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Brother irfan has some serious issues. He is constantly bullying people, who are posting genuine questions and seeking support. But what Irfan does is put people down.WHY? why are fellow moderators moderators allowing This sort of behaviour to carry on.Just because he has extra admin powers he thinks hes king of the Castle. Can someone please have a word with him...IS this the behaviour of a MUSLIM? Because its really starting to frustrate me with his arrogant attitude. Sister Sadie can you please sort thia seem to be someone with better understanding. Im sure many others on here feel the same? And please don ban this question, because we are users here and if there is an ongoing issue it needs to be pointed and addressed. Rather than closing it, which is exactly what irfan does when he doesn't like something . I want this sorted Please. Jazakallah

asked 1528 Faisal26's gravatar image
closed Nov 08 '13 at 03:20 sadie ♦ 1.6k315 sadie's gravatar image

Can people who view this page make a comment , if you feel the same. Don't be shy. Be open be honest just like Irfan says.

(Nov 07 '13 at 11:35) Faisal26 Faisal26's gravatar image

Hey Faisal u should just drop it. I'm sorry I brought u into this. I'm still hurt but it's OK. Okay? Dw

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:52) a_mohammed a_mohammed's gravatar image

Look just have patient okey remember Allah say forgive other for Their mistake the you can enter paradise, I would plz talk to one moderator instead of let him down in front of everybod. Salam

(Nov 07 '13 at 14:02) Bibi Amina ♦ Bibi%20Amina's gravatar image

Bibi amina. You need to sort brother irfan out. Make me a moderator and I will deal with direct. Otherwise its your role to sort your team out not mine. Im surprised you yourself have not noticed his somewhat eratic language to fellow users in this fourum. This is why I posted this in the first place.

(Nov 07 '13 at 14:06) Faisal26 Faisal26's gravatar image

Then if its not your then why are interfering?

(Nov 07 '13 at 14:18) Irfan Alam ♦ Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

@ Muhammad Abdul Ahad you put me on front street for what ? doing the same thing your doing ... salaam

(Nov 07 '13 at 22:34) sadie ♦ sadie's gravatar image


(Nov 08 '13 at 09:32) Irfan Alam ♦ Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image
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The question has been closed for the following reason "Too subjective and argumentative" by sadie Nov 08 '13 at 03:20

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As salaamu alaykum Muslims, I have read all the qoutes and at the end of the day, we as muslims have a duty to be kind not just to Muslims but all people, for we are the example of the best example, and this behavior is not that. The sister is young and the Rasul saws has told us to have patience with the youth. Foul language and defacing one linage is haram in islam. Brother ifran you must act upon what you know in the deen, we can't read your heart, for only Allah can do that, what we have to witness is your speech and actions and if they don't coincide with what you say you are upon then you are a munafiq. For the adab of mankind is what the Rasul saws came to correct and the foundation to that is proper belief. Beloved ifran, Iman is imperfect without good adab.

It is reported that the Rasul said: " Adab and Iman are twins. One who gives up one has to lose the other. " Also, narrated by imam Ahmed:" one person asked the Rasul saws," A certain woman is very famous for her prayers, fasting and many charities, but she talks rudely to her neighbors. Tell me what would be her fate?" Rasul saws replied, She will go to hellfire. Then the same person asked, O Rasul saws, Another woman does not do much by way of prayers and fasting, but she gives pieces of cheese in charity and she is very kind to her neighbors, the Rasul replied, she is of the paradise."
Beloved, the Rasul has also been repirted to have said:" when Iman is firm and aqeedah is strong, then strong and lasting adab will be developed, and if the adab is low then the Iman will accordingly be weak.

