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Hey guys, it's AB again. I've been busy with wedding plans and getting my degree. As many know I'm still in a rock in a hard place with transition.

My new question this go around is forgiveness. I call my real a sperm donor. He has never been their for me, always in and out of jail, tries to be a parent , but he knows knowing about me but my name and birthday. He has multiple children with many women, and recently we had a fall out towards the end of my senior year of high school before graduation in may of this year, he called me disrespectful out of the blue when I gave him the information to graduation via facebook, because at the time I had no cell phone.

My brother informed me that he broke the news to our grandfather who then called me and asked would I be inviting anyone from their side of the family to my wedding. I didn't have an answer just yet because they have never made an effort to be a part of my life at all. I would attend family events on their side but my siblings and I just felt like we don't fit in with them. They only know our names.

Am I wrong for not wanting them to be apart of something so big in my life as this?

we can not forgive anyone enough in our entire life time. I remember a quote, or Hadith that states something about asking for forgiveness or saying i forgive you, 77 x per day. That is to say, a person can not say it 77x in a day to a person, meaning forgiveness is for our entire lives to forgive and keep on forgiving, and thus also to ask for forgiveness. ( please correct me if I am wrong ). The prophet, pbuh, used ask for forgiveness every night, regardless.

The Prophet ﷺ said that: “Whoever suffers an injury and forgives (the person responsible), God will raise his status to a higher degree and remove one of his sins” (Al-Tirmidhi).

"Pardon them and overlook - Allah loves those who do good" (Qur'an 5:13)

"Those who control their anger and are forgiving towards people; Allah loves the good." (Qur'an, 3: 134)

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