El salamo alakom Brothers and sisters. I have a question and I am truly confused about this. Please do not judge for I have been having so much difficulty with this. A few years ago I was in love with a non-Muslim man. And I was willing to give him almost any thing. El hamdullah I did not commit one of gods biggest sins. Now three years later I am now engaged and islamiclly married to a Muslim man. However he is currently overseas and I have been having a hard time accepting my marriage. To make things worse the man I use to love messages me from time to time and I get so exicted and happy when I talk to him. However I can not bare the thought of conversating with my fiancé. I can not stand talking to him, seeing his photos or make time for him. But I can make time for the man I was in love with. To make things worse I am thinking of ending things with my fiancé because I do not love him and do not feel anything to him. My peeps say that it is the distance but in my heart I know that isn't the case. I can not stop thinking of the other man and I feel like I am emotionally cheating on my fiancé. I want a divorce but my parents told me I need to have a valid reason. I feel as if my engagment was too rushed and I ran out of time. Please brothers and sisters I need help and advice. For I do not know what to do.
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وَعَسَىٰ أَن تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ خَيْرٌ لَّكُمْ ۖ وَعَسَىٰ أَن تُحِبُّوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ شَرٌّ لَّكُمْ ۗ وَاللَّـهُ يَعْلَمُ وَأَنتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ ﴿٢١٦﴾

You may dislike a thing yet it may be good for you; or a thing may haply please you but may be bad for you. Only God has knowledge, and you do not know. (216)

ignore the other man try not to talk with him and when u think of him take his image out of ur mind and put ur husband's ,try to think of the things u like about him u might be feeling this way because that other man cane back into ur life and u have to get him out of it completely because if u don't u will always fell that way and even if u get divorced and marry another after all the time u think u need u still won't have feelings for him ,and be patient may allah lead u to the right path

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Salam. Brother tokabo has said the truth. I urge you to fear Allah so that you won't earn Allah's wrath. You are already someone else's wife, so try to put the other man out of mind. I advice you to be prayerful and careful. I pray Allah set your affairs in order. Say-‎‏ ‏‎ Allahumma unsurna alaa anfusinaa. Na'udhubillahi min shururi anfusinaa wa min sayyi'ati a'amalinaa.

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Salam. Brother tokabo has said the truth. I urge you to fear Allah so that you won't earn Allah's wrath. You are already someone else's wife, so try to put the other man out of mind. I advice you to be prayerful and careful. I pray Allah set your affairs in order. Say-‎‏ ‏‎ Allahumma unsurna alaa anfusinaa. Na'udhubillahi min shururi anfusinaa wa min sayyi'ati a'amalinaa.

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edited Oct 15 '13 at 10:24

paul, you didn't edit and put in the word "conversating"? why did you edit a question from june 5 hours ago?

(Oct 15 '13 at 16:15) abul rauf abul%20rauf's gravatar image

Your post is so interesting and informative. I got a lot of useful and significant information. Thank you so much.

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Sister its a very simple case. Your going through a case of guilty pleasures. You feel excited because you know its wrong n the thrill n pleasure is Zl P. N the more you try to stop the better the thrill becomes. The worse part is that now you are making excuses inside your mind to give you reason to do wrong. In actual fact there is nothing wrong.this is all shaitan trying to destroy your life n im afraid you are giving in . practically there is no point of going with the other guy as there is no future. Hes just having fun n playing the game.believe me im talking from experience. Take control sister. If you need any further advice send me email or phone number n will chat.

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