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salam walykum, i am inshallah going to get married in november to someone from india, i am travelling there for the wedding. the man i am going to get married too has a sister who is married and has two children, they are travelling from saudi to india to attend the wedding.after we get married my husband and i will be going travelling around india 4-5 days after we get married to get to know each other. i am only going to be staying in india for 4 weeks so we are going to have little time to get to know each other. i have recently been told that my future sister inlaw and her husband and family are going to be joining us on the trip. i have no problems with the fact that she is coming, however with her husband being there means there is going to be a gharmehram and its going to be very uncomfatable. my future husband doesnt seem to think its a problem, how do i approach this topic without sounding like i dont want the family there?

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Salam Sister,

‘Uqba b. Amir reported Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: “Beware of getting, into the houses and meeting women (in seclusion).” A person from the Ansar said: “Allah’s Messenger, what about the husband’s brother?” Whereupon he said: “The husband’s brother is like death.” (Muslim 5400).

This Hadith is considered to apply equally well to cases such as yours.

The solution is simple: you must wear hijab in front of your brother-in-law, and you are not allowed to be alone with him under any circumstance. Why should this be a problem?

I hope this helps

May Allah (Subhana wa Ta'ala) grant you a happy and fulfilling marriage. And enjoy your holiday!

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edited Sep 19 '13 at 04:06

Salam Sister,

I agree with Brother Stronghold. As ever he talks a lot of sense.

(Sep 19 '13 at 07:35) UnknownUser UnknownUser's gravatar image

I try to brother. Sometimes it takes a number of our answers collectively to present a complete, solid answer. It just goes to show that many pious heads are better than one. Yes, we all need each other :-) May Allaah SWT guide us all and shower us with His blessings. Ameen

(Sep 19 '13 at 16:01) stronghold ♦ stronghold's gravatar image

Like I said, talk a lot of sense!

May Allah (Subhana wa Ta'ala) grant you happiness in this life, and in the life to come. Ameen.

(Sep 20 '13 at 02:18) UnknownUser UnknownUser's gravatar image

Sallaam sister,

It would have been much more appropriate to have allowed you and your husband time together as you will just have been married. You want to be relaxed and rightly so, alone with your husband. May Allaah SWT bless them with common sense.

There is not much you can do but try to make the best of the situation.

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answered 0435120 UnknownUser's gravatar image

Many thanks, sister.

I hope you have a wonderful time. Many congratulations.

(Sep 19 '13 at 08:15) UnknownUser UnknownUser's gravatar image
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