I am married from last 2 years. My wife is converted muslim and she was having a girl before from his husband. Her parents never gave her nothing, even hardly they call us or come to see us. I have one sister and we are making stuff for her as she is going to marry soon. My wife is jelous and saying every time why she have this, why your parents are making gold set clothes etc. i told her if my parents are doing this what is your problem. She is saying why she(wife) do not have these things. And why my parents are not making these stuff for me. She said why we have to work and earn and why your sister can have everything for nothing. I said we live in a culture where parents are making stuff for their daughter. And i love my siblings You shouldnt be getting jelous but she is giving bad comment on my sister, which really stress me out. Please advice me because things are getting worse. I do not wanna argue with her, because it will lead to fight. I told my wife my parents done as much they can do for me. Now turn for my brothers and sisters. my family really loves her and my kids,but i really do not know why she is everytime behaving like this. even my family ignoring her this behaviour as well. but i am worry how long they will do it... please advice..
My dear brother,
What you are facing is perhaps a common problem I think. Be patient with your wife. Treat your wife as the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wasalam) treated his wives.
Reflect on the following hadiths that mentions jealousy:
Narrated Anas: While the Prophet was in the house of one of his wives, one of the mothers of the believers sent a meal in a dish. The wife at whose house the Prophet was, struck the hand of the servant, causing the dish to fall and break. The Prophet gathered the broken pieces of the dish and then started collecting on them the food which had been in the dish and said, "Your mother (my wife) felt jealous." Then he detained the servant till a (sound) dish was brought from the wife at whose house he was. He gave the sound dish to the wife whose dish had been broken and kept the broken one at the house where it had been broken. (Sahih Bikhari)
Please read the 'Sunnah of Love' http://muslimmatters.org/2011/10/28/yahya-ibrahim-the-sunnah-of-love/