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i don't like my mother because she adores christianity very because of that anger i don't talk to her and we don't go the same way...nd i want to go far away from her because of her attitude towards me..tell me?answer me now:what can i do?

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Assalaam Alaikum wa rahmatullah brother,

Dear brother, as a Muslim you should be good to your non Muslim mother and you are obliged to be dutiful and kind to her, regardless of her disbelief and adoration of Christianity.

In Islam the rights of parents are great. Being dutiful to one’s parents is one of the best actions by which a person gets nearer to Allah Subhana wa ta’ala. And being undutiful to them, is one of the greatest sins.

Allaah Says (which means): “And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination.”[Quran 31:14]

One should obey the parents in whatever they order one to do, except if they order to commit a sin and disobey Allah, then there is no obedience to them, as there is no obedience to a creature in disobeying the Creator.

Allah Says (interpretation of meaning):

“But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not, but behave with them in the world kindly,…..”[Quran 31:15]

If your mother is not kind and does not appreciate your kindness to her, then you need to be patient, bear the difficulties and be steadfast in doing good, and thus the outcome will also be good, InshaAllah.

The best kindness you may do towards her is to supplicate to Allah Subhana wa ta’ala for her to be guided to the truth, and to invite her to Islam with wisdom and good instruction.

Maybe your mother has decided to follow Christianity even more so, in hope that she may bring you back and thus, you will need to be steadfast in your religious obligations and ask Allah for support.

As for your mother cursing you, you need not worry if you have not done anything to upset her to such an extent. In case that you have upset her by speech or in any other way, apologise to her in sincerity, for know that no matter what happens, she will never cease to be your mother. In addition, repent to Allah Subhana wa ta'ala and ask for His forgiveness. If your mother has cursed you due to you following Islam, then her cursing will not have any effect. When a person curses something that does not deserve to be cursed, the curse rebounds and comes back onto him, even if that which is cursed is the subjugated wind.

In a Hadeeth on the authority of ‘Abdullaah Ibn ‘Abbaas it was mentioned that the wind blew away a man’s outer garment and, thereupon, he cursed the wind. The Prophet, ra said to him:

“Do not curse the wind because it is commanded [by Allah to blow]. Whoever curses something and it does not deserve the curse, the curse will turn back upon him.”

So to sum up dear brother, you need to keep good relations with your mother and when she realises that you are standing firm ground with your beliefs and at the same time respecting her just for being your mother, she will inshaAllah begin to see the good in your life choices. May Allah guide all of us to be nearer to Him. Salaam

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edited Dec 19 '13 at 04:58
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