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I will relate to you my story so you will grasp what I am saying more clearly: when I was 16 I always had this dream to be hafiz (not for fame,not for respect, just for Allah, believe me). So I memorised 2 juz myself without a teacher. But there were so many problems primarily due to my mother. She created a big fuss that "I would become a 'maulvi'; she threatened me that I am forcing her to throw Quran out of the house; on another occasion she discussed how ashamed she was of me that I used to be a normal boy (playful in that context) in front of my grandparents and aunts, then I cried but my granddad consoled me; she flared whenever she heard my Quran recitation saying that I was showing off (I tried to recite in as much solitude as possible to avoid this misunderstanding as my father also blamed me that it was due to my showing off that she was mad, by Allah's purest name he knows my intention); when I got my O level result ABB she said it was my fault for being too distracted by memorizing the Quran. I cried sometimes and held my faith. Then at one point I became scared and left memorizing. I always avoided even reciting Quran. Can you believe it I left Quran for 4 years?

Now here I am and just last week Saturday I got myself a teacher (I guess Allah listened to me and gave me the right moment) and I have again started memorizing Quran with proper Tajweed (20-15 ayah's in one hour, and I presumed my memory had declined with age) and I thank Allah he brought me back to the book. My heart literally ached without it (I am not sure why).

But whenever I recite Quran now and my mother appears, I put Quran away. Thats why I got hifz-e-quran lessons (online) in the morning when parents sleep.

Dad did nothing but at least he didn't speak ill.

I don't know if I should recit openly? Because if I do they get 'distrubed' so morning is the best time. I try memorizing out of my gaze of my mother. Should I keep reciting and memorizing like this? Should I stop cause paradise is under feet of my mother?

Answer please as I am not sure if i should even recite at home esp in front of my mother.

asked 8588 abdul_wasay's gravatar image

My dear brother, thank you for your question.

The answer is quite obvious. You should memorize the Quran, and also you must do it in secret away from your mother. THis is a SMART choice I think, because then you accomplish both inshaAllah!

Your mother and her reaction is a test from Allah, dear brother. In this test, you either succeed and become of high rank or you fail. So be very careful.

Read this quote: if you find them unfair, remember their favours upon you when you were weak and young, and they nurtured you and took care of you. How can you be angry at them after everything that they did for you? How can you expect them to be fair when you yourself are unfair to yourself and to them? [A reminder to myself first and foremost].

answered 1856 IbnFaruque's gravatar image

IN THE NAME OF GOD!salam.The Quran says:17- Thy Lord hath decreed, that ye worship none save Him, and (that ye show) kindness to parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age with thee, say not "Fie" unto them nor repulse them, but speak unto them a gracious word. ( 23 )And lower unto them the wing of submission through mercy, and say: My Lord! Have mercy on them both as they did care for me when I was little. ( 24 )۞ وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِنْدَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُلْ لَهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُلْ لَهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا ( 23 ) وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُلْ رَبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا ( 24 )...Man served the Holy Prophet (SAW) and said: I have aging parents who do not want to fight me because I'm familiar with, the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said: Before your parents stay, swear to die at the hands of his one-day loss they're better than last year's war. (Of course, if the objective of jihad is not obligatory). Bihar al-Anwar, Volume 74 page 52... Imam Sadiq said: "The Prophet Moses (pbuh) used to pray to God, one can see that the shadow of the throne of God, the Lord is the one who asked what was under the shadow of thy throne? God said: It is he who is good to his parents. "Bihar al-Anwar, vol 71, p 65"...Moses said to God: "Lord, where is my martyred like to say? The Lord said to hell! Moses said to God, have not you promise yourself that you're enjoying the martyrs to heaven? Said the Lord, but it was a damn parents and my parents do not accept any action from the curse. "Mstdrk Alvsayl, vol 15, p 195..Imam Sadiq said: His own Prophet PBUH & HP came and asked the Prophet! To whom do good? Said the mother. He asked: Then who? Said the mother. Again he asked: Then who? Said the mother. Again asked: Then who? Said the father.Almhjh Albyza’, vol 3, p 434....

answered 3018 persiangulf1666's gravatar image

This is answer is full of quotations relating to parents. But have you addressed the problem? No, you are lacking explanation here.

So you are saying I should forget Quran because my mother thinks it will make me a saint? Please use sense when answering thank you.

May Allah forgive me if I have said anything wrong (Ameen).

(Jan 30 at 13:56) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

IN THE NAME OF GOD!SALAM .Respect for parents is necessary. But hafiz the Qur'an is recommended(مستحب). Try to secretly Qur'an memorization.Slow and without sound side.Quran will help you. Than God, I wish you success.

(Jan 31 at 09:11) persiangulf1666 persiangulf1666's gravatar image
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