (as wives), nor are they lawful for them (as husbands)." (Al-Mumtahanah: 10)

No text exists which makes exceptions for the People of the Book. Hence, on the basis of the above verses, there is a consensus among Muslims concerning this prohibition.

Thus, while a Muslim man is permitted to marry a Christian or Jewish woman, a Muslim woman is not allowed to marry a Christian or Jewish man. There are many sound reasons for this difference. First, the man is the head of the household, the one who maintains the family, and he is responsible for his wife. And while Islam guarantees freedom of belief and practice to the Christian or Jewish wife of a Muslim, safeguarding her rights according to her own faith, other religions, such as Judaism and Christianity, do not guarantee the wife of a different faith freedom of belief and practice, nor do they safeguard her rights. Since this is the case, how can Islam take chances on the future of its daughters by giving them into the hands of people who neither honor their religion nor are concerned to protect their rights?

A marriage between a man and woman of different faiths can be based only on the husband's respect for his wife's beliefs; otherwise a good relationship can never develop. Now, the Muslim believes that both Judaism and Christianity originated in divine revelation, although later distortions were introduced into them. He also believes that God revealed the Tawrah to Moses and the Injeel to Jesus, and that both Moses and Jesus (peace be on them) were among the Messengers of Allah who were distinguished by their steadfast determination. Accordingly, the Christian or Jewish wife of a Muslim lives under the protection of a man who respects the basic tenets of her faith, her Scripture, and her Prophets, while in contrast to this the Jew or Christian recognizes neither the Divine origin of Islam, its Book, or its Prophet (peace be on him). How then could a Muslim woman live with such a man, while her religion requires of her the observance of certain worships, duties, and obligations, as well as certain prohibitions. It would be impossible for the Muslim woman to retain her respect for her beliefs as well as to practice her religion properly if she were opposed in this regard by the master of the house at every step.

It will be realized from this that Islam is consistent with itself in prohibiting the Muslim man to marry a mushrik (polytheist) woman, for since Islam is absolutely opposed to shirk (polytheism), it would obviously be impossible for two such people to live together in harmony and love."

I hope this helps.

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This of course is all under the big assumption that the head of the household will opposed the woman at every step, just because he's Jew or Christian.

(Jul 04 '13 at 15:04) mo_18 mo_18's gravatar image

A Muslim man is allowed to marry a Christian woman, but a Christian man is not permitted to marry a Muslim woman.

The only explanation I can provide is that the Quran specifies that the male can marry a Christian or Jewish woman. Since he is the head of the household the expectation is that he will respect her rights and the children will take his religion.

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But why? I mean, what if the woman remains to be a Muslim? shouldn't she be allowed to marry the man who would be right for her?

(Jul 04 '13 at 12:24) UnknownUser UnknownUser's gravatar image

The same reason.... Christian or Jewish or any other non Muslims male cannot marry Muslim woman. Since he is the head of the household the expectation is that he will respect her rights and the children will take his religion.

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