Hello. I am a 14 year old boy and yesterday at around 10pm I masturbated. This was not the first time though. Every time I masturbated i ask for forgivness straight away its like i commit and then i pray 4 forgivness. I have masturbated around 10 times in my whole life. I want to know how can I be forgiven. Im upset and I regret it and I think i will be punished for this in this world and the nest 1.

asked 04 Whale0145's gravatar image

Salam alaykum my dear brother, it's good that after you sin you realize your mistake and you pray for forgiveness. There is a hadith which Muhammad (pbuh) said: “Allah, Blessed and Exalted is He, says, ‘O son of Adam, as long as you call on Me, I shall forgive you of what you have done, and think nothing of it. O son of Adam, even if your sins were to reach up to the clouds in the sky, and then you were to ask for My forgiveness, I would forgive you and think nothing of it. O son of Adam, even if you were to come to Me with sins nearly as great as the earth, and then you were to meet Me after death, not worshipping anything besides Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great as the earth.’” This hadith isn't saying to go and sin whenever you want and then repent, no, when you sin, you must regret your action that you have done, you must also do tauba to never get back to it again. Even after a while you masturbate again, just do tauba and repent again, you must always REPENT, REPENT and REPENT.

There is also another story I want you to keep in mind, when Iblis committed Kufr, his life was finished, he was damned to hell. Iblis said to Allah, "O Allah, let me live, give me time till the day of judgement, let me live with them, let's test this people you chose over me". So Allah answered his dua and said ok, you have this. So then Iblis said: " By your honour oh Allah I swear that I will mislead them so as long their soul remains in their body", and Allah said: "By my honour and by my glory, I swear, so as long they keep coming back to me I will forgive them, do what you want!".

My dear brother, from the above story, just like what I said above, you can tell that no matter what happens, as long as you do tauba and repent after you have sinned, you shall be forgiven. I'm not telling you to go and masturbate, no, what you should try do is, as soon as you are going to do this sinful act, just remember that you are going to get punished for what you are doing. Hopefully remembering the punishment will lead you away from this sinful act. But as always, if you can't happen to control yourself and you do this act, just remember, ALWAYS do tauba, and REPENT, REPENT REPENT. Hope this answers helps you, Salaam.

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edited Nov 30 '13 at 16:32

Salam my dear borther. Thank you for your help, but could you please explain to me how to do tauba? Like to i say as-tag-fir-ullah every time i think of this sin or do i seek forgivness in my dua after namaz?

(Nov 30 '13 at 16:44) Whale0145 Whale0145's gravatar image

Saying as-tag-fir-ullah everytime you think of this sin is good, as it may prevent you from sinning. Now as for doing tauba, you should say this: astaghfur Allah ul-lazi la ilaha illa howa ul-hay ul-kayoum wa atoboo elayhi". After you do tauba, you should at least say as-tag-fir-ullah 100 times. Hope this helps, salaam.

(Nov 30 '13 at 17:02) omar omar's gravatar image

Dear brother Omar, I love the hadith that you have used to remind us of Allah's mercy. I like to use it and every time I see it my heart swells with more love for our Rabb. Yes, you are right to remind that one mustn't take it as an encouragement to do haram. But if one falls into a mishap, we need to remember Allah's mercy. Salaam

(Nov 30 '13 at 17:43) stronghold ♦ stronghold's gravatar image

Thank you so much!

(Nov 30 '13 at 17:46) Whale0145 Whale0145's gravatar image

Repentance is what you need also if we do more and more bad deeds our heart becomes polluted so we have to accept that our heart is polluted with sins and now

If we cure our heart insha allah you can resist this issue

Read this book insha allah it will benefit you as it benefited me insha allah

Diseases of the Hearts & Their Cures http://www.kalamullah.com/Books/Diseases%20Of%20The%20Hearts%20And%20Their%20Cures.pdf

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Always start Allah swa name in capital letter. : )

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