As salamalikum Brothers and Sisters,
My husband swears that I am both contacting men and always making "eye contact" with men when I am out running errands, going or coming from work, etc. Therefore, he stops the most provocatively dressed women on the street (coming out of night clubs in NYC's college districts, etc), talks to them, seduces them, gets there Facebook's, adds them on the social media site- and worst off, he begins to once again seduce them online.
Of course he never has proof for the ridiculous he puts forth about me.
Once he's been caught, or he spills the beans himself. He then goes on a rant as to how much more beautiful they are than me, how more well behaved, and how they would be much more suitable wives. Which makes me very down.
(He has two Facebook's- one which he has most of his family and childhood friends, etc. His other Facebook, which he REFUSES TO DELETE, and says he no longer uses... Is his "bait" Facebook, where he catches other women to seduce them, and where he adds above mentioned women, etc.)
I personally believe he is in denial, feeling guilt for his own actions and then blaming me when he makes his accusations. I also believe he has major trust issues.
I may not be the perfect wife, but what women is? I don't always cook all his meals for him, and I don't always remember to iron his socks. But I am faithful, I both respect and admire him, I talk him through all of his troubles, I wale him for Fajr, and I encourage him to be the best Muslim he can be, and above all I fear Allah. And of course I have never committed any of these atrocious acts.
Just tonight we saw an Iman, well known in our area, whose FIRST WORDS were: "Both of you, fear Allah". I'm afraid my husband does not, nor does he respect our marriage.
Why does he continue to do this to me? And how can I deal with it in an Islamic matter?