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Ok to explain my problem... I have to start of 3.5 years ago... There was a girl I fell in love with 3.5 years ago... I loved her with all my heart... Even after four years I still love her.... I never talk to her because I am too shy to.. But I always chat with her... I told her that I love her... Don't get me wrong... I wasn't intrested in a boy girl relationship.. You may find it hard to believe... But my niyah was that if he loves me... Then she will remember me when get to marriageable age... But the problem is that she never loved me.... She had a boyfriend who broke up with her..... I am crying basically everyday because of this.... For the past four years I've bought gifts for her on eids and her birthday but I could never give it to her.... So it is just lying in my friends house.... I prayed on kaabah a cloth with all my heart to make her love me.. And nothing happened.... And next yet I prayed on kaabah with all my heart to make me forget her but till nothing happens... But it is still my prayer to forget her everyday but I can't.... I tried not chatting with her or looking at her pictures for my whole two month vacation but I started to miss et more... I really do not know what to do.... She doesn't love me at all whatever I do for her... I really do not know why to do here... And currently right now I am 15 years old.... Many people tell me to concentrate on studies... Plz don't say that.. I already know.. Tell me something new to do... I am crying very day for her... It hurts alooot... But I am still able to accept her anytime... PlEase help me... And yes she is a muslim and she wears hijab and prays alas namaz on time (including fajr)

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okay let's start.. "I never talk to her because I am too shy to.. But I always chat with her..."- see chat is also talking only.though not face to face but it's the same communication you do right up in front of each other. " But my niyah was that if he loves me... Then she will remember me when get to marriageable age"- now even after reading your complete post again I don't get what your exact intention is.your 15 now and probably were around 12.okay your niyat was if she loved you,she will Marry you at a age when desired (or probably a 'marriageable age'). ok bro now let me tell you what the whole thing exactly is. in Islam our shariat does not allow us to stare or look at a non-direct relative woman.so where exactly love stands? you are hitting teenage.its common to get attracted to the opposite sex.as even im 19 I know how gf,bf things have become common these days.the only thing we can do is SELF-CONTROL.these unwanted thoughts erupt in our mind when we indulge in chatting with the opposite sex. shaytan always puts some or the other unwanted things in our mind so to divert us from allah. see brother allah solely created humans for worshipping him.. marriage,job,salary,food are just simple needs to sustain our lives but the ultimate goal is WORSHIPPING ALLAH .. don't think of her nor any other girl. divert your complete attention towards ALLAH.. and remember these golden words - "SELF CONTROL IS ALWAYS BETTER THAN CONTROLLING AN ARMY" "ITS ALWAYS BETTER TO LOVE THE GIRL YOU MARRY THAN TO MARRY THE GIRL YOU LOVE" "THERE IS NOTHING AS 'LOVE BEFORE MARRIAGE' IN ISLAM" and lastly "KEEP GOD IN REMEMBERANCE UNTILL SELF IS FORGOTTEN" May ALLAH guide you and me to control our nafs!! Ameen!!

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I started chatting with her after I fell in love with her... Like two years after I fell I. Love with her I made an fb account and started chatting because when I don't chat I miss here sooomuch and when I chat u feel soo sad

(Sep 17 '13 at 17:36) Mohammed ejaz Mohammed%20ejaz's gravatar image
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