My boyfriend is muslim and I'm not and he wants me to get an abortion. We didn't plan to have a baby but I don't want to get an abortion I would rather adopt the baby to another family. He says it would be haram because we aren't married. He says he would hate me if I adopted it but he would still love me if I got an abortion. He says he isn't ready for kids but rather keep it than adopt it but I don't want to keep it. I feel really bad about the whole situation but I don't think I would ever forget that I had an abortion but he is scared about adopting it and being haram I told him that he doesn't need to tell anyone but he said he would feel bad if he has a kid in the world and it belongs to someone else. I don't want him to get in trouble because of haram but I don't want to get an abortion but I would if i had to so I was wondering if I'm doing a bad thing for him or what other muslim people would do in this situation?

asked 101 Grace1's gravatar image
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i'm not a muslim, so i don't know much about their crazy rules. i do know that fornication outside marriage is haram. so your boyfriend has already sinned. for him to speak of a child being haram because it was conceived out of wedlock makes no sense. the haram act is already done. and i've never understood anyone's logic when they would rather kill a baby then give it up for adoption. so he would rather kill the kid then "feel bad". sounds to me like your boy is a self absorbed a-hole.

you are the one making the sacrifice in carrying the baby to term. good for you. give it up for adoption.

(Feb 14 at 13:36) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

If your not muslim you don't go to islam.com … No muslim would go to ..: christian.com or atheist.com … you must really not have a life. May god guide us all. You have obviously come a long way to enter this forum vs a muslim who would not even consider visiting your type of websites. Maybe your full of hate, maybe your confused and looking for the truth, either way: don't misguide people who are seeking for the truth.

(Feb 14 at 20:42) AdulAllah alwahid AdulAllah%20alwahid's gravatar image

If you know you can't take care of it then abort it.still a sin but a lesser sin.it's a bigger sin bringing a living being to this world and Not being able to take of it.make sure it's before 3 months because The light has not entered the baby therefore it's not living yet.I suggest keeping it but if u guys cant take care of him or her abort it .

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answered 453 Abdul%20Wahid's gravatar image

@Abdul Wahid, let me remind you for reminding profits the believers. A muslim is one who follows the itteebah of the Rasul saws nothing else. Meaning we do things the way he did it or said to do it. Never do we interject our own qiyas into Allah azza wal jall perfected way. You made a dangerous statement and you presented no textual proof for your statement. You called the sister to misguidance. Never is it correct to abort a child,especially from fear of not being able to take care of it. Allah is Ar Razaq the provider. The child would be considered a child of the matteress. Salaam

(Feb 14 at 12:03) yaqin ♦ yaqin's gravatar image

Abortion is not an option in islam you cannot abort a child, abortion is considered haram, it is like taking the life of another human being. Source:http://www.islamawareness.net/FamilyPlanning/Abortion/abortion3.html The Qur'an clearly disapproves of killing other humans: “Take not life which Allah has made sacred” (6:151; see also 4:29 “If a man kills a believer intentionally, his recompense is Hell, to abide therein (for ever)” (4:93). Allah (SWT) went even further, making unlawful killing of a single individual human being equal to mass murder of the whole of mankind: "Because of that, We ordained for the children of Israel that if anyone killed a person not in retaliation for murder or for spreading mischief on earth, it would be as if he killed all mankind. And who saved a life, it would be as if he saved all mankind." (Al-Maidah, 5:32)

As to whether abortion is a form of killing a human, the Qur'an does not make any explicit statements. Only Surah 17:31 warns believers in general: “Kill not your children for fear of want. We shall provide sustenance for them as well as for you. Verily the killing of them is a great sin.”

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answered 13 TaniaS's gravatar image

Pls do not abort ur baby no matter the condition. If ur boy frend is not ready to be a father,den he shouldn't hv had sex with u if u abort the baby u will become a murder nd u might destroy ur womb or even loose ur life nd beside u don't no if the child u ar expecting has a great future ahead of him/her so plssss don't kill dat innocent baby u nd ur boy frend should find a solution to ur problem other than abortion.

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answered 153 asmau1996's gravatar image

You have made a mistake. However thinking of the faith of the child is not up to you. Allah has allowed you to get pregnant, so remember that its a test. Either you will fail, or you will pass. The sister above has stated nothing but the truth alhamdullilah.

''Abortion is not an option in islam you cannot abort a child, abortion is considered haram, it is like taking the life of another human being. Source:http://www.islamawareness.net/FamilyPlanning/Abortion/abortion3.html The Qur'an clearly disapproves of killing other humans: “Take not life which Allah has made sacred” (6:151; see also 4:29 “If a man kills a believer intentionally, his recompense is Hell, to abide therein (for ever)” (4:93). Allah (SWT) went even further, making unlawful killing of a single individual human being equal to mass murder of the whole of mankind: "Because of that, We ordained for the children of Israel that if anyone killed a person not in retaliation for murder or for spreading mischief on earth, it would be as if he killed all mankind. And who saved a life, it would be as if he saved all mankind." (Al-Maidah, 5:32)

As to whether abortion is a form of killing a human, the Qur'an does not make any explicit statements. Only Surah 17:31 warns believers in general: “Kill not your children for fear of want. We shall provide sustenance for them as well as for you. Verily the killing of them is a great sin.''

It is not for you to worry how the child will live as its only allah who is the planner.

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answered 403 AdulAllah%20alwahid's gravatar image

First there is this grave sin of zina (any sexual relationship be it girlfriend & boyfriend, other than wife & husband). You must repent for this. This is no 1 sin in Holy Quran.

Secondly, there are differing opinions on the abortion. This is based on the question "when is the baby fully functional?" But I wouldn't recommend abortion unless its medical reasons.

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answered 2466 abdul_wasay's gravatar image

You say your boyfriend is muslim and wants you to have an abortion. He is wrong for what he says to you. You should let him know. He probably is scared of the consequences of his deeds. Have the baby and do what you will do. No abortion! And please help your boyfriend to be true to his religion.

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