I am a young sister, happily married alhamdulillah, live with my husband & our 3 young children in UK.
My husbands older sister is a widow living in Bangladesh. She has only one daughter who is married & living with husband in also in UK.
My husbands sister wants to move to UK & live with us permanently.
I cannot live live with her as I have lived with her before and I hated it. she is nearly 20 yrs older than me brought up in Bangladesh and I am born in UK. I have nothing in commom with her and find her too borring. She is not educated and relies on others for everything. eg: she cant even make a call herself.
She has lived with me before for 4 months and irritated me so much (too many issues to list all here) that it got to a point that I just cant stand her anymore. My husband work evenings and she was with me all evening everyday. Alhamdulillah I am a patient person and never said anything to her as i do not want to hurt her feelings. she is 50 nearly my mothers age and she was only here for a little while i decided to just put up with her until she goes.
Now she wants to come and live here with me & my family permanantly. Although i was patient enough to put up with her for 4 months I am not patient enough to put up with her for the rest of my life.
If I try to discuss this with my husband he doesnt want to know. for him his respect for his elder sister comes first.
I would like to know would it be our responsibility to look after her as she is a widow and her only child her daughter is married off. I am only assuming she does not want to go live with her daughter as she doesnt want to cause any issues in her daughters marriage.
Will I commit a sin if I refuse to lookafter my widow sister inlaw? can my husband force her to live with us even though I am unhappy about it. I know it will cause issues in my own marriage and my husband will start hating me if I dont respect his older sister but I just cant live with her. can i request to live seperately from my husband if he brings his sister into our house? Please can you provide a solution for my problem.
Jazak allah khair