My brother I have reminded you for verily reminding profits the believers. Salaam

answered 8381147 yaqin's gravatar image

Al hamdulilah, all should read this for it applies to every muslim on this planet. Salaam

(Nov 07 '13 at 15:33) yaqin ♦ yaqin's gravatar image

Thankyou beloved may Allah reward you.salaam

(Nov 07 '13 at 16:55) yaqin ♦ yaqin's gravatar image

I agree. He's taken "crazy hall way monitor " to a whole new level. He needs to be stopped.

answered 163222 a_mohammed's gravatar image

Brother irfan is right upto some extent, because most of the questions in this site are not good quality. This is because of the system and the members here. The moderators or the admins don't do their work properly that's why people like mike get chance to say whatever they want. This site has turned into a place of chat. Unless the engineer builds properly, it is natural for the building to be full of flaws. Same is the case with this site. Irfan is being just by deleting questions, but if we want to be just like that then we have to delete the whole site, because none of us are perfect here. That's why I undeleted a_mohammed's question, because although her question was imperfect, she needed help. Irfan needs to understand that this site cannot be cleaned by just deleting questions, the admin has to step up. Irfan is being just, but that doesn't work here. Plz don't mistake it for bullying. EDIT- If irfan did insult a_mohammed, then yes, someone needs to talk some sense into him. I wonder where asif is. He is not doing a good thing leaving this site like this.

answered 1.8k2315 Muhammad%20Abdul%20Ahad's gravatar image
edited Nov 07 '13 at 12:58

He called me a whore. Nope. Not bullying.

(Nov 07 '13 at 12:53) a_mohammed a_mohammed's gravatar image

I insulted him also though. I know I shouldn't but I did. He had no right to say that tho.

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:01) a_mohammed a_mohammed's gravatar image

I knda agree with Faisal and MuA, as there has been unnecessary language, chat, and some not so clever questions, but all the same, we are not all on the same level.The thing i dont like, is the fact Mike, and Flanders were allowed to talk and beguile and ridicule. I came here in distress, and if i knew racists, and atheists were here, i think i would of declined my thoughts and making public my problem. We all need help and advice, and that is why i have stayed, to give something back for the advice and support i received.

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:08) abyadgirl abyadgirl's gravatar image

Where I had said you whore?? Give the link? You are just frustating me now..!

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:12) Irfan Alam ♦ Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

Go to "thanks boys" read. U Implied it. Saying I had an affair. And slot of boyfriends. If that's not what u meant then tell me!

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:15) a_mohammed a_mohammed's gravatar image

Guys stop it now, I am still visit this site but not often that doesn't mean I can't see what u posting. Both of I if you have problem just pm so I can help u boths and understand what is your both problem. Thanks

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:20) Bibi Amina ♦ Bibi%20Amina's gravatar image

Got it handled. Can't u tell?

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:24) a_mohammed a_mohammed's gravatar image

A-Mohammad pm me or Sadie if you need help with something whether it is you want us to speak to someone because of something. Salam

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:26) Bibi Amina ♦ Bibi%20Amina's gravatar image

Irfan sort your mouth my friend because you have no respect

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:35) Faisal26 Faisal26's gravatar image

Irfan you really need sort your behaviour out.this is NOT the way a mod should behave.talking down to people constantly.


(Nov 07 '13 at 13:37) Faisal26 Faisal26's gravatar image

Faisal26 he has done nothing he has said the truth because I read the post which a-Mohammad had posted.

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:41) Bibi Amina ♦ Bibi%20Amina's gravatar image

I don't have a problem with decisions but abrupt decisions, poor manner, lack of respect should be stopped

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:41) Faisal26 Faisal26's gravatar image

@a_muhammed: I was searching for the post where you had mentioned that you love another guy but after that you love this guy whom you want to marry. But unfortunately I cannot find the post. May be it has been deleted. And remember I dont say anything by my own. You had said that on thats why I am saying it back to you... I will search again for that....

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:43) Irfan Alam ♦ Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

I never had an affair! Do u know what an affair is!? Look it up in a dictionary!!!!

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:45) a_mohammed a_mohammed's gravatar image

Respect are for them who are respectable, not for everyone.

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:47) Irfan Alam ♦ Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

Guys read my post below faisal26 question.

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:48) Bibi Amina ♦ Bibi%20Amina's gravatar image

Oh. So now in the quran it says respect SOME?

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:49) a_mohammed a_mohammed's gravatar image

@Faisal26: "a mod should not say, behave like this"... I am mod so I should not say, behave like this....and you can say anything??

