Aoa I have been practicing Islam for a year and a half... Allhamdulillah I acknowledge I am muslim and married a wonderful man. Allah has been kind to me.My husband is living in Uk to make a living for his family. He has a daughter from previous marriage and has full custody. For diverse circumstances the little girl must live in his parents household in Pakistan where she is being well taken carw of. Distance is too far, he can only visit her once a year. My husband has gone through so much turmoil with his previous marriage and at the moment is not able to have me with him nor emotionally nor financially. I am currently at my parents home in America for the holidays, also came to renovate my foreign visas. My question is, what are my duties towards his child?, what advice can you please give me to be patient towards my husband? how long should I wait for him to sort out situation and we are finaly together?, should I be with him or should I take care of his child in other country and for how long? who am I more dutiful towards, my husband that lives in Uk or his child that lives in pakistan? Thank you,
i am happy for you and sorry to hear about your husband's past situation. to answer your questions:
Q1) what are my duties towards his child?,
You should speak to the child by phone, and when the child is with you, treat her like your own. For the child, you are the new mother, and she will want to fell wanted and loved by you. Also, loving the girl will increase your husbands love for you. THe Prophe (saw) used to look after the Orphans - and has said that the person who looks after the orphan will be very close to him. A parentless child is in many ways like an orphan.
Q2) What advice can you please give me to be patient towards my husband? Just love him, dont get angry with him, and listen to him. And remember that انّ اللہ مع الصابرین - Allah is with those people who are patient.
Q3)how long should I wait for him to sort out situation and we are finaly together?
If the situation is likely to get sorted out, you should wait. If it is going on for too long, and you need his companionship, you will have to ask him to bring you to him, or leave him so you can carry on with your life.
Q4) should I be with him or should I take care of his child in other country and for how long? who am I more dutiful towards, my husband that lives in Uk or his child that lives in pakistan?
You are not responsible for his child - he is. Thus, you do not need to go to Pakistan and look after the child, nor do you need to bring the child to America. However, if you choose to do that and he agrees, then that is a source of reward for you.