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Asalam aliykum, i just wanted to ask if i like someone and i mean really like and know its love, the proof to that is all the istikharat i have done tell me its him i see him in my dreams in a white abaya and him calling out for me, i used to work with him for experience work not real work then i realised i found something happening to me. my point is i finished my work then a month went by and i had a teribble dream of him damaging hiself. this ended up true he hut his hamstring. i was worried i would go everyday to where he works but no sign of him. until today even now no sign at all. should i get his number and ask how he is or leave it to allah and wait. these sign are not normal. im telling you when i got that feeling he was hurt it was like 3 in the morning. another istakhara showed me that he was not so bad of a person. it was ramadan after fajr my brother said to me: oh remember that guy you work with? i saw him at the mosque with his dad he was kissing his hand after they prayed it was a nice scene. this is when my heart shivered and i miss every part of him now. i dont want to let him go. hes a good guy. allah koon ma3o.

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edited Dec 22 '13 at 09:02

Dear sister, you can make a serious plan to give the opportunity for this man to ask for your hand. You should not try to see the man in secret or to give expression to your feelings for these actions are permissible only within the bond of marriage.

If you want to know the meaning of fitna, a great part of it is what people nowadays call love or romance. Islam does not allow any illicit relationship between a man and a woman. 

What I would advise is that you speak with your wali and then in turn, he can contact the wali or the gaurdian of the person whom you are interested in.

May Allah Subhana wa ta' ala guide you and bless your intentions and its results. Ameen

answered 5236 stronghold's gravatar image

Al Salaamou alaikoum sister,

"Istikhara" means to ask Allah to choose for you which is better for you and let it occur. and after this duaa you rely on Allah and surrender to His choice. and be sure that if he is your destiny then Allah will cause the reason to let him approach from you.

Al Salaamou alaikum and may Allah choose/decree for you which is better for your religion and life and circumstances and ease it to you and then let you agree/please with it.

answered 387116 inclined2truth's gravatar image

thank you so much. i guess this is true and inshallah if he is for me ill be patient and wait :)

(Dec 22 '13 at 09:04) sandn sandn's gravatar image
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