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As-sAlAmU 'aLaIkUm Wa Ra'HmAtUlLaHi Wa BaRaKaTuHu Wa MaGhFiRaTuHu. Dear brothers and sisters in islam please take me as a brother among you who needs help. InshaAllah you will rewarded by Allah for helping me. Please kindly take a little time to read my post and give helpful answers.I'm a 17 year old muslim boy, 5'3" tall, skinny and have childish features in my body that makes me look like a 10 year old. I've some serious issues with my physical and mental health. I sometimes force my body to do some acts(make intentions) but my body doesn't move at all. This doesn't happen a lot, but it still bugs me. I've many mental problems, like extremely low IQ, extremely low memory, extremely low data-processing ability, untalkative et cetera. Due to these problems I can't talk with others properly as making sentences takes a lot of time for me. Often I don't know what to say where and sometimes people make fun of my childish behavior. I can't make friends, do official works, can't carry out a conversation because of my psychological disablities. Okay, that's enough details for you to help me. Now the problem is that I have to become a better muslim. To accomplish that I've to cross many hurdles. Although born in a muslim family and have pronounced shahadah at a young age, I didn't get to learn much about Islam due to my family being bad muslims. They don't even pray sometimes. Growing up in this environment I neglected islam till i was fifteen. In these years I've done so many sins like missing fard salat and saum intentionally. Al'hamdulillah, at least Allah gave me the time and opportunity to practice Islam now. Now I think I have to make up these salats and saums but I can't start. I have so much left to learn about Islam that I don't think I know anything at all. All I do is that I try to pray the five salats at mosque, fast in ramdan, do zikr etc but Islam has to be learnt more than that. With great difficulity I managed to memorize something like 560 verses from quran, read arabic Quran, remember some masla masails of salat, saum. But this isn't enough to become a good muslim. A good muslim needs to have 1. Faith 2. Knowledge in Islam 3. Love 4. Tolerance 5. Sincerity 6. Intelligence 7. Courage 8. Taqwa 9. Ikhlas 10. Willforce and many other qualities. I still haven't learnt arabic, the Quran by heart, the hadiths, the other essential kitabs and so on. To do these I need to find a shaykh but I don't even know how to talk with others. So how will I manage it? My parents don't help me even slightly in this matter. Rather they sometimes tell me to go against the deen. They force me to study in college where many times I can't pray my fard salats due to lack of space or exams. Wallah I feel so bad when i miss a prayer even unintetionally. Due to an exam few days ago I missed a salat because the waqt was over although I thought time was left. I felt so bad when I came to know that I missed a salah. The next day i became so angry that i skipped an exam just to make sure that I could pray my juhur salat in time. This kinds of incidents are happening to me almost everyday. I missed prayer in buses, in sleeps so many times. Wallah I just don't know what to do. I just can't stop sinning in an environment like this! Wallah i don't how will i save myself from hellfire T _ T . I can't focus on my study because of these thoughts. I gave h.s.c exam in a very bad way, i just couldn't get my mind to study. My results were great before, with gpa 5 in s.s.c. Plz do some dua for me so that i might get a good result. If I fail to get a good grade my parents might even kick me out of the house. In the future my parents might even force me to do jobs but wallah I just don't know what to do. I can't even communicate with others properly due to my mental disease. With all these problems in my hand, the only way i see for me to become a good muslim is to move out from my parents house and earn my own bread. But wallah, i can't even talk with people properly, let alone manage a job. I doubt anyone will give a job to someone like me who looks like a ten year old boy. Wallah I just don't know what to do. I need to become a good muslim through these obstacles but HOW? Please help me. Jazak Allah for reading my post.

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edited Jul 30 '13 at 20:03 Irfan Alam ♦ 1.1k11042 Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

Assalamu’alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ

وَلَنَبْلُوَنَّكُم بِشَيْءٍ مِّنَ الْخَوْفِ وَالْجُوعِ وَنَقْصٍ مِّنَ الْأَمْوَالِ وَالْأَنفُسِ وَالثَّمَرَاتِ ۗ وَبَشِّرِ الصَّابِرِينَ ﴿١٥٥﴾ الَّذِينَ إِذَا أَصَابَتْهُم مُّصِيبَةٌ قَالُوا إِنَّا لِلَّـهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ ﴿١٥٦﴾ أُولَـٰئِكَ عَلَيْهِمْ صَلَوَاتٌ مِّن رَّبِّهِمْ وَرَحْمَةٌ ۖ وَأُولَـٰئِكَ هُمُ الْمُهْتَدُونَ ﴿١٥٧﴾

