Assalamualaikum, May Allah rewards you for this, as I find myself confused about praising and/or affirming children or adult with the positive words that are related to innate ability/character, for example intelligence, beauty, talent and etc. I ‘ve read somewhere in the internet that Prophet s.a.w. used to call Aisha “Al-Humaira” to praise her beauty and have praise Muadz b. Jabal as the most intelligent person in virtue and vice (in front of sahabah). I knew that Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. told us not to praise people excessively. How do he praise and did he really include innate ability/characters as well when he was praising or affirming? Jzkk.
Asalaam o alaikum, it is not good to overly praise someone to their face. Here is a list of the pharese each muslim should know and use, for most events in life.
Praise to Allah, used usually to express satisfaction, or after having finished eating… or if someone asks you how you were and you want to express that you’re satisfied.
Thanks to Allah, used almost the same way as the one above.
Alhamdulillah w AShokrulillah.
Praise and Thanks to Allah, used to express a Full satisfaction for something. Accomplishing something, or your well-being or simply for having a very good meal.
Glory to Allah, can be used in many places, for example if you heard something amazing and you want to express your amazement.
What Allah wishes, used to express amazement almost like Subhanallah except that Mashallah is mainly for positive amazement, like if someone tells you “I have a daughter and she is 9” you can simply reply “mashallah” then add something if you want.
La ilaha illa Allah.
There is no god but Allah. Can be said any time.
Mohammadun Rasulu Allah.
Muhammad is the messenger of Allah. Usually comes after La ilaha illa Allah.
Allah is great (greater), also can be used in a wide variety of places, often to show excitement.
La hawla wala quwata illa billah.
There is no change/ transformation nor power/ strength except through Allah, used in unfavorable situations beyond ones control, also to express dissatisfaction.
In the name of Allah. Used to start something, whatever a Muslim wants to start (driving, eating, walking, reading …)
Bismillah Awaluhu wa Akhiruhu.
“In the name of Allah, at its beginning and at its end” used mainly when someone forgets to say Bismillah before starting a meal and remembers that in the middle of the meal.
Bismillah Arrahman Arraheem.
In the name of Allah, the most gracious the most merciful. A full equivalent to “bismillah”, many Muslims use it before reciting the Qur’an.
If Allah wills. Usually used to refer to planning to do a future action, I will do this … if Allah wills it.
May Allah have mercy on you, or May Allah bless you, the equivalent of “bless you” when you sneeze, it is said after someone sneezes.
May Allah have mercy on you “bless you”, same as the one above, and used in the same situations.
Yahdikumu Allah wa Yuslihu balakum.
May Allah guide you and set your affairs right. This is used usually as an answer to someone who said “Rahimakallah” or “Yarhamuka Allah” to you after you sneezed.
Enna lillah wa enna elaihe Rajioun.
To Allah we belong, and to him we will return. Usually used when you hear someone died, or if you had a terrible lost (financial or personal).
I seek forgiveness from Allah. Commonly used when you think you did something wrong (a sin, cursed )
Allahumma salli ala Muhammad.
Oh Allah bestow your mercy on Mohammed. A way to praise the prophet (PBUH).
Peace be upon you. A way of greetings used more widely and can be the equivalent of “hi, hello, good morning/ afternoon/ evening, good-bye, bye …) so it’s basically a way to greet and could be used in farewells.
Assalamu Alaikom warahmatu Allahi wa barakatuhu.
Peace be upon you and Allah’s mercy and blessings. This is a full equivalent of the above mentioned greeting “Assalamu Alaikom”. If is considered to be more polite and more rewarding to use it.
Ash-hadu An laa Elaha Ella Allah wa Ash-hadu anna Muhammadan Rasulu Allah.
I bear witness that there is no other God but Allah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is the messenger of the Allah. This one is called “shahadah”, it’s one of the 5 main pillars of Islam, and that’s the first step to converting to Islam. Also used by Muslims to refresh their belief, it’s recommended to use it daily.
A-ozu billahi mena shaitaan Arrajeem
I seek refuge in Allah from the cursed Satan “shaitan”. Used mainly when feeling unsafe or before entering unsafe places, or when scared by something (a bad dream …).
Baraka Allahu fika
May Allah bestow his blessings on you. Used to wish someone blessings from Allah especially in return to a favor done by that person, the equivalent to “thank you very much”.
Tawakkalna ala Allah
I place my “absolute” trust on Allah. Used before doing something, just like “bismillah”, they can even be used together. Used often when driving.
Ya Allah! Oh Allah! Usually to ask Allah something. Sometimes used while doing something, like when lifting something heavy you say it to ask Allah for power, or if you’re in pain and you ask Allah to give you strength to bear that pain.
Oh Allah! Used the same way as the one above “Ya Allah”. No difference at all.
Allah knows best. Said when not sure about something, or simply don’t know, could be the equivalent of “I don’t know.” “is it going to rain tomorrow?” – Allahu A’lam!
Jazaka Allahu Khairan
May Allah reward you with all good. When someone does something good to you (gives you something, helps you with something
The reason why Prophet(peace be upon him) asked his companions to not exaggerate in the praise of each other because he feared that this may lead to arrogance in them and arrogance is hateful to Allah. There is a hadeeth in Bukhari which says that none will go to Paradise who have in his heart an arrogance equivalent to the size of mustard seed. Prophet(peace be upon him) asked us to be humble and excessive praise may lead to arrogance as was the case with the king of Arabia at that time and also with the likes of Pharao and Iblis whose arrogance doomed them... As far as rightful praise is concern , then there is no problem or prohibition as proven from Prophet ((peace be upon him) himself.. he praise his grandsons [Alaihe salaam] and his blessed daughter in terms of character. Allah praised Abu Bakr as Al-Siddeeq [Refer to Surah Al-Hujurat] Umar as Al-Farooq [4:65]. So wherever praise is condemned it is either excessive praise or wrongful praise. Sometime we praise others wrongfully just to be in their goodbooks and this is same as lying. so these things are wrong....
Summary - Rightful praise is correct and proven from Prophet (peace be upon him). Buttering or undeserving praise is wrong and equal to lying. One who is praised should always be thankgul to Allah as all the good is from Allah only. Always be humble and dont be amongst the one who is arrogant and never look down on those who are inferior to you. Wassalaam Allah knows the best