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:50) Irfan Alam ♦ Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

Sister if u rly follow the Quran then it also mention forgive people for their mistake too and if you are really following the Quran why don't you respect other too because at the first you used to have problem with me and right now it irfan

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:51) Bibi Amina ♦ Bibi%20Amina's gravatar image

If someone said u had an affair. N u didn't if be OK I'm guessing? n I don't have a personal problem with u. I just don't want to talk to u.

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:55) a_mohammed a_mohammed's gravatar image

He said I had an affair!!!!! In English that means u had sexual relations!

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:58) a_mohammed a_mohammed's gravatar image

@a_muhammed: Till I remain here I will delete your nonsense questions and answers everytime. All others also listen that there non sense questions and answers will be deleted. My work is to maintain this site. I will do it at any cost...

(Nov 07 '13 at 14:02) Irfan Alam ♦ Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

Her mind is a creative world. Its also a creativity of her mind...

(Nov 07 '13 at 14:04) Irfan Alam ♦ Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

And for those who dont know like Faisal24, just keep quiet. She had been warned for her non sense activity several times here. Even through pm, I have warned her. Still she is continuing her non sense activity. So no warning further, just straight action. If I were be the admin then she would have been banned. I dont tolerate non sense activity everytime...!

(Nov 07 '13 at 14:10) Irfan Alam ♦ Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

Bibi Amina, I keep saying why does IRFAN as a Mod behave like this. Why is he still talking like an eratic animal towards the sister. Tell him to speak respectfully for Allahs sake Please.

(Nov 07 '13 at 14:14) Faisal26 Faisal26's gravatar image

I can't believe im reading. HES SAYING hes gna delete any comments any questions she makes.tell him to show respect. What kind of muslims are you? I am so shocked! !!!

(Nov 07 '13 at 14:16) Faisal26 Faisal26's gravatar image

And he also is now threatening all other users. How on earth did you make him a Mod. This behaviour is not acceptable muslim or not muslim. This is going out cof control. First he bullies a girl and now the whole forum.

(Nov 07 '13 at 14:18) Faisal26 Faisal26's gravatar image

Hey Faisal, Mind your mind. I told about non sense activity, not all activity...

(Nov 07 '13 at 14:21) Irfan Alam ♦ Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image
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Brother ahad can you explain what an Imperfect question is? Explanation- take a_mohammed's question for an example. She asked ' This might come as a shock to some of you, since im always so..."sweet" haha... I was molested when I was younger. its ok if you take this off, by all means I have no want for everyone to know about me but I want help. ANyways like I was saying I was, and by someone I knew, someone I was related to, my brother. he was two years younger than I could of stopped it right? I could of stopped it,. but I didn't nothing ever really happened id just wake up at night with my clothes on the wrong way or them pulled up or down. I was 9 and I didn't know what was happening until one night I caught him doing it. anyways this whole mess has really effected me and im just starting to realize it I blocked it out for so long and now its starting to effect how I feel about things for example I want to be hit. I know this is an Islamic site so I shouldn't be talking about such inappropriate things but I need help. ok. other than wanting to be hit I feel hatred towards my brother. im always angry. im always...disappointed and sometimes its pointed towards god why did he let it happen! why! WHY! PLEASE HELP _UR LITTLE SISTER.' Ok. Now anyone with even minimum intelligence should understand that this is a perfectly imperfect question. lol. If she asked 'As-salamu 'alaikum. I am a sister who was molested by my younger brother at my childhood. I feel disturbed by this. What does Islam say about this?' this is what i would call a perfect question. It actually means that no chit-chat should be allowed in questions. Have you used yahoo answers? Moderators there delete these 'imperfect' questions. I hope I managed to provide you with an 'explanation' LOL.

answered 1528 Faisal26's gravatar image
edited Nov 07 '13 at 13:19 Muhammad Abdul Ahad ♦ 1.8k2315 Muhammad%20Abdul%20Ahad's gravatar image

appearently asking what the death punishments of huhud are? is one of them?

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:03) mikejm2 mikejm2's gravatar image

An imperfection. the world of mods."things with feelings"

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:04) a_mohammed a_mohammed's gravatar image

Like I said. No feeling.

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:21) a_mohammed a_mohammed's gravatar image

Nyways leaving for the weekend. Bye.

