Can a wife divorce her husband if wife has stopped loving her husband for various reasons?

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Allah places love between the heart of husbands and wives but this love has to be protected in order for a better life.

I am writing this becuase a lot of people have said quite straightforward you can divorce. But if you are serious about khulla there are many rigorous rules to khulla and rightly so. By not loving your husband this could be the result of many things including your own nafs. No scholar would say based on not loving your husband they will perform khulla for you as they will be accountable for their pronouncement. When the sahabiyat would seek khulla as in your example above it was not on the basis of I do not love him, more often, it was due to them fearing Allah does not love my husband, subhaanallah!

You give no details saying you are protecting him but this is a contradiction in itself as you want to be free from him. In these situations I would say you need to contact scholars to discuss who are able to give you a ruling as to whether your concern is legititmate or not.

Marriage is hard work and we change as people and at time spouses do not like the changes in each other this is part of life, noone's perfect.

If you are being oppressed and abused Islam is very clear on this but both spouses need to put their stories forward and usually the truth is somewhere in the middle. My advice would be to speak to people of knowledge explaining the situation fully. without this no one will give you advise as it is very serious area.

answered 1815 umm%20daud's gravatar image

Yes sister,if your husband is abusive and hates you, you have the right to take your kids and leave........or kick him out :)

answered 66420 Iman%20Nabil's gravatar image

Assalamalaikomarahmatullahewabarakatuuuh dear,

Although divorce being allowed in Islam is a sign of the lenience and practical nature of the Islamic legal system, keeping the unity of the family is considered a priority for the sake of the children. For this reason, divorce is always a last choice, after exhausting all possible means of reconciliation. For example, Allah addresses men asking them to try hard to keep the marriage, even if they dislike their wives:

live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and God brings about through it a great deal of good. - Surah 4 Verse 19

Also the following verse is addressed to women asking them the same thing: If a wife fears cruelty or desertion on her husband's part, there is no blame on them if they arrange an amicable settlement between themselves; ... - Surah 4 Verse 128 I hope it helped.

answered 21328 Aaqib%20J's gravatar image

I think it's also important to keep in mind also , that Satan wants husbands and wives to split, wants the family to fall apart! So truly as has already been said call on Allah, both you and your husband. Ask Allah to help you both work through your issues. Nchallah that may help you and remember Allah knows best turn to him :)

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