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can i leave my wife if my parents tell me to do so because my wife said bad words about my parents

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Praise be to Allaah Most Merciful, Most Kind, Undoubtedly the parents are those who are most deserving of respect, obedience and kind treatment. Allaah mentions the command to treat parents well alongside the command to worship Him as He says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents”[al-Isra’ 17:23] 

Obedience to parents is obligatory when it does not have intended bad or harmful intentions. With regard to that which does not aim to bring well intended outcomes or intends to bring harm to those concerned, then obedience is not recommended in that case.

You are obviously aware of what bad things your wife has said, and your sources of information reliable. If you are unsure of what bad words were said, then you do not have a strong enough grounds to consider divorce. In this case, you should stay married to her. it was proven that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

"Obedience is only with regard to that which is right and proper.” Based on this, you should honor your parents and uphold ties of kinship with them.

In the case that you are inclined towards divorcing your wife and looking for any minor excuse you can find to justify this, be cautious as Aallah’s Messenger (s.a.w) said: “The lawful thing which Allah hates most is divorce.” This hadith goes to show that divorce is among the legal things that are Halal but it is not good.

May Allaah SWT guide you in your decision.

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answered 5237 stronghold's gravatar image

,BE RESPECTFUL TO YOUR PARENTS & BE JUST

IF YOUR PARENTS SAY SOMETHING BAD TO YOUR WIFE IN REPLY THEN SHE USE BAD WORDS THEN ACT AS A NEGOTIATOR AND TRY TO BRING PEACE BETWEEN THEM .Realize Both Party to forget and forgive each other .

If Mistake done by yr Wife then TRY TO Realize the WIFE that MISTAKE done by her and try to convince HER TO BE SORRY TO YOUR PARENTS and take promise not to treat yr parents bad anymore and ask yr parents to forgive her .

that what religion Islam told us peace is always first option.. be JUST hope it works

The most Important Seek help from Allah the Lord of the worlds .

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