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Assalamu alaikum.I recently got a proposal,the guys mother and the guy is asking for photos of me where the head/hair must be uncovered and arms must be visible.Though i stay in saudi arabia i need to follow my indian culture which i dont follow as i want to marry a practicing can anyone let me know whether it is permissable for a girl to uncover her head/hair in front of her suitor if he asks for it. if no..then please help me so that i can explain it to then and my mother..jazak Allah

asked 01 Asifa%20AK's gravatar image

yes I have done this many times and if your man requires it he will then see you as the obedient one to him and he will like you more so

(Dec 10 '13 at 18:50) lindashoapa lindashoapa's gravatar image

O alaikum salaam, sister, I dont know the official ruling on this, but i have been in a similar position. My heart has always told me NO, because, it is about self honour and respect. If this man can not take you on face value alone, then he is lacking some self dignity, and respect towards you. What if he were to decline the offer, after seeing your hair, and arms, next he might want to see your whole body or legs. It just says to me he is more worried about perfection and your outer shell. Lets not forget, if we were to ask to see his arms or stomach, then what. We would never dream of this. He should take us for our minds and looks and not the superficial parts, and of course for our iman. We wear the hijjab for a reason, so why take it off to a man that may be interested in us, and is not even married to us.

answered 3488 abyadgirl's gravatar image

Subhana Allah .

(Oct 31 '13 at 20:29) sadie ♦ sadie's gravatar image

Allah states in the Holy Quran:

"And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.) and not to show off their adornments except only that which is apparent (like palms of hands or one eye or both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer dress like veil, gloves, head cover, apron, etc.), and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms, etc.) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband’s fathers, their son’s, their husband’s sons, their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sisters sons or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And beg Allah to forgive you all O believers, that you may be successful.

answered 3488 abyadgirl's gravatar image

Jazak Allah Khair Sister :)

(Oct 31 '13 at 10:19) Asifa AK Asifa%20AK's gravatar image

Salaam Sister, Your suitor may look at you but only your face and your hands may be showing. There are numerous hadiths from our beloved Prophet Mohammad saws which indicate that looking is allowed. Removing the head cover is not recommended. You have the option of having your prospective suitor's mother, sister or another female relative come to see your hair and arms and then this woman could describe your looks to your prospective man.

The only way you can explain this is by stating that you are fearing Allah SWT and that you are following His command above any requests coming from others. You can quote Surah An-Nur 24:31 provided above. You can also access some of the Hadiths relating to the Prophet Mohammad saws's quotes.

May Allah SWT bless you and make it easy for you.

answered 5287 stronghold's gravatar image

Jazak Allah Khair :) this gonna help me a lot

(Oct 31 '13 at 10:20) Asifa AK Asifa%20AK's gravatar image

If you find ur answer for your question plz can you close the post. Thanks

(Oct 31 '13 at 10:47) Bibi Amina ♦ Bibi%20Amina's gravatar image

salaam sister, please clarify: who is to close the post, the questioner or the one who has provided the answer? Thank you and may Allah SWT bless you sister

(Oct 31 '13 at 15:58) stronghold ♦ stronghold's gravatar image

Brother the questioner can close the post however if we see the question has been answered and a lots of people still visiting the post and wasting time instead do answering other people question too. There are a lots of Muslim who need an answer for them question so we want Muslim to take part and answer/help other Muslim. Thanks

(Oct 31 '13 at 16:02) Bibi Amina ♦ Bibi%20Amina's gravatar image

but sister, how do we close the question ?

(Nov 06 '13 at 07:29) Asifa AK Asifa%20AK's gravatar image

Hanafi Madhab does not allow this whereas Hanbali madhab allows women to show their hair.... Depends which madhab you follow...

answered 954 Ahmadomar's gravatar image

Salaam precisely a huge issue in our deen. As we follow Qur'an and sunnah and shouldn't follow Madhabs . This opens up Bidah bidah bidah. And shirk . I seek refuge in Allah from that. Salaam

(Dec 10 '13 at 15:25) sadie ♦ sadie's gravatar image

Dear sister , I cud not understand you... Do you wanna say madhab is shirk/biddah and hence u dont follow that or something else ? If u follow madhab , the above is the ruling and if you dont follow madhab then I dont know what ruling does ghair muqallideen gives.. I am the one who follow madhab [Sunni Hanafi from Bombay India] and I really dont want to discuss this issue of taqleed.... I am here to share my knowledge and not to debate on this.... Wassalaam Allah knows the best

(Dec 10 '13 at 15:59) Ahmadomar Ahmadomar's gravatar image

I have given just a short conclusive ruling so that sister who have asked the question should not go into detailed answer and start deducing things from her onwself..... Wassalaam Allah knows best

(Dec 10 '13 at 16:01) Ahmadomar Ahmadomar's gravatar image
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