And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient, (155) Who, when disaster strikes them, say, "Indeed we belong to Allah, and indeed to Him we will return." (156) Those are the ones upon whom are blessings from their Lord and mercy. And it is those who are the [rightly] guided. (157)

u r undergoing a test even the prophets didn't have it easy at all and they have been chosen over all mankind , so don't give up u can pass this test u just need a little patience , u have to obey ur parents but not about religion if they don't obey Allah , we are ur family don't be harsh on ur brothers and sisters i just saw ur post and maybe they didn't see it yet , don't say u have a low iq u said u used to have good grades u just need to exercise ur brain there are games like Sudoku , and i have memory problems too i can spend three days trying to remember something happened the week before but nothing we can't fix u say u already memorized 650 verses that is good and there several ways to improve ur memory several books about this topic but trying to memorize quran will help u greatly , about the talking problem don't be harsh on ur self see a doctor i don't know much about it but if u keep avoiding conversations then it won't get any better talk even to ur self talk to Allah i hope u get over it soon , u should never miss ur prayers set ur alarm or get a reminder anything that would help u and u have to fast but if u are studying for tests and u feel u can't go on then it is perfectly ok to not fast that day but after Ramadan u have to fast it \

there are many websites about islam here are a few

ill get u more if u need

be patient and it all will work out just do the fards and focus on ur exams and they are over u will have time to think about everything else don't keep thinking about ur parents and what will they do u don't know for sure and it is still in the future.

may allah help u and give u the ability to get throw this and be patient

answered 2394 tokabo's gravatar image
edited Jul 30 '13 at 17:22

Hay mike knock it off, your anthics are starting to becoming bother some. If you choose your path then to you be it walk it and in the end if leads you where ever you want to so do be it. But please stop the shanigans. If you want to talk islam or debate it we can, don't hide behind the lie of a seventeen year old like you did about the thirteen year old. STOP IT!

answered 8331040 yaqin's gravatar image

Wait.. Which one is Mike? Salam

(Jul 31 '13 at 02:39) sadie ♦ sadie's gravatar image

Hey, I'm not mike.

(Jul 31 '13 at 04:48) XxHman549xX XxHman549xX's gravatar image

سلام علیکم یا اخی

be calm brother, be calm. a real Muslim never don't panic from any thing in life because Muslims believe "some one is watching over them" and he is no one but Allah سبحانه و تعالی :)

Reliance and trust to Allah is the best possible way to have peace in life. so at the first point don't loose control over your mind :) you will be fine :)

now lets talk about your self :

every thing you explained in your post were your negative properties. I want you to gather your mind and in your net post explain your positive properties. ok ? just try focus on every good thing in your life.

I'm waiting for your next post :)

answered 304 peaceman's gravatar image

@peaceman, what positive thing can I have in life if I am predestined to burn in hellfire for an eternity?

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let me help you :

you believe in Allah, you have chance to study, you have parents, you have computer and internet to use, you have eyes to see, you have mouth to talk, you have ears to hear, you are Muslim, you have foots to walk, you have hands to do your own works, you have freedom, you have a friend like me ;) and looooooooooooooooooooooots of other things that you can say better than me ...

don,t let your anger take control over you brother cause thats exactly what evil is looking for. now its your turn to continue counting your positive properties :)

answered 304 peaceman's gravatar image

@peaceman, thanx 4 atleast replying, I don't want to know what is positive in my life. I wanted to know what should I do in dis situation? Waiting for your kind reply....

answered (suspended) XxHman549xX's gravatar image

It's my duty to help my Muslim brother :)

in this situation you need to understand that its not as bad as you think. the reason of our pray is thank from Allah for the life we have and every good things in our life he gave us. if we feel there is nothing good in our life, then we get your feelings : " I am predestined to burn in hellfire for an eternity" and it leads to weakness in our faith and so on ...

you need to get back your hilarity and motivation to continue your daily activities including Islam instructions and that won't happen but by finding you positive view if your life. and whats better than an Islamic view for life ?

saying pray is not just a daily activity, it must be from your deep heart feelings and with anger and hate and disappointing you cant be a good Muslim because its against believing in Allah.

remember Allah - الرحمن و الرحیم is always waiting for us to pay attention at him, worship him, thanks him and tell him that we remember his kindness and love. Allah is the best possible friend to share our griefs with and ask him for help. just talk to your best friend with all your heart. tell him your concerns, tell him your wills, tell him your life troubles and I promise you he will answer you back :)

answered 304 peaceman's gravatar image

Peaceman, I like your comments.

Haman, you have to think more positive, and don't be too harsh with your self, everyone has weaknesses, but those who strive, those win the reward. Allah is testing you, I hope you will not fail your test and I hope Allah will protect you from satan. We all feel we are not good enough to do things but it's the trick of satan. You pray 5 times, I myself started praying 5 times since ramadan this year, inshallah I will continue. And Allah strengthen you in your test, and prepare a good reward for you in the hereafter, you are truly a soldier. Glory be to Allah.

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