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:26) a_mohammed a_mohammed's gravatar image

I see what you mean brother Ahad. But if thats the case the help and advice should be given. What irfan did instead was shun her down. Call he all sorts. Thats wrong.

(Nov 07 '13 at 13:44) Faisal26 Faisal26's gravatar image

Sis sadie and amina

Are u hiding from an issue or r u just trying to cloud it by bringing another issue. There is no back biting going om because irfan is well aware of all that is being talked about. What you need to do is get brother irfan to right an official apology to all and that this will not happen again inshallah. Theres no point of using backbiting as an excuse.

answered 1528 Faisal26's gravatar image

"Pardon (people) and overlook (their faults). Don't you love that Allah should forgive you." (24:22) "(The dutiful are) . . . those who restrain their anger and pardon people. Allah loves those who do good to others." (3:134) "Whenever they (true believers) are angry they forgive." (42:37) "The recompense of evil is punishment like it. But whoever forgives (an evil committed against himself) and amends (matters), his reward is with Allah. . . . Whoever is patient and forgives, that is a matter of great resolution." (42:40, 43) When the Holy Prophet Muhammad defeated his enemies in Makka and returned to that city as its conqueror, he forgave them in the following words: "No reproof be against you this day; Allah may forgive you, and He is the most Merciful of those who show mercy." (12:92)

answered 63628 Bibi%20Amina's gravatar image

"Allah commands you to uphold justice and to do good to others and to give to the relatives." (16:90)

Three degrees of doing good are mentioned here: "justice," which means returning any good that someone has done you with equal good; "do good to others," which means taking the initiative in doing good to others; and "give to the relatives," which means doing good to people instinctively and naturally just as one does good to one's close relatives.

"Do good to others, surely Allah loves those who do good to others." (2:195)

answered 63628 Bibi%20Amina's gravatar image

"O you who believe! do not enter houses other than your own until you have asked permission and greeted the inmates . . . and if it is said to you, 'Go back', then go back." (24:27-28) "O you who believe! avoid most of suspicion (against others), for surely suspicion in some cases is sin; and do not spy (into other people's affairs), nor let some of you backbite others." (49:12) "When you are greeted with a greeting, greet with one better than it, or return it (in the same terms at least)." (4:86)

answered 63628 Bibi%20Amina's gravatar image

Amina why are you fludding the room with so many verses. What do u want to say. Please speak.

(Nov 07 '13 at 17:19) Faisal26 Faisal26's gravatar image

Keep on read you will understand......

(Nov 07 '13 at 17:24) Bibi Amina ♦ Bibi%20Amina's gravatar image

"Eat and drink, but do not be immoderate." (7:31) "Do not chain your hand to your neck (so that you are mean in spending), nor stretch it out to the utmost limit (so that you waste everything)." (17:29)

Finally, we give a verse of the Holy Quran mentioning a number of qualities a Muslim, man or woman, should try to acquire: "The truthful men and the truthful women, the patient men and the patient women, the humble men and the humble women, the charitable men and the charitable women, the fasting men and the fasting women, the men who guard their chastity and the women who guard their chastity, the men who remember Allah much and the women who remember Allah much - for all these Allah has prepared forgiveness and a great reward." (33:35)

answered 63628 Bibi%20Amina's gravatar image

How does Islam require a Muslim to treat the people around him?

The Holy Quran and the Hadith mention various categories of people that one has to deal with, and give a great deal of guidance on how to behave towards them. 1. Parents and the elderly:

"Your Lord has commanded that you worship none but Him, and do good to parents. If one or both of them reach old age with you, do not say 'Fie' to them, nor chide them, but speak to them a generous word . . . and say, My Lord, have mercy on them as they brought me up when I was little." (17:23-24). "The Holy Prophet said, It is one of the greatest sins that a man should curse his parents. Someone said, How can a man curse his own parents? He said, If a man abuses the father of another, that person will abuse his parents (in return)." (Report in Bukhari.) 2. Other Near Relatives:

"Do good to the near relatives." (4:36) "Give to the near relative his due, and also to the needy and to the traveller (in need of help). (17:26).

answered 63628 Bibi%20Amina's gravatar image

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