I am married for 9 years and a father of 2 boys and only son of my parents, working in Dubai. My parents live in Karachi. I visit them every 3-4 months. We video chat almost every day. They are getting older and offcourse getting weak as well which concerns me. In an ideal world I want them to be with me which is not happening due to some reasons.
My wife belongs to an educated family. She loves me and is a perfect muslim wife Alhamdolillah and have no issues with her. After the wedding, my mother started to dislike my wife and her family and always had reasons to complain about them. In laws tried to retain the link with us. In her opinion, they were never a perfect inlaws because of the reasons such as (not being rich, not being beautiful etc.)
Mother does not value my in-laws and this has separated two homes.
My mother never liked wife to visit her parents house. She skipped the invitations sent to her, anyone visited from their side was not welcome at my father's house. So inlaws stopped coming. Its only me and my father who visit inlaws.
Mother humiliated, cursed her and her family in their home saying bad things about their family, teasing on beauty and character, objecting about dowry that her family did not give enough and many other things she said.
At the time of first child birth wife was mistreated and was asked to leave the house as well.
My father and I have tried on several occasions to make her understand and stop what she is doing but she is always complaining about them without realizing that Islamically she has no right on her.
I have proposed my father to live with me in UAE but to save my home he does not want to quit job in Pakistan.
I later recommended that at least come here and I arrange another apartment in my same building this way I can take care of both houses but he prefers to stay in his house than being in a separate apratment with me.
My wife does not find it safe for our healthy relationship and kids if we live together. My wife and my father have a very good understanding. She recommended that she leaves and stays with her parents so I can take care of my parents... well this is not what I want.
I want my parents to live a safe, healthy, religiously active life in UAE with me. I find it difficult to get settled in Pakistan.
I find myself in a tough situation since mother fails to understand the rights of each person in the household. Mother also fails to understand that she is not helping build stable relationship so her and my father's old age days can be spent with peace. It is very difficult to keep both woman together in a single roof. I want to take care of them along with my wife and kids but don't know the way out.
Please advise the options.