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So I know this is bad and I know I'm going I To get judged and I know most people are going to say how taking my age in thought I don't know what I'm saying or doing but I'd just kindly like to point out I'm sure of what I want and I'm aware of my mistakes I also know where I've gone wrong and that I'll need to repent so here goes

I'm 14 almost 15 yes I'm still a teen and I have or had a boyfriend.. We've broke up twice once before because his parents found out and once now because his parents found out, the last time his parents found out and we broke up I told him I respect his parents and we shouldn't date we should sorta wait (let me point out he isn't and wasn't using me for any physical activity I know this because despite that we have kissed and what not he didn't make a move till really later on and he didn't get over me when I don't speak to him for over a month also I am his first girlfriend and his first crush, he's 2 years older than me btw) so yh I told him we should wait but we still kept contact and somehow ended up going out again, now when his parents found out his mum didn't take it lightly and he really loves his parents so we both decided to split, he had been actin really odd with me but he's spoken to other girls, not flirting just talking but the girl he'd been talking to dislikes me and I dislike her and she has filled his head with a bunch of lies and now I'm scared I'll lose him I don't want to lose him because to some people a simple kiss might not be all big but in my eyes we've done a bit to much to just forget it now, I'm willing to do anything pray or anything to make sure he's in my future the halal way, his mum wasn't to happy after knowing what we had going on and don't think she's a fan of me but all we both know at the moment is we actually love each other a lot, if I were in my 20s then without a doubt we would have gotten engaged but I'm still very young at the moment please help me tell me how I can ask Allah (swt) for this one guy and I know he's right for me because ever since we broke up I've been getting closer to Allah (swt) looking at articles and prayers such as israkara

Honestly if you're going to say your still a child oh know nothing and stuff then please just don't it's bad as it is and I've started to feel physically sick at how I got close to someone before marriage if I could I would change it so I made sure I never opened up to him till later on but I can't and I know I love him as I've had a bf before him which wasn't for long I promise and we didn't do anythin but when we broke up I was upset for a day or two then normal straight after but with him when we broke up the first time i was just in the shitest of moods for over a week till the day we got back.

I'm not going to get back with him because I respect his parents and if they said they want us both well away and stuff then I do want that but however I want to be with him in future and I know he does too but it's really hard right now we're extremely confused and hurt and just in a shit state please please please help us and please please please pray that we are together in future as i will never be able to allow another male into my life please pray for those that do I will pray to god to give you Jannat ul firdhous

Please please please pray we end up together please involve me your Muslim sister in your prayers please I'll be forever thankful thankyou

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closed Jan 17 at 16:05 Bibi Amina ♦ 63628 Bibi%20Amina's gravatar image

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(Jan 17 at 16:05) Bibi Amina ♦ Bibi%20Amina's gravatar image

Salaam Alaiykum,Dear Sister, no I will not judge you, nor should anyone else as there is only one judge, but I will advise you to fear Him as He is all aware of what each and every one of us do.

No judgement will be passed here but some sound advice as a fellow Muslim is all that will be given. First of all, you need to follow Allah’s path and if you do this, the best of outcomes will surely come to pass. This is what you want as the one whom Allah Subhana wa Ta’ala guides, surely, none will be misguided.

You will be following Allah’s path when you stop contact with boys/young men. This is not permitted in Islam and for very good reasons. If you are seeking Allah Subhana wa Ta’ala’s blessings, then you must adhere to His laws and guidance. It is a good sign that you are making the effort to be closer to Allah Subhana wa Ta’ala so keep praying, repent for the previous contacts with boys and be sincere about it by stopping.

Become regular in prayers and ask Allah Subhana wa Ta’ala for His blessings. You really don’t know what the future holds but do you really need to when you place your trust in Allah Subhana wa Ta’ala? Put your trust in Allah Subhana wa Ta’ala and miracles will unfold. Sometimes even when we feel that something is not going the way we want it to be, there is wisdom behind it but you must learn patience. Allah Subhana wa Ta’ala always hears our prayers so be consistent.

You are definitely doing the right thing by respecting the boy’s parents’ wishes. If there is any chance of any future with this boy, then be cautious. I wish you all the best through my duaa. Salaam

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Thankyou so so much, you don't understand how much your advice has helped to calm me down thankyou! I would also like to know is there any way I can stop cutting? I even tried hijama (cupping) to stop but I seem to always cut how can I stop ? And how do I repent?

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