Ok to explain my problem... I have to start of 3.5 years ago... There was a girl I fell in love with 3.5 years ago... I loved her with all my heart... Even after four years I still love her.... I never talk to her because I am too shy to.. But I always chat with her... I told her that I love her... Don't get me wrong... I wasn't intrested in a boy girl relationship.. You may find it hard to believe... But my niyah was that if he loves me... Then she will remember me when get to marriageable age... But the problem is that she never loved me.... She had a boyfriend who broke up with her..... I am crying basically everyday because of this.... For the past four years I've bought gifts for her on eids and her birthday but I could never give it to her.... So it is just lying in my friends house.... I prayed on kaabah a cloth with all my heart to make her love me.. And nothing happened.... And next yet I prayed on kaabah with all my heart to make me forget her but till nothing happens... But it is still my prayer to forget her everyday but I can't.... I tried not chatting with her or looking at her pictures for my whole two month vacation but I started to miss et more... I really do not know what to do.... She doesn't love me at all whatever I do for her... I really do not know why to do here... And currently right now I am 15 years old.... Many people tell me to concentrate on studies... Plz don't say that.. I already know.. Tell me something new to do... I am crying very day for her... It hurts alooot... But I am still able to accept her anytime... PlEase help me... And yes she is a muslim and she wears hijab and prays alas namaz on time (including fajr)

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okay let's start.. "I never talk to her because I am too shy to.. But I always chat with her..."- see chat is also talking only.though not face to face but it's the same communication you do right up in front of each other. " But my niyah was that if he loves me... Then she will remember me when get to marriageable age"- now even after reading your complete post again I don't get what your exact intention is.your 15 now and probably were around 12.okay your niyat was if she loved you,she will Marry you at a age when desired (or probably a 'marriageable age'). ok bro now let me tell you what the whole thing exactly is. in Islam our shariat does not allow us to stare or look at a non-direct relative woman.so where exactly love stands? you are hitting teenage.its common to get attracted to the opposite sex.as even im 19 I know how gf,bf things have become common these days.the only thing we can do is SELF-CONTROL.these unwanted thoughts erupt in our mind when we indulge in chatting with the opposite sex. shaytan always puts some or the other unwanted things in our mind so to divert us from allah. see brother allah solely created humans for worshipping him.. marriage,job,salary,food are just simple needs to sustain our lives but the ultimate goal is WORSHIPPING ALLAH .. don't think of her nor any other girl. divert your complete attention towards ALLAH.. and remember these golden words - "SELF CONTROL IS ALWAYS BETTER THAN CONTROLLING AN ARMY" "ITS ALWAYS BETTER TO LOVE THE GIRL YOU MARRY THAN TO MARRY THE GIRL YOU LOVE" "THERE IS NOTHING AS 'LOVE BEFORE MARRIAGE' IN ISLAM" and lastly "KEEP GOD IN REMEMBERANCE UNTILL SELF IS FORGOTTEN" May ALLAH guide you and me to control our nafs!! Ameen!!

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I started chatting with her after I fell in love with her... Like two years after I fell I. Love with her I made an fb account and started chatting because when I don't chat I miss here sooomuch and when I chat u feel soo sad

(Sep 17 '13 at 17:36) Mohammed ejaz Mohammed%20ejaz's gravatar image

@Mohammed ejaz : what does this mean "when I don't chat I miss here sooomuch and when I chat U feel soo sad".. how did I come in between .. and as I said before it's shaytan's planning to divert us from ALLAH.stop thinking of her and engross yourselves completely in salah,Quran. inshallah you will be able to forget her

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I am on phone and the letter "u" is right beside "I" so read it as " I feel soo bad"

(Sep 18 '13 at 10:59) Mohammed ejaz Mohammed%20ejaz's gravatar image

I think i will advice you to have control emotions,and keep praying to Allah for the right person to come your way as house wife,when you are ready and fully mature,emotionally,financially and psychologically. May Allah guide and leads you through

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Thank you for your advice I will surely implement on it

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Mashallah, this brother is in love with a girl just like I was once, it is nothing wrong with that bro, tell her that you want to merry her, if she accept then get married, if she don't then I advice you to move on even if it will be impossible for you. You just have to think of the future, believe me, after 5 years I finally came over a girl, and I never had any sexual relationship with her, and never wanted, I just wanted to die for her and do whatever to make her happy. After 5 hard years, 5 years is very long time... My heart grew cold and I don't have much of feelings anymore, I don't feel much of sadness or happiness, I don't care about life either, death doesn't scare me, once I came in fight with a bunch of dudes, instead of running away, I ran at them to fight them, and sometimes I get attacked by the Jinns in the middle of the night, I can't move and it feels like they want to come inside me, but I never panic, I even use to laugh when it happens sometimes, when I say the Shahadat they go away. I have studied Islam and know very much about it. Some few times I pray 5 times a day and sometimes I don't pray in a month, I know about hellfire very well, but I have lost fear, only times I worship Allah is when I think of all the things Allah has created for me and you, therefore Allah deserves to be worshiped. So bro, if your still reading, I would like you to know that it will destroy you if you continue like that, I'm not normal, I have gone crazy, but at least I know it, because I remember how I used to be before.

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yeah i am slowly losing other feelings to.. 4 years is long.. and i was just 11 when i started.. i am slowly thinking lvoe is useless. i am afraid if i marry i wont be able to love anyone.. but you have experience.. am i right.. will i be able to love anyone again?

(Sep 23 '13 at 13:52) Mohammed ejaz Mohammed%20ejaz's gravatar image

After long pain and sorrow. Time will heal your wounds, God willing. You should know that when love goes wrong, it transform into sorrow. So be careful with this kind of love. It change your life for the better or for the worse. And that time is all wasted + you become a different person that you want to become because it is stronger then your will. And there is nothing you can do. So you should start to work on it from now on. God bless you.

(Sep 25 '13 at 06:58) UnknownUser UnknownUser's gravatar image

Thanks a lot brother :D u have Helped me alot

(Sep 27 '13 at 07:24) Mohammed ejaz Mohammed%20ejaz's gravatar image

Brother one suggestion for you to control your emotions you are teenager after some time eg after 20 you will realize that you was wrong you just wasted your time. At this age this is called fatuation dont get me wrong but i am stating fact so control your emotions and feelings and focus on your studies or life. This is real advice i can give you

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May LOVE come back again to all my brothers.

It's a weakness but when you can clearly see it and know how to control it, it becomes your strength.

Allah loves Muhammad SAW, but still gives him hard test. YET he still LOVES Allah, why is that? ^^

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Allah loves Muhammad SAW because Muhammad was patient in the hard test that was given to him. Allah loves the people that are patient in their hard test, not only does Allah love the prophets, but he also loves the people after them that are also PATIENT with their hard test.

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Yes I am patient.. He is testing me if my faith will break when he doesn't make the girl I love to love me.. But inshallah I won't break my faith

(Oct 31 '13 at 17:04) Mohammed ejaz Mohammed%20ejaz's gravatar image

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(Oct 31 '13 at 17:04) Mohammed ejaz Mohammed%20ejaz's gravatar image

Bro get yourself checked by Raqi: islamic healer.

There are millions of women. Forget her n move on ..she has so let her go

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