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I have a non Muslim friend . She accepted Islam unintentionally(for she be able to acquire a family visa, the guy she's living in is married) , she was doubt after accepting in . She didn't go the islam classes . I told her it's Okey,you read first the book and understand if you are ready then go to classes, inshallah you will be lightened. I didn't force her because I want herself accept an understand it fully . She invited me to come their apartment tomorrow Dec 25 and other Christian friends. I am doubt if it is permissible for the Muslim to join the Christians celebration or greet them in any way. I send her a message from what I have read(the answer of my question/doubt), it wasn't my intention to offend her. But then she got offended. She replied to my message in false understanding and offensive words . I never mind her words I just keep sending for the reply in a forward quotes in Islam, from twitter of mufti menk, yasir qadhi, etc. I also send her a quote that was told in the Qur'an and bible. I feel bad about her false understanding and beliefs. How to deal with her after our conversation (through message)? Will I continue to keep in touch with her? Is she still remain as my friend?Please guide me..

asked 153 moonlight's gravatar image

You are doing well sister. Jazaki Allahou khayran may Allah guide you and guide by you(make you a reason that his guidance reach others)

just do not push on her. try to find out if she is really seeking guidance or it is just arguments.. if it is argument(which do not benefit but may be cause hate and insisting) then please avoid it.

regarding Christmas, (Allah knows better about the date of birth of Messiah/Christ) but we are told in quran that "peace upon him the day he is born and the day he will be dead and the day when he be resurrected".. but if celebrating it with people who drink might harm you so I think better to avoid that (because the angels(protector and guides...) who are with you will be weak when you stay in a place where Allah is disobeyed(like drinking alcohol for example).

and Allah knows better Al salaamou alaikoum

answered 387116 inclined2truth's gravatar image

Assalamu alaikum..I have read in Islam . com . en new fatwas that it is not permissible to celebrate or promote falsehood and it's a sin also cause pale in Islam . From the twitter of Yasir Qadhi "saying "merry christmas" is worse than murder. How can anyone be obtuse?" I have understand that it is really not allowed to celebrate nor greet the non muslims in their festivals or religious occasion. I need more Islamic opinion with regards the friendship . And I request mufti saab to answer also..anybody Islamic opinion are welcome..Thank you

(Dec 24 '13 at 21:30) moonlight moonlight's gravatar image

wa 3alaikoum essalaam wa ra7matullah

please find my reply below

(Dec 25 '13 at 20:05) inclined2truth inclined2truth's gravatar image

Asalaam o alaikum,

Let not the believers Take for friends or helpers Unbelievers rather than believers: if any do that, in nothing will there be help from Allah: except by way of precaution, that ye may Guard yourselves from them. But Allah cautions you (To remember) Himself; for the final goal is to Allah. Al-Imran, Chapter 3, Verse 28

As Muslims , we should be very aware of not taking fiends from other religions, we can guide then, advise them, give them dawah, but then we should leave them.

As Allah warns, in the above Ayat, meaning they can lead us astray, to commit shirk, and then walk away and mock us and make ridicule.

Your friend is clearly not in the frame of mind yet to accept Islam fully. And her ways of coming into knowledge is maybe only to do with the love and lust of a man, and not for Allah Himself. Truly she may be misguided or not, time will tell. Do not be disheartened, and do not try to explain further, as you have done your part. It is a lesson here for you to learn and take heed from.

Those who believe fight in the cause of Allah, and those who reject Faith Fight in the cause of Evil: So fight ye against the friends of Satan: feeble indeed is the cunning of Satan. An-Nisa, Chapter 4, Verse 76

Your friend is not ready to give up the evils that associate with Kufr activities. Therefro refrain from associating with her. Find friends from among your fellow Muslim sisters.

