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my self a boy (Muslim) is in love with a nonmuslim girl(Hindu).i know its wrong but we never started as love it was started as friendship,but slowly changed in to love.i couldn't stop my self,it has become 2 years we are in love.we loves each other alot.we have kissed and hugged.she wanted me to marry her.but i know its wrong.i asked can we stop this relation,she says then she will commit suicide.what should i do,and what can i do???

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Asalaam o alaikum, firstly, this threat of suicide is a heinous burden of a psychological persuasion that this girl has put on you. This is a very wrongful act to pressure the ownership, and manipulation of another. You must first explain how Islam views suicide and the impact of such an act.

Then tell her about Islam and the beauty of it, and if she might be willing to revert to Islam. If this is not possible, then dear brother you must walk away.

Do not feel any guilt about this threat she puts on you, it is also attention seeking, and you are not responsible for her actions. And you most certainly will not be held accountable if she were ever to commit suicide. Afer all, most that make these threats will not carry them out.

I wonder to, that you both are very young, and perhaps have never known love before. Love is a very powerful emotion, especially for the very young and inexperienced, who do not know how to handle it. For love has its opposite, hate, and there is a very fine line between the two.

It may be hard for you to just walk away, but you have come to the realisation that this is a wrong affair, haram, and an unlawful way to conduct a relationship. Allah makes the rules as such that they protect us for many reasons, some we can figure, others we have no understanding. But in all, we put our trust in Allah and follow the ways, and the laws of Allah. Make dua and ask Allah for forgiveness, and move on with Islam and faith in your heart.

InshaAllah you will get over this in time and find love or at least marry by the halal, lawful ways. Here are some reminders on this subject for you and to show this girl.................................................................................................................................................................................

Leave alone those who take their religion to be mere play and amusement, and are deceived by the life of this world. But proclaim (to them) this (truth): that every soul delivers itself to ruin by its own acts: it will find for itself no protector or intercessor except Allah: if it offered every ransom, (or reparation), none will be accepted: such is (the end of) those who deliver themselves to ruin by their own acts: they will have for drink (only) boiling water, and for punishment, one most grievous: for they persisted in rejecting Allah. Al-Anaam, Chapter 6, Verse 70

O ye who believe! Eat not up your property among yourselves in vanities: But let there be amongst you Traffic and trade by mutual good-will: Nor kill (or destroy) yourselves: for verily Allah hath been to you Most Merciful! An-Nisa, Chapter 4, Verse 29

Say: "Come, I will rehearse what God hath (really) prohibited you from": Join not anything as equal with Him; be good to your parents; kill not your children on a plea of want;- We provide sustenance for you and for them;- come not nigh to shameful deeds. Whether open or secret; take not life, which God hath made sacred, except by way of justice and law: thus doth He command you, that ye may learn wisdom. Qur'an (6:151)

Bukhari Volume 2, Book 23, Number 445: Narrated Jundab the Prophet said, "A man was inflicted with wounds and he committed suicide, and so God said: My slave has caused death on himself hurriedly, so I forbid Paradise for him."

Bukhari Volume 8, Book 73, Number 73: Narrated Thabit bin Ad-Dahhak: ”And if somebody commits suicide with anything in this world, he will be tortured with that very thing on the Day of Resurrection.

Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, "He who commits suicide by throttling shall keep on throttling himself in the Hell Fire (forever) and he who commits suicide by stabbing himself shall keep on stabbing himself in the Hell-Fire."

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You cannot get married to her. Allah says no, gives a solution, and gives the reason why:

ولا تنكحوا المشركات حتى يؤم۔۔۔ أولئك يدعون إلى النار والله يدعو إلى الجنة والمغفرة بإذنه ويبين آياته للناس لعلهم يتذكرون ( 221 ) )

"Do not marry polytheists, until they have become believers - They will take you to the Fire, whereas Allah will take you to Jannah." (2:221)

This verse was revealed when a Sahabi, Marthad Al Ghanawi, who had migrated to madinah, returned back to Makkah to rescue some Muslims. It was night time, and a woman who had been his lover in his pre-islamic days, spotted him, and told him they should make love for the night. Marthad refused, saying that Islam did not allow sex outside marriage, so she said, "lets get married then." Marthad said he would ask the Prophet (Saw) on his return to Madinah. When he got there, he told the Prophet (saw), and it was at this point that the verses above were revealed, telling him that he couldnt marry her as she was a mushrik (a person who worships many gods).

if you really want to marry her, then you need to convince her about the truth of Islam so that she accepts Islam. If she happily accepts, you can marry her.


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