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I passed my first exam but due to technical difficulties with the department I had to give that 4 months later. Now she starts bickering that I wasted time, I booked exam late, I have other children of my own to look after, you are a curse etc.

Now my exam is 2 weeks off from now and I manage to pull off with grace Allah in last days very frequently XD

But now she says that lessons I take with Quran hifz teacher is of no use. My Quran is of no avail. She even said: "cure on me, islam, and Quran, because of you I don't like Islam". She said I play games in the morning. Brother, by Allah I memorize Quran in morning and play games to refresh myself and then get back to it. I even decided to delete my games today. But what is Allah testing? Should I really throw away the Quran in my heart? Throw away my prayers? She says to get out of her life and such. I even decided not to reply back to parents to change myself for more deen. But the test is harder or I am just a failure in life. I can't focus on studies anymore cause of this.

Back in my own country she even threatened to throw away Quran saying that I am the one forcing her to do it.

She says that she will send me to Dar-ul-slam etc institutions as I am not a normal kid. She also says its ok to infatuate with females.

I have noticed one thing though: with memorizing Quran curses are a test from a mother? She says she is Muslim: read it once in life, does need prayers because she helps people. But if I do both then I am on error? Can't I pray and help?

asked 8638 abdul_wasay's gravatar image
edited Feb 15 at 10:28

Huge, Amazing, Unbelievable Reward!!

Whoever memorizes Qur’aan and acts upon it, Allaah will reward him and honour him greatly for that, so that he will rise in status in Paradise to a level commensurate with what he memorized of the Book of Allaah.

Al-Tirmidhi (2914) and Abu Dawood (1464) narrated from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Amr that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “It will be said to the companion of the Qur’aan: Recite and rise in status, recite as you used to recite in the world, for your status will be at the last verse that you recite.” This hadeeth was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, 5/218, no. 2240, after which he said:

Note that what is meant by the “companion of the Qur’aan” is the one who memorizes it by heart, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “The one who knows more Qur’aan should lead the people in prayer,” meaning the one who has memorized the most. The differentiation in status in Paradise will depend on how much was memorized in this world, not how much one will recite on that day as some people imagine. This clearly points to the virtue of the hafiz who has memorized the Qur’aan, but that is subject to the condition that he memorizes it for the sake of Allaah, not for worldly purposes or financial gain. Otherwise the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Most of the hypocrites of my ummah are among those who have memorized Qur’aan.

Concerning the virtue of the hafiz who memorizes the Qur’aan, al-Bukhaari (4937) narrated from ‘Aa’ishah that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The likeness of the one who reads Qur’aan and memorizes it is that he is with the righteous honourable scribes. The likeness of the one who reads it and tries hard to memorize it even though it is difficult for him, he will have two rewards.

For the hafiz who has memorized the Qur’aan, praying qiyaam al-layl is easy. And the Qur’aan will intercede for him on the Day of Resurrection, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Fasting and the Qur’aan will intercede for a person on the Day of Resurrection. Fasting will say, ‘O Lord, I deprived him of food and desires during the day, so let me intercede for him.’ The Qur’aan will say, ‘O Lord I deprived him of his sleep at night, so let me intercede for him.’ Then they will both intercede for him.” Narrated by Ahmad, al-Tabaraani and al-Haakim; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 3882

And Allaah knows best.

It should be noted here that there is a weak (da’eef) hadeeth that is quoted concerning the virtue of memorizing Qur’aan. This hadeeth says, “The bearer of the Qur’aan, if he regards what it permits as halaal and what it forbids as haraam, he will intercede for ten of his family members on the Day of Resurrection, all of whom deserved to enter Hell.” This was narrated by al-Bayhaqi in Shu’ab al-Eemaan (The Branches of Faith) from Jaabir; it was classed as da’eef by al-Albaani in Da’eef al-Jaami’.

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answered 1856 IbnFaruque's gravatar image
edited Feb 16 at 02:44

AssalamuAlaikum brother in Islam,

Thank you for your question.

OK I understand your situation, and I can tell you that Allah Subhanahu wataAla is giving you the opportunity of great reward and gifts. When your mother mistreats you, and you remain patient and treat her back with good conduct, Allah rewards you for this. And Allah is Generous in reward and Allah does not let the reward of good ever be wasted.

Perhaps it is this very patience for which Allah will be especially pleased with you on the day of judgement. Perhaps you would find Allah to be so pleased with you because of your sabr that He saves you from Jahannam and grants you Jannah. Perhaps it is this patience that will be the cause of your tears of joy when you read your book on al yawm al qiyamah. Perhaps you can die thinking that there is this secret good deed that you did with which you will meet Allah, and it is your patience and good behaviour with your mother.

I must warn you about something, and that is do not get angry at your mother. Do not express your anger towards her. This is very important. Do you understand brother? No matter what you must not express your anger towards your mother.

The moment she starts her anger, do not retaliate. Go away. Do wudu. If you are stading sit down, if sitting down lie down. Say Aozobillah. Remember the opportunity and door of reward Allah has opened for you when you meet unfair treatment.

May Allah make you of the righteous and grant you high ranks of Jannah because of your patience and sabr. Ameen.

answered 1856 IbnFaruque's gravatar image
edited Feb 15 at 11:04

Allah informs us:

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And not equal are the good deed and the bad. Repel [evil] by that [deed] which is better; and thereupon the one whom between you and him is enmity [will become] as though he was a devoted friend.

alt text But none is granted it except those who are patient, and none is granted it except one having a great portion [of good]. --

(Surah Fussilat. 41:34-35). The ayat here is talking about your enemies, so imagine what might be the case if you applied the same thing to your mother who loves you, and even if she might get angry with you, desires the best for you!

Allah has spoken the truth! Dont you believe in the Quran? If you do, then believe in these words, apply them, and inshaAllah see your life change.

answered 1856 IbnFaruque's gravatar image


Role reversal here- your mother should be the one teaching you here. I know this is a sensitive issue and she is your mother, but it does not mean that she is always right. Stay on the right path you are following, because you know you are right, and your imaan is strong, so why fear? And pray to Allah asking forgiveness on behalf of your mother, and if possible teach her, show her the greatness of Islam and the importance of prayer. And never think of yourself as a failure in life because of this, because you are not, you are successful that other people out there who despite being muslims do not follow their religion accordingly. And you know that following Islam and seeking help from Allah will only grant you success in life :) I can see that this is a very hard situation for you, but you have to stay strong and always keep your imaan strong, and pray to Allah to solve the dispute between you and your mother. Stay strong. Persevere with your studies and prayer, maybe if it is getting too difficult- move away from home- live in campus or something. Focus. Pray. Meditate. May Allah guide you on the correct path, and may you pass your exams and be a successful person, inshallah :)

answered 152 Curiosity_Islam's gravatar image

I like Allah, Propher Muhammad (his hadith) (Pbuh) Quran and Islam. If there was no profession in world brother, honestly I would ponder on Quran my whole life.

answered 8638 abdul_wasay's gravatar image

Do want is best for you brother. Always be kind and just walk away. Protect yourself and religion by the company that you keep, keep you mind clear, and stay away from anything that would contradict your well being. Don't listen to the fitnah and do not respond. Walk away. May Allah bless you and reward you and grant you comfort, understanding, and peace. Ameen.

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