I had a boyfriend for two years during sixth form, as I didn't take my deen seriously, and I surrounded myself with bad company. I have just started uni, and I really regret it, I have the fear of hellfire now and of having disappointed Allah (SWT) and my parents finding out, to the point where I feel nausea when I think about it. I make sure pray now and read quran and surround myself with muslim girls who are much better muslims than I mashallah, hopefully they will rub off on me.

I am fully prepared to repent for the rest of my life if need be, but I read somewhere that adulterers are only allowed to marry adulterers. (I didn't sleep with him, but we did kiss and touch, does this qualify me as an adulterer?) how would i go about finding another adulterer? i would feel guilty not being 100% pure for a potential future husband, so if i can't find an adulterer is the solution to just not marry? I know it's not ideal in Islam, but I don't know what else to do...

asked 10 klj1234's gravatar image

AssalamuAlaikum

Dear sister,

YES, you are allowed to marry a righteous husband and get married. In fact, Islam encourages you to get married, and the shaitan wants to prevent you from marrying a righteous husband.

The verse in the Quran talks about those who have committed illicit sexual intercourse according to my understanding (and Allah knows best) and such people are allowed to get married once they have repented sincerely, and given up the sin.

Please read the following answers carefully. The answers are compiled by the Saudi Scholar Sheikh Salih Al Munajjid.

  1. http://www.islamqa.com/en/14381

  2. http://www.islamqa.com/en/34161

Allah the Exalted, as if addressing YOU in the Quran in the highlighted part, says:

And hasten to forgiveness from your Lord and a garden as wide as the heavens and earth, prepared for the righteous

Who spend [in the cause of Allah] during ease and hardship and who restrain anger and who pardon the people – and Allah loves the doers of good;

And those who, when they commit an immorality or wrong themselves [by transgression], remember Allah and seek forgiveness for their sins –

and who can forgive sins except Allah? –

and [who] do not persist in what they have done while they know.

Those – their reward is forgiveness from their Lord and gardens beneath which rivers flow [in Paradise], wherein they will abide eternally;

and excellent is the reward of the [righteous] workers.

Surah Ale Imran (133-136)

Note: I have split one verse into many lines in the quote of the translation of the meanings of the Quran.

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answered 2805 UmarAbdullah's gravatar image

thank you so much! I had been feeling very depressed, but now I see Allah (SWT) is merciful, and I just have to stick to the right path from now on. Jazakallah khair!

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answered 10 klj1234's gravatar image

You are welcome sister.

I pray Allah blesses you with a righteous spouse, and good company.

For the benefit of the people who may not read the link Im copying part of the answer from the link http://www.islamqa.com/en/14381.

Note: I am not an Alim and the fatwa is the opinion of the Scholar and not mine,


Allaah has forbidden the believers to marry a person who commits zina, whether man or woman.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“The Zani [meaning a man who commit illegal sex] marries not but a Zani or a Mushrikah; and the Zaniyah [a female Zani], none marries her except a Zani or a Mushrik. [This means that the man who agrees to marry (have a sexual relation with) a Mushrikah or a prostitute, then surely, he is either an adulterer — fornicator, or a Mushrik. And the woman who agrees to marry (have a sexual relation with) a Mushrik or an adulterer — fornicator, then she is either a prostitute or a Mushrikah.] Such a thing is forbidden to the believers” [Surah al-Noor 24:3]


If the one who has committed zina repents to Allaah, truly and sincerely, then Allaah will forgive him or her, and overlook the sin.

Allaah says, after mentioning the warning to those who commit zina:

“Except those who repent and believe, and do righteous deeds;

for those, Allaah will change their sins into good deeds,

and Allaah is Oft Forgiving, Most Merciful.

And whosoever repents and does righteous good deeds;

then verily, he repents towards Allaah with true repentance”

[al-Furqaan 25:70-71 – interpretation of the meaning]

If the person repents sincerely, then it becomes permissible for him or her to get married, after they give up this sin.

Shaykh Muhammad ibn Ibraaheem was asked about the ruling on getting married to a woman who has committed zina. He said: “it is not permissible to marry the woman who has committed adultery until she repents… if a man wants to marry her, he has to be sure that she is not pregnant, by waiting until she has a period before he does the marriage contract with her. If she is pregnant, then it is not permissible for him to marry her until she has given birth.”

See al-Fataawa al-Jaami’ah li’l-Mar’ah al-Muslimah, 2/584

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