They but wish that ye should reject Faith, as they do, and thus be on the same footing (as they): But take not friends from their ranks until they flee in the way of Allah (From what is forbidden). But if they turn renegades, seize them and slay them wherever ye find them; and (in any case) take no friends or helpers from their ranks;- An-Nisa, Chapter 4, Verse 89

Yea, to those who take for friends unbelievers rather than believers: is it honour they seek among them? Nay,- all honour is with Allah. An-Nisa, Chapter 4, Verse 139

Do not lose your iman or faith for one friend that would rather have you commit shirk, and little is her understanding, which is no fault of yours. For she will not understand till the day comes, that Allah, inshaAllah opens her heart, and removes the veil from her eyes.

Your (real) friends are (no less than) Allah, His Messenger, and the (fellowship of) believers,- those who establish regular prayers and regular charity, and they bow down humbly (in worship). Al-Maeda, Chapter 5, Verse 55

answered 3488 abyadgirl's gravatar image

Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu abyadgirl. Thank you so much for this wonderful comment. May Allah bless you continuous knowledge in Islam to share those who seek answers from their questions of the believing people. Amen

(Dec 25 '13 at 03:02) moonlight moonlight's gravatar image

there is two kinds/groups of non muslims; 1. ones who fight muslims. 2. ones who do not fight muslims. and Islam differed between how we treat with each of them, you can realize this from the following verses(60:8-9);

" Allāh does not forbid you from those who do not fight you because of religion and do not expel you from your homes – from being righteous(good) toward them and acting justly toward them. Indeed, Allāh loves those who act justly." (that is the first group)

"Allāh only forbids you from those who fight you because of religion and expel you from your homes and aid in your expulsion – [forbids] that you make allies of them. And whoever makes allies of them, then it is those who are the wrongdoers." (that is the 2nd group.)

again.. Allah said about the 1st group that we should do 1.BERR/good/right to them and also be QUEST/just to them.. and no problem in making awliyaa/allies/friends from among them as we were only prohibited of making allies of the 2nd group.. and greeting such people of the first group is entering in the command of Allah; to be good/BERR and Quest/just to them. especially the occasion of the birth of Messiah/Christ, Eissa son of Mariam(we are not sure when is his birth, though and if it is 25 December as catholic claim or 7 th of January as orthodox claim) but Allah told us in Quran about his birth date that it is Salaam/Peaceful day in two different vesres; "And peace be upon him the day he was born and the day he dies and the day he is raised alive." (19:15) And peace is on me the day I was born and the day I will die and the day I am raised alive."(19:33)

and prophet Muhammad Salla allahou 3alayhi wa sallam get use to say; "I am the most who deserve the friendship/alliance with Eissa son of Mariam". peace upon them all.. so if someone should celebrate the event of the birth of the Christ Eissa/3issa son of Mariam (peace upon them and on our prophet) then it must be us.

Peace upon the Messiah/christ son of Mariam and upon all the world. and peace upon you(Assalaamou 3alaikoum) :)

answered 387116 inclined2truth's gravatar image

@inclined2truth....Wa alaikum mo Salam..Thank you for additional knowledge and information...yes, it must be us to celebrate the birth of Essa(a.s). But we muslims must to follow the sunnah of prophet Muhammad(s.a.w.s)(the Last prophet of humankind) for us to be guided. He didn't celebrate even his birth days days neither the Muslim celebrate his birth days.

I am the only Muslim in my family since I get married to my Muslim husband,Alhamdulillah. I ask to everyone please dawah for my friend and my family. May Allah(swt) soften their heart and be guided to Islam,inshallah . Amen. May Allah(swt) blessed them knowledge/understanding of Islam. Amen.

answered 153 moonlight's gravatar image

Ameen sister and alaikum el salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatouh. may Allah soften and expand their heart by a ray of His light which will guide them to Islam(the religion which is chosen by Allah for His servants).. and may Allah guide us the Sirat-al Moustaquim(the straight path).. and may Allah let you be a reason for guiding them to Islam. and salaam

(Dec 26 '13 at 14:48) inclined2truth inclined2truth's gravatar image
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