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Salam,pls I want to know maximum time a man can stay away from his wife because for almost three years now there has been no sexual contact between me and my husband.

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edited Oct 02 '13 at 16:06

Salam sister,

When you say that your husband has 'stayed' away from you, do you mean that he is absent from your marital home (as I assumed in my earlier reply); or that, while living with you, he no longer has sexual contact with you? If it's that he no longer has sex with you, (and I now suspect this is the case) then I will delete my first reply.

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What all started?

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we can hardly understant ur post, can u pls xpanciat further?

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Salam sister,

Dr. Su`aad Salih, Professor of Fiqh at Al-Azhar University has said (and I quote his words in full):

‘The maximum limit a husband is allowed to be away from his wife is four months, or six months according to the view of the Hanbali scholars. This is the maximum period a woman can endure separation from her husband.

'Commentators of the Glorious Qur'an narrate the following incident in support of this opinion.

'One night Caliph `Umar ibn Al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) was making his rounds of Madinah when he heard a woman singing:

'The night is long, darkness all around me; I am sleepless, for I have no friend to play with. By Allah, had there been no fear of Him, This cot would be shaking from side to side.

'Upon investigation, `Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) found that the woman's husband had been on a military expedition for a long time. He then asked his daughter, Hafsah, a widow of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), "How long can a woman endure separation from her husband?" She replied, "Four months." As a consequence, he decided that he would not send a married man away from his wife for a period exceeding four months.

'However, if a wife agrees to give up this right for more than this period, then it is lawful and there is no wrong in this.’

Mufti Ibrahim Desai confirms that:

‘A married person may stay away from his wife for whatever period that was mutually agreed upon. However, if the wife is not happy regarding the husband staying away, then the husband should meet his wife at least once every four months.’

You say that your husband has been away from you for three years. What are his reasons (not what you think they are, but what they truly are)? The status of your marriage may well depend on this.

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