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Salam aleykum. Please help me. I meet a man a year ago and things got serious and he wants to marry me but his father refused after even him insisting again and again. We really love each other and we wabt to make it the halal way so what to do. Everyone is afraid of his father even his uncles. Help us please

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Dear sister, I would advise you to turn and walk the other way. In Islam, parents play a BIG role in the children's lives and marriages. You will struggle and struggle if you do not have the parents onboard. Do what our Prophet did when confronted with an easy and a difficult option:

Take the easier path. This principle is well explained in a saying of A'ishah. She said: Whenever the Prophet had to choose between two options, he always opted for the easier choice. (Bukhari) 

I know you say you love him but when you have a life of unhappiness, especially if you will be living in the close proximity of the father, the love that you feel right now may turn into unhappiness and regret. You do not want to marry, even bring children into this world and then find yourself in a corner.

Know that if you do go against the father's wishes you runthe risk of an unhappy marriage. Think hard. I wish that I could advise you differently. May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala guide you to choose what